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8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go Kindle Edition
Nobody sits us down and teaches us how to love. So we’re often thrown into relationships with nothing but romance movies and pop culture to help us muddle through. Until now.
Instead of presenting love as an ethereal concept or a collection of cliches, Jay Shetty lays out specific, actionable steps to help you develop the skills to practice and nurture love better than ever before. He shares insights on how to win or lose together, how to define love, and why you don’t break in a break-up. Inspired by Vedic wisdom and modern science, he tackles the entire relationship cycle, from first dates to moving in together to breaking up and starting over. And he shows us how to avoid falling for false promises and unfulfilling partners.
By living Jay Shetty’s eight rules, we can all love ourselves, our partner, and the world better than we ever thought possible.
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherSimon & Schuster
- Publication dateJanuary 31, 2023
- File size7898 KB
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“An excellent guide to rising in love to joy and fulfillment.” —Deepak Chopra
“In this insightful, myth-shattering book, Jay Shetty combines ancient wisdom and modern science to show how we can find -- in ourselves and others -- the love we all deserve.”—Lori Gottlieb
"Jay's ability to write with such truth and wisdom when it comes to love and life is masterful. Somehow a topic that has always felt larger than I could handle now feels within reach. This book left me feeling confident and clear about how to move through Love with grace." —Shawn Mendes
"Jay’s great book provides real and heartfelt solutions to the complex problems that arise around love. I wish I’d been able to read it when I was young and chasing love and I’m grateful I’ve read it now - you will be too." —Russell Brand
"This is not a book of pick up lines or dos and don'ts of dating. 8 Rules of Love is honest and filled with wisdom I've never encountered before. The next time you're tempted to ask your hot mess friend for relationship advice, pick this book up instead." —Lilly Singh
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- ASIN : B0B918SBSJ
- Publisher : Simon & Schuster (January 31, 2023)
- Publication date : January 31, 2023
- Language : English
- File size : 7898 KB
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- Print length : 319 pages
- Page numbers source ISBN : B0BV6PVN9G
- Best Sellers Rank: #64,037 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
- #46 in Marriage & Long-Term Relationships
- #91 in Love & Romance (Kindle Store)
- #150 in Happiness
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About the author
Author Jay Shetty aims to elevate us from the negativity, anxiety, and hopelessness of today’s
world in his book THINK LIKE A MONK: Train Your Mind for Peace and Purpose Every Day, to be
published by Simon and Schuster on April 14. Drawing on both Jay’s experience as a monk in a
Hindu ashram and his post-monk life as an influential thinker and spiritual guide, Think Like a
Monk distills monk wisdom into practical, everyday steps anyone can take to live a less anxious,
more meaningful life.
How can we transform our experience of life today? Jay says, “When I trained as a monk, I
found that monks are able to remain centered and calm amid all the chaos that life throws at
us. Monks are the absolute experts in mastering their minds. I wrote THINK LIKE A MONK in
order to help everyone access the same mindset, the same thinking patterns, the same
processes that help monks find peace, balance, and purpose.”
Like his monk teachers, Jay draws from the Bhagavad Gita, a sacred Indian text based on the
Upanishads, writings from around 800-400 BCE. In a world where people are constantly looking
for answers, Jay believes the wisdom for how to find peace and purpose has been here all
along.
***
Born in north London in 1987, Jay and his sister were raised in a middle-class Indian family.
Until the age of 14, Jay did well in school, stayed out of trouble and tried his best to live up to
his parents’ high expectations. But he was a shy, introverted young boy who was bullied for
being overweight and a little nerdy. When he started secondary school, things changed. He
began playing soccer and rugby, became more popular, and started mixing with the wrong
crowd. Jay’s thrill-seeking ventures got him suspended from school more than once as he tried
to find his identity.
By the time he got to college at Cass Business School in London in 2007, Jay had shifted his
curiosity in more productive directions. He was reading autobiographies of everyone from
Malcolm X to David Beckham, driven to understand the roots of success and making a
difference in the world. Still, when a friend invited him to hear a monk give a talk, he agreed to
go only if his friend would join him at a club afterward.
That night, the monk, Gauranga Das, spoke about the principle of self-sacrifice. He talked about
how people should plant trees under whose shade they do not plan to sit. This was a
transformative moment for Jay. He’d been focused on the success of people who’d gone from
nothing to something—rags-to-riches stories—but this man had done the opposite. And yet he
appeared joyous, confident, and at peace. “He was saying that the greatest thing you can do
with your talents and your skills is to use them in the service of others,” Shetty, now 32, told
People magazine. For Jay, this was a completely new idea of success.
In the community where Jay grew up, it was expected that he would become one of three
things: a doctor, a lawyer, or a failure. When he headed to India to study with monks, his family
was convinced he had chosen option three.
After graduating from college in 2010 with a 1 st class Bachelor of Science degree with Honors in
Behavioral Science, Jay traded his suits for robes, shaved his head, and moved to the ashram,
where he slept on the floor and lived out of a gym locker. Half the day was spent on personal
growth, meditating for hours and studying ancient scriptures. The rest of the time was spent
helping others.
