#FOMO is bad, but #MODRI is worse.
With the former, your fear might be misplaced: you might learn that the event you didn’t attend wasn’t all that special.
But MODRI? – Missed Out and Deeply Regretting It? – that’s painful! So I’m apologizing in advance. But also offering a solution.
If you were unable to attend The Visible Women Conference convened by Bibigi Haile, MSc. in Montreal last week, you missed a truly transformative experience.
Because it was such a success and tickets for #VWC2025 are already on sale, in addition to sharing some of my own take-aways, I’ll post the link to next year’s event in the comments section below so you can act on FOMO and avoid MODRI next year.
I had the enviable opening keynote spot, which meant once I'd shared my stories and research, poetry and calls to action with the very generous audience, I got to relax, feel seen and be inspired by everyone else.
I laughed and cried, took copious notes, made amazing connections, and was unable to sleep at night from the over-stimulation.
Just before lunch on the first day, Bibi moderated a panel discussion featuring three powerhouse women who shared thoughtful, funny, inspiring advice about their own visibility journeys.
Leslie Quinton advised that “If you differ from the dominant culture in some way, you’re already visible, so own the space, take your stand.”
Working in male-dominated industries like engineering and video gaming, she has often been under-estimated – until she opens her mouth.
So yes, speaking up is critical, because sharing your insights demonstrates your value. (You can see why we love having her on our board!)
Tamara Close, CFA talked about the power of pro-active thought leadership, becoming a subject matter expert and then sharing your insights (a notion fundamental to Informed Opinions’ existence).
She also advised “Sometimes you just have to ask [for the promotion, opportunity, salary increase]. Because we’re not living in a meritocracy. They’re not googling ‘best person’!” (Clearly, we’re also aligned!)
And Caroline Codsi, IAS.A., ICD.D. put fear of failure into stark perspective: “When you’ve lived through 15 years of civil war," she noted, "calling up a CEO to say ‘will you sponsor my gala?’" is not intimidating!
In response to haters, Leslie practises radical empathy that permits her to disregard the attack: “That person is hurt or messed up in some way. Their comments are not about me.”
For her part, Caroline talks back to trolls. By doing so, politely but firmly, she gives other people both permission to, and ideas for how to push back themselves. (A role model after my own heart!)
More to come about inspiration from Kahsennenhawe Sky-Deer Sarah Bettman, CPCC, ORSC-C, MBA Helene Blanchette, Rohene Bouajram ⚡️ Bianca B. King Kristin Carver Smith Katharine Evans Rachelle Houde Simard Sarah Lang (MA, PCC, CPCC) Chelsea O'Meara Michaella Mutoni-Dorvlo, MBA Nicole Piggott Violeta Rangel E., CAIA, SCR Sandra Sezirahiga