How can you build strong professional relationships despite being shy?

Know, Engage, Grow! 🌱🤝 I'd leverage my strengths, like attention to detail or deep thinking, as interaction assets. Preparing and practicing conversations or presentations builds confidence. Seeking opportunities for small, meaningful interactions helps me gradually expand my network. Following up demonstrates reliability and interest. Being myself, coupled with curiosity about others, creates genuine connections. Inspired by "Quiet: The Power of Introverts" by Susan Cain, I embrace my nature while forming strong professional relationships.

As a HSP, as defined by Dr Elaine Aron, PhD. I am often overlooked in both social and professional settings and commonly labeled as shy and weak. Until, I go out of my way and prove otherwise. However, many leaders and managers can differentiate and value the skills and strengths of 'shy' professionals. I've worked with several. I find that professionals that have a high level of emotional intelligence will actually sort out a 'shy' professional. They understand our value and what we can bring to the table. However, E.I. is a skill that is lacking in most business settings and especial management. So if you're 'shy' you must understand yourself and know how to communicate your unique values and abilities to the people that matter.

Every person has at least one thing that is special to them and that they do well. It is important to reveal and show more of this. But sometimes people are afraid to show this side. Because they themselves don't care. You need to shake yourself up :)

First, start by recognizing your strengths as a shy person. Maybe you're a great listener, keen eye for detail, or are exceptionally thoughtful and considerate. These traits can be assets in building relationships, so focus on leveraging them. Next, look for ways to connect with others on a deeper level. This might mean joining professional networks or industry groups, attending events and conferences, or even just reaching out to people you admire and respect. And finally, don't be afraid to take baby steps. Start with small interactions, like introducing yourself to someone new, or joining a conversation at a networking event. These small steps can help build your confidence and make it easier to build relationships over time.

One trait that many 'shy' professionals share is that we enjoy presenting to large groups of people. Ironically, non-shy professionals run a mile from having to present or talk to large groups due to the common fear of public speaking. However, allotting time for preparation and practice is absolutely vital to actually being good at it. Shy people already understand this with presenting. But often overlook prepare and practice with the smaller interactions required for success that more extraverted people do with ease. Having a coach or mentor can be very valuable for professionals that feel they are shy. Role-play style practice in a safe, private environment with immediate feedback is gold.

- Research people in advance in the environments you will enter. - Have an introductory text to describe yourself appropriate to the environment, - You should definitely have an interest in the subject in the environment where you go and you should ask the person about the topics you are curious about. -Do not hesitate to express your knowledge about the topic. But end with a question or a contribution.

- It is important to get expert help (such as a psychologist) to solve your problems. - You will not get results without taking action. - Take small steps; participate in situations, express yourself. -I am sure you will enjoy it very much once you start.

Two practical ways to forge strong professional relationships, especially if you're shy: 1️⃣ Start with Small Networking Steps: Identify low-pressure networking opportunities that align with your interests and professional goals. Join professional groups or communities where you feel comfortable. Engage in online discussions, attend webinars, or listen to podcasts relevant to your field. 2️⃣ Leverage Existing Connections and Volunteer: Use your current network for introductions or referrals. People who already know your strengths can be great advocates. Additionally, volunteer for projects or events related to your field.

Once you have taken the challenging step of meeting someone, be sure to follow up and follow through. It strengthens the relationship, establishes you as a connection and makes the next interaction warmer and more comfortable. Send an email, note, or text to thank them for their time and offer a continuation of your connection. Check ins and commenting on social media posts will strengthen the relationship further, highlighting shared thoughts and credibility. The next interactions will become easier and more conversational, and shyness will take a back seat to the enjoyment you'll get when you create authentic connections.

- Networking is very important, but connecting with those in the network is even more important. - Strengthen your bond by contacting the people in your network periodically, - If you have suggestions (books, movies, etc.) that match the other person's interests, do not hesitate to offer them in your communication. - Show that you are open to collaborations.

Reflecting on effective networking strategies, especially for those who are shy, here are two important guidelines: 1️⃣ Embrace Authenticity: Authenticity is key in building genuine connections. You don’t need to change who you are or pretend to be an expert in everything. Be honest, authentic, and respectful in your interactions. 2️⃣ Cultivate Curiosity About Others: Show a genuine interest in the people you meet. Ask about their experiences, opinions, and goals. Listening attentively and engaging in their stories not only demonstrates your interest but also fosters deeper connections. Curiosity can be a great conversation starter and can help you build rapport and trust, making the process of networking less intimidating.

- Communicate without disturbing people with childlike curiosity, - Reassure them, tune in, - Accept your vulnerability, - Emphasize clarity.

- Shyness has x number of reasons behind it. - I recommend studying the subject psychologically. - Getting involved in life and accepting vulnerability makes the process easier.