In the course of his studies, Jay was amazed to observe that the wisdom of the monks was as
relevant today as it was when it was first put in writing over 3000 years ago. Then, after three
years as a monk in ashrams in London and Mumbai, one of his teachers told him that he would
have more impact on the world if he left the monk’s path to share his experience and wisdom
with others. This advice was crushing—Jay thought he was going to be a monk for the rest of
his life. In debt, with no employable skills on his resume, he moved back home to north London
with his parents. “Everything I'd learned was tested in that moment,” Jay says of the transition.
“I had to figure out how to put everything I'd learned into practice in the real world.”
Shetty reconnected with old school friends—many working for some of the world’s largest
corporations—who were experiencing tremendous stress, pressure, and unhappiness, and they
invited Shetty to coach them on well-being, purpose, and mindfulness. Jay says, “Very quickly I
realized that a big part of my passion and purpose is to serve and give the wisdom I’ve learned
with others. I started small. For almost a decade I shared my thoughts on psychology,
spirituality, philosophy, and behavioral science at universities, local events, and in small groups
in London. Three years ago I moved to New York, then Los Angeles, and began to present the
wisdom and lessons I had learned from my amazing mentors and coaches online through video.
My intention was to share wisdom with more people so they would see there were other
people out there like them, and it would make a difference. And it did.”
***
Since launching his video channel in 2016, Jay has produced over 400 videos, which have
amassed more than 6.5 billion views and gained over 34 million followers globally. In 2017, he
was named in the Forbes magazine 30-under-30 for being a game-changer in the world of
media. In 2018, he had the #1 video on Facebook with over 360 million views. Jay was the cover
of the November 2019 issue of Adweek and was a People Magazine “one to watch” in
December 2019.
On his podcast, On Purpose, every Monday Jay conducts an hour long interview with a
different inspirational guest. Past guests include Kobe Bryant, Jada Pinkett Smith, Russel Brand,
Novak Djokovic, Khloe Kardashian, and Ray Dalio. Every Friday Jay gives his own guidance on a
topic such as procrastination, confidence, or decision-making.
The podcast, launched in 2019, received 52 million audio downloads in its first year and over
ten million views in podcast videos. It won that year’s Shorty Award for Health and Wellness.
iTunes named On Purpose in their Top New Podcast’s of 2019 and consistently rank Jay as the
#1 Health Podcast. Spotify named Jay the #1 Podcast in India.
Jay’s message has resonated with companies such as Google, L’Oreal, Facebook, Coca Cola,
HSBC, EY, Microsoft and Accenture, who have invited him to lead seminars and deliver keynotes
on finding your purpose in the workplace, well-being for the future, and digital media strategy..
He’s become so much of a cultural phenomenon that he was even asked to portray a version of
himself in the “Bad Boys For Life” trailer with Will Smith and Martin Lawrence.
2020 will bring Jay’s message to a larger audience than ever with the publication of THINK LIKE
A MONK. In the book, Jay draws deeply from ancient wisdom, modern social science, and his
own rich experiences in the ashram to articulate a journey similar to the one he took. He guides
people step-by-step through the process of adapting to the monk mindset, first by letting go—a
cleansing to make space for growth; then by growing—reshaping your life to make decisions
with intention, purpose and confidence; and finally by giving—looking beyond yourself to
deepen gratitude and relationships. He says, “People need to go through experiences to learn,
so the book is full of practical exercises, activities, and experiments. Everything in this book is
something one can actually do in their own time at home, whether in the back of a car, on a
commute, walking the dog, or cooking.” Along the way, Jay proves that everyone can—and
should—think like a monk.
Simon & Schuster will publish the book in the US and Canada, and it will be published in more
than 30 countries worldwide. Simon & Schuster VP and Executive Editor Eamon Dolan says,
“Nobody makes the timeless feel more timely than Jay does. He makes ancient wisdom, which
often comes across as abstract, so clear, so inspiring, and so practical.”
Jay lives in Los Angeles with his wife, Radhi Devlukia Shetty, a plant-based dietitian and
Ayurvedic medicine enthusiast, to whom the book is dedicated. Jay enjoys listening to Drake at
the gym and nature sounds while meditating. He’s a Manchester United fan and really admired
Cristiano Ronaldo’s work ethic and determination on the pitch. Jay and Radhi love eating at
plant-based restaurants, visiting spas, and spending time outdoors cycling and in escape rooms.
“Jay Shetty shows you step by step how Self Power emerges when you shift your identity from
self image to self esteem. This book could change your life and move you from the hypnosis of
social conditioning to being the creative architect of your life journey.”
— Deepak Chopra
“Grab this book, find a comfortable chair, and let Jay Shetty take you on a life-changing journey.
A gifted teacher, Jay guides us with warmth and clarity on a path to greater joy and purpose in
living, offering wisdom that we can put into practice right now. You will want to share it with
everyone you love.”
