Here's how you can navigate feedback that feels unfair or unjust.

One time at work, I received feedback that felt unfair and unjustified. My initial reaction was to get defensive, but I remembered the importance of staying calm. I took a deep breath and gave myself a moment to process the feedback without reacting emotionally. In my experience, staying composed in such situations allows for a more constructive response. It helps in understanding the feedback better and assessing its validity objectively. One thing I have found helpful is to view feedback as an opportunity for growth rather than a personal attack. This mindset shift has helped me improve my performance and relationships at work.

I always say , its not personal its business ...and even if it is unfair, in the laboral work there is a hierarchy and perception is reality.... You are human it is ok to be upset but be professional first...you will not win an unfair argument with a person in a position of power or a position that validates whatever their opinion is. Be factual and if it lands on deaf ears make sure it is recorded regardless. A while ago I received an unjust assessment, I laid out calmly why I thought it wasn and even more so explained what the consequences of the work (extrapolating myself from the discussion) at hand would be based on that unfair assessment towards me and what it would mean for others...a while ago I received a mail vindicating my point

Navigating feedback that feels unfair or unjust...is...emotional. Your gut reaction might be to internalize too much, react out of anger, or entirely dismiss out of hand. My recommendation is to accept feedback as one ONE perspective, and ONE point of light in your assessment or capability. Plus, the feedback might be a point-in-time perspective versus a pervasive problem. Most importantly, and the hardest to chew, even the least enjoyable feedback ALWAYS has a nugget of truth. Your goal is to dissect the feedback and honestly determine where that nugget might be.

Some ways you can navigate negative feedback that you don’t agree with is to gain perspectives from others. Let’s accept that we all are good people with good intentions and we are 100% biased towards us. Hence to remove that bias and accept negative feedback, 1. Share that feedback with someone you trust and ask for their perspective. Again, this person has to impartial and always gives his opinions and you respect and accept that. 2. Do a bit of self analysis by being self critical. Change yourself wrt the feedback. If you are getting positive outcomes then you know how wrong you are about yourself and how valuable this negative feedback to changing yourself. 3. Last, You can ignore it because you don’t have to take every feedback.

In general, start with the notion that every solicited feedback received is a gift. People who care about you (and/or people who are formally responsible for your evaluation) are the ones who will provide feedback. If a given feedback feels unfair, please seek additional details and provide any clarification rather than assuming anything. Keep your mind open during this discussion. And take appropriate step to correct things requiring action on your part.

There are 2 things in Life you should always defend , your Honesty and your integrity. If these assessment affect say your work (as in termination or shift in responsibilities) you can manage move on at some point. However when it affects your Integrity or Questions your Honesty....that can mean a career death sentence...so NEVER give in on that. I once was held responsible for 'bad work' and it was because I had uncovered financial discrepancies in Budget/Utilization of work...I knew that it may affect my position and had decided to not be part of something that allowed for this...but when i was asked to ignore it and thus making me complicit of this scheme I made it VERY that I was not part of it and walked away...best decision ever