Dec 30, 2024

10 things you should NOT talk about on a first date

Teesha Shirodkar

First date don’ts

First dates can be thrilling yet nerve-wracking, filled with excitement and the potential for long lasting connection. You want to impress while also being your authentic self. However, some conversation topics can be tricky and is best left off the table.

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​Talking about your exes

Talking negatively about your ex-partners can make you seem bitter and unresolved. Instead, focus on the positive aspects of your life and what you’re looking forward to in a new relationship. For example, "I’ve learned a lot from my past relationships, and I’m excited to start fresh."

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​Talking only about yourself

Constantly talking about yourself without showing interest in your date can be off-putting. Aim for a balanced conversation. You might say, "I love hiking; what about you? What are your hobbies?" This encourages sharing and connection.

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​Talking about your work life and flexing salary

Bragging about your job or salary can come off as arrogant. Focus on shared interests instead. If the topic cmes up, you could mention, "I enjoy my job because it allows me to be creative, what do you love about yours?"

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​Revealing your deepest insecurities

Sharing insecurities on first date may be a bit too much, and is also risky on how the other person can use it to build a perspectove of yours. It can also make the conversation heavy and uncomfortable. Keep things light-hearted and fun.

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Political and religious beliefs

These controversial topics can lead to heated debates so it’s best to steer clear of them initially. Instead, you might say, "I enjoy hearing different perspectives, what do you think about current events in general?"

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​Shaming your date’s food choices

Criticising or making fun of your date's food choices can be rude and unkind. Instead, show interest in the differences in taste and their choices. Be open to try their favourite dishes and be polite even if you do not like it.

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​Comments about age

Making remarks about age can be sensitive and awkward. Avoid this topic to keep things comfortable. Never say things like “Oh so your biological clock is ticking!” or “You’re this old and you have not tried this”

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​Discussing your sexual history

Discussing intimate details about your past can create discomfort and may come off as too forward. Keep the conversation light and fun instead like, "I believe in taking things at a comfortable pace; let’s just enjoy getting to know each other."

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​Delving into past traumas

Bringing up heavy topics like trauma can create an awkward atmosphere. Save these discussions for when you know each other better. You could say, "I’ve had some challenges, but I prefer to focus on the positives right now."

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​Health issues (unless relevant)

Discussing health problems can be too personal for a first date unless absolutely necessary like food allergies. Focus on lighter subjects instead. For instance, say stuff like "I try to eat healthily, do you have any favourite dishes that are both tasty and nutritious?"

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