—Robert Waldinger, MD
Professor of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School
Director, Harvard Study of Adult Development
Sensei and Priest, Boundless Way Zen
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- Reviewed in the United States on December 19, 2024"8 Rules of Love" by Jay Shetty is an exceptional book that offers profound insights into the art of building and maintaining meaningful relationships. Shetty's wisdom and practical advice are both inspiring and actionable, making this book a valuable resource for anyone looking to deepen their connections with others.
The book is beautifully written, blending personal anecdotes with timeless principles that resonate deeply. Shetty's approach is compassionate and relatable, providing readers with the tools to navigate the complexities of love with grace and understanding.
"8 Rules of Love" is a must-read for anyone seeking to enhance their relationships and cultivate a more loving and fulfilling life. Jay Shetty's guidance is both enlightening and empowering, making this book a standout in the realm of personal development.
- Reviewed in the United States on January 4, 2025Bought this book because I read Jay Shetty's first book, "Think Like a Monk," and loved it. Offers a lot of great insight into relationships and even talks about things to think about when it is time to end a relationship. I have been married for 12 years, and this book gave me a lot to think about when it comes to the love I share.
- Reviewed in the United States on November 28, 2024I am not going to delve into the content of the book as each person interprets the contents and how it applies to them individually. I will say it is worth a read if you are considering a long-term relationship. There is quite a bit of content to help you maintain and build a successful relationship. There is also information on when to call it quits. This is a difficult decision but this book helps with some self reflection. Happy reading!
- Reviewed in the United States on October 4, 2023This was bubble wrapped in the packaging, which I really appreciated- it arrived in perfect condition. Some people might not think that's a big deal, but I love books, and like to keep mine looking nice as long as possible! It's a very attractive book without the jacket (see pics), and I think I might prefer it that way.
I thought this would be strictly a reading book, but there seems to be a fair amount of suggestions and exercises...workbook type areas, where the reader needs to either be introspective or provide input to themselves. That's why I've only given 4 stars. Since I just started to jump in, I can't give a review for the entire book (or the process). But I'm very excited to work through it, and so far the writing is very interesting!
This was bubble wrapped in the packaging, which I really appreciated- it arrived in perfect condition. Some people might not think that's a big deal, but I love books, and like to keep mine looking nice as long as possible! It's a very attractive book without the jacket (see pics), and I think I might prefer it that way.
I thought this would be strictly a reading book, but there seems to be a fair amount of suggestions and exercises...workbook type areas, where the reader needs to either be introspective or provide input to themselves. That's why I've only given 4 stars. Since I just started to jump in, I can't give a review for the entire book (or the process). But I'm very excited to work through it, and so far the writing is very interesting!
Images in this review - Reviewed in the United States on December 31, 2024Great book for millennials in understanding relationships.
- Reviewed in the United States on November 23, 2024i enjoy his books good teading
- Reviewed in the United States on May 6, 2024As a reader who values personal growth and meaningful connections, I found **"8 Rules of Love"** to be an insightful and practical guide. Jay Shetty, drawing from ancient wisdom and modern science, offers actionable steps to navigate the complex landscape of romance.
1. **Holistic Approach**: Shetty emphasizes that love isn't just an emotion; it's a daily practice. He encourages readers to explore their own identities, desires, and vulnerabilities. The book includes questionnaires and self-reflection exercises, making it an interactive journey.
2. **Avoiding False Promises**: Shetty debunks common myths about love and relationships. He reminds us that loneliness can lead us astray, pushing us into the wrong relationships or causing us to settle for less than we deserve.
3. **The Relationship Cycle**: From first dates to moving in together, breaking up, and starting over, Shetty covers every stage of romance. His eight rules provide a roadmap for nurturing love, both for ourselves and our partners.
4. **Practical Wisdom**: The author's Vedic-inspired insights are grounded in real-world scenarios. Whether you're single, in a relationship, or healing from heartbreak, you'll find valuable takeaways.
In summary, **"8 Rules of Love"** is more than a book—it's a transformative experience. Shetty's blend of spirituality, psychology, and practical advice offers readers a chance to love authentically and build lasting connections. Highly recommended!
- Reviewed in the United States on September 2, 2024This author is amazing. I listen to his podcast and decided to purchase this book. It definitely gives you a great perspective!
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Andrea VameReviewed in Mexico on January 7, 2024
5.0 out of 5 stars Lectura
Los libros de Jay Shetty son siempre una garantía sì te gusta la superación personal. Me encanto la lectura. Llego en buenas condiciones el envío.
- Aleksandra OndrikReviewed in Germany on December 18, 2024
5.0 out of 5 stars Book with beautiful tipps how to pertain love
Recommend reading if you're wishing to embrace your love in a relationship
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RAPHAELReviewed in Spain on October 26, 2024
5.0 out of 5 stars Ótimo livro
Bom livro ótimo
- SharkyReviewed in Sweden on July 8, 2023
5.0 out of 5 stars Everyone should read it
I love Jay Shetty, this book is so nice to read gives you such a good information.
- PaulinaReviewed in Belgium on May 28, 2023
5.0 out of 5 stars In love with this live book
This book is a must have ! The kind of book you will re-read through different moments of your life and will always teach you something new , optimal for woman , men from all ages !