I got designer vagina surgery after my ex said it was the ‘worst he had ever seen’ — now sex is agonizing
A woman’s ex pressured her to get “designer vagina” surgery and now she’s unable to have sex because it’s too painful.
Vanesa Vaughn, from Melbourne, Australia, now 47, said that when she was in her 20s, one of her exes told her that her vagina was the “worst he had ever seen,” Kennedy News reported.
The comments from her ex made her self-conscious and she started comparing herself to porn stars whose vaginas were more “neatly tucked in.”
“I thought I must be abnormal,” she lamented.
“I first became aware … when I was around 25 or 26. I had a boyfriend at the time who commented on my vulva and after he mentioned that I became more conscious of it,” she explained.
She said her ex-partner’s comments combined with being cheated on by a former spouse made her feel insecure.
“Because my ex had cheated on me with other people, I instantly thought back to what that boyfriend had said to me in my 20s and thought that must be why,” she said.
“Him cheating made me think there must be something wrong with me. So I began researching plastic surgery,” she added.
In June of 2020, Vaughn sought out a vaginal surgery called a labiaplasty, which ended up costing her $3,500.
She said the doctor took about an inch more of skin than he originally said he would, leaving her in utter “agony.” She told him she just wanted her skin to be “trimmed” not “all gone.”
“I could feel a lot of tugging and I didn’t know what was happening. He kept saying he was clamping my labia. He didn’t let the skin fall naturally — he cut off more than he should have because he stretched it and clamped it,” she detailed of her experience.
“I specifically said I only wanted the edges to be taken off — nothing beyond that. When he was using the laser, I could smell my skin burning in the room and could see the smoke,” she said.
The pain she felt after surgery was debilitating — and the nightmare didn’t end there.
“I could hardly walk, it was burning like I’d never experienced,” she said.
“I went home and I was icing it from morning until evening because it was constantly burning. I gave it a week to recover but I was still in a lot of pain,” she lamented.
She said that around three weeks after the surgery, she noticed that her vulva, the outside of the vagina which includes the clitoris and labia, was puffy and swollen.
“It looked like the stitches were going to pop,” she said.
“He had fused my labia majora into the entrance of my vagina. I couldn’t see any labia minora. He had removed the flesh to the bone,” she added.
She realized her surgery was botched. He not only removed her labia minor, but he also removed the hood of her clitoris, leaving her “extremely sensitive.”
“I wanted to believe with all my heart that it wasn’t botched. I was waiting for that part of my body to die — I was so scared it was going to happen,” she said.
“I was getting UTIs every second month after that because there was no barrier — there was no labia minora to protect the germs from getting in.”
She’s since married a 26-year-old man named Ajay, but she’s still suffering through pain.
“Inserting tampons is very difficult and sex is still very painful every time,” she said.
Vaughn later sued the plastic surgeon and got a six-figure settlement, but it doesn’t change the pain she’s in of the fact she may not be able to have a child.
“I want to have a baby one day, but the thought of pushing a child out my vagina is so daunting. I don’t know how I could do it now,” she explained.
Vaughn is now raising awareness of the dangers of having a labiaplasty and is encouraging women to love themselves as they are. She’s posted videos detailing the ordeal to her TikTok, where she goes by Vanesa V, that have tacked up thousands of views.
“I regret this surgery so much. There was nothing wrong with me. Labia is just skin,” she said.
“There’s absolutely nothing wrong with having excess skin. The complications you can come across with having surgery are far greater than just having longer labia. I think they should completely eradicate this surgery.
“At the end of the day, it’s just skin.”