Here's how you can harness emotional intelligence to master classroom dynamics.

When working with teachers, I often look at a matrix comprised of authority and vulnerability. Too much authority and you don't create authentic relationships; too little, and your students won't respect you. The same is true of vulnerability - too much, and you are oversharing or crossing boundaries; too little, and you come across without the humanity needed for real connection. Finding the balance between authority and vulnerability makes for a great teacher. It is also an excellent goal to encourage in the personal development of your students: their own journey of discovering that balance. If everyone in the room finds that balance, then I believe both teachers and students will have an environment where they can flourish.

Algo que sempre friso ao conversar com os professores nos meus treinamentos é a importância da validação emocional dos alunos. Muitas vezes na posição de educadores nos colocamos muita pressão para resolver a vida dos estudantes, algo que infelizmente somos incapazes. Contudo, a simples e poderosa validação emocional, tem poder de criar vinculo entre alunos e professores e abre espaço para a elaboração das emoções que estão em jogo

Emotional intelligence is the ability to balance one’s emotions, or the capacity to calm oneself and be aware of emotional experiences without being overwhelmed by them. It is the ability to handle one’s emotions confidently, harmoniously, and lovingly. This ability comes from a stable connection with one’s inner resources—strength, confidence, love, joy, energy, willpower, inner peace, wisdom, and inspiration. As educators, it is especially important to cultivate high emotional intelligence for use in the classroom or when talking to children. Sometimes, a single emotionally intelligent remark can influence a child’s entire life.

1. Encourages Independent Thinking When educators actively listen to children, it encourages them to think for themselves, analyze problems, and discover their own solutions. This helps develop their critical thinking and problem-solving skills. 2. Builds Trust Active listening from educators conveys a sense of trust. In contrast, frequent suggestions, inferences, and instructions can undermine a child’s sense of responsibility and convey a lack of trust. 3. Fosters Autonomy and Responsibility By actively listening, educators can help children become more autonomous and responsible. This method empowers children to take charge of their own learning and development, leading to greater independence.

Para escutar (e não apenas "ouvir") é preciso estar 100% presente e aberto às trocas com os outros. Nem sempre isso é possível, afinal, somos seres humanos. Mas vale o esforço de ir nessa direção.

Children with High Emotional Intelligence Can Be Cultivated! 1. Enhances Emotional Expression Encouraging children to express their emotions helps them articulate their feelings clearly, aiding in their emotional development and self-awareness. 2. Improves Understanding When educators actively listen, they directly understand the child’s emotional state, bridging the generational gap and differences in life experiences. 3. Facilitates Effective Guidance Accurate emotional expression allows educators to guide children more effectively, using precise methods to help resolve issues and handle conflicts.

Control your emotions and lead by example, using your actions to teach children how to face and handle problems. Emotional modeling means maintaining a stable emotional state yourself, and over time, students will emulate the teacher’s behavior！

1. Collective Discussions for Positive Reinforcement Conduct collective discussions to praise students who uphold correct opinions, reinforcing positive behavior. 2. Promote Self-Education Encourage students to engage in self-education by consistently showcasing healthy class discourse and conduct, guiding them towards the right path. 3. Value Informal Group Opinions Pay attention to informal group opinions to foster the formation of healthy class discourse and stable conduct. 4. Encourage Feedback Experiences Ensure everyone experiences being evaluated, promoting understanding and empathy among students.

A sala de aula deve sempre ser um ambiente acolhedor e livre de preconceitos e julgamentos. Muitos alunos só têm aquele momento contigo para se expressar com alguém que ele gosta. Escute-o com atenção! Vivemos em uma era em que as pessoas têm filhos por obrigações sociais ou religiosas, porém se esquecem de que não basta ter, é preciso cuidar, educar, entreter, dar amor, etc... Já tive diversos alunos que percebi serem carentes de atenção e acolhimento. Que usam as aulas muitas vezes como terapia para desabafar coisas sobre sua semana. A escuta ativa já fez e FAZ muita diferença na vida pessoal dos meus alunos, e nas minhas aulas, pois essa conexão aumenta o Rapport e influencia no rendimento e dedicação deles nas aulas!