How do you motivate and inspire others with your emotional intelligence?

Showing that you care is different than really caring. People can feel if you really care or if you pretend to be care. So, caring is really important. What I have realised is that, when people feel that you care, you can then tell them whatever you want - as long as it's for their best.

Very simply, I practice what I preach - which is something many can't do. People can talk about EQ all day and want it from people, but if they do not act on their emotional intelligence it's moot. When people DO practice what they preach in regards to EQ, it motivates other people to act accordingly. The best leaders have high EQ and people want to normally be better leaders. The motivating factor is how people are drawn to leaders and look up to them. Those in the background watching this happen...it is motivating to want to conduct themselves in the same manner.

One thing, which also needs to be understood that so many times, people already start a conversation in their minds when the other person is talking. We start framing responses, even before the other person has finished their sharing. Active listening starts by stopping the response in the mind. Just pay attention, listen, process and then respond. We need to take care of the hurry in our mind.

Role modelling is the best way to inspire and influence others to practice emotional intelligence. Many a times simple actions teach volume than words. Such teachings take time but be patient. Share more real time stories around how presence of emotional intelligence in certain circumstances have saved and lack of it destroyed lives. Give the confidence that emotional intelligence can be improved over time. Refer online free tools that one can use to self assess and constantly make improvements to their behaviours and the behaviours of those around (yes doable!!). Emotional intelligence is not a rocket science to those who are open to feedback, listening in general & learning. Emotional intelligence must be a subject in schools/colleges/org

2 helpful tips for listening: 1) You can not listen for every single words they say as you will lose your focus and it is exhausted too. Listen for key words showing their thoughts & feelings, then go deeper on that. 2) To practice listening, you can start with talking less than 50% of the conversation and let the other take the lead. If you are talking more than the other, you know you are not really listening.

Consider a person's love language. How do they best receive recognition? It's a powerful and intentional way to connect. Sometimes we acknowledge and recognize others in ways that best complement the recognizer but the goal is to empower the recognizee.

We give praise so freely to children. Its an encourager. It motivational. And it makes them strive to do better. You only have to watch a parent persuading a child to tidy their bedroom! At first the child does it to please the person giving the praise. Its and external force (extrinsic). But it turns into an internal force (intrinsic) that the child willingly does. In the end the child no longer needs an external force (carrot or stick) to make them want that warm sense of pride. Plus the cascade of the reward hormone dopamine. So why are adults so stingy with dishing out praise? Why is it so hard to say "well done" OR "I appreciate your efforts today". I have a sneaking suspicion that it's because the giver secretly 'needs' praise too!

Emotional intelligence can be improved and developed. The development can be divided into personal competence and social competence. To motivate others, Social competence comes into the picture and it is made up of social awareness and relationship management. Social awareness includes empathy, organizational awareness and service orientation. Relationship management includes influence; developing others, conflict management, teamwork and collaboration. Ways to motivate others with your emotional quotient could be: 1) Being sensitive and understanding others perspectives 2) Handling difficult people and situations with diplomacy and tactics 3) Being change catalyst 4) Clear and Transparent Communication 5) Building bonds 6) Teamwork

Encouragement and appreciations are the underrated tools for building an extremely healthy and interactive social community in your possession. A short sentence or even a single word of appreciation can make a quitter stay back and turn the situation around. It can affect a person by generating highly contagious optimistic vibes, transforming him/her in the most beautiful ways ever possible. And, we may or may not realise but have always been in need of one such positive remark every time we face the lowest in our respective lives. Hence, it becomes crucial that we implement the same skills of empathy and encouraging recognition towards other's advancements.

Demonstrating appreciation is an incredibly powerful motivational gesture a leader can do for their team. When will you do so ? In the role of a leader, it becomes important to show them your appreciation in your daily conversation at work. You recognize since a small change in their performance, their effort to do it better than yesterday. By communicating our genuine esteem and appreciation, we can help to boost their confidence at max & encourage them even to try harder and nurture a culture that encourages others to follow suit.

Here’s 3 emotions you can use in your communication to inspire your team and how they might sound like: Hope: "I know we've faced some tough challenges but look at how far we've come. We've got what it takes to pull this off. We're almost there!" Pride: "I couldn't be prouder of each and every one of you for the resilience and hard work you've put into this project so far. Together, we can deliver some top-notch work. Let's keep going!" Excitement: "Finishing this project is going to be a huge win for all of us. It's going to elevate us to the next level, and I can't wait to celebrate that together!" Remember, as a leader, your emotions are influential. If you want your team to feel a certain way, you must demonstrate those emotions.

Clarity is the simplest most understandable language, speak it anywhere, anyone will understand it and when you do, be positive.

Your EI helps you shape communication. Through developing your Emotional Intelligence you grow awareness of your emotions which allows you to regulate them and choose how to respond rather than letting the emotion speak. As a result, you become a more skillful communicator with focus on the long-term outcome of your conversation. Positive communication is possible only through a positive and mindful approach to a situation.

We often mistake communication in a differences as a debate. The emotional intelligence helps one to realize that as people are different, opinions are different. It not about a winning a debate when that difference shows up, its more about having to address it and have collaboration of ideas to make the whole experience of sharing ideas, rich and fulfilling.

"A palavra convence, o exemplo arrasta", já dizia Confúcio. Pois bem, não há dúvidas do poder do exemplo, mas por que negligenciar o poder das palavras? Há uma música que diz que ''a boca fala aquilo que o coração tá cheio" e ora, se está cheio de coisas boas, não há como sair coisas ruins, não é verdade? Se dali saem coisas boas, como (inevitavelmente) não inspirar outros? Além DO QUE sai da boca, é importante também caprichar no COMO sai. Clareza, empatia e tom de voz adequados transmitem (ressoam) inteligência emocional a quem ouve. Não há dúvidas, portanto, que o exemplo (da fala) também arrasta!

Sixteen (16) years after he joined my team and on the occasion of my leaving, one of my direct reports surprisingly recounted how I helped him feel empowered his first month in by getting his input on a critical project. He shared that he was surprised that I would allow a newbie to weigh in when the project was wrapping up and he’s never forgotten it. It was a welcome, unexpected example to me of the power of EI. I’m always interested in seeing how other people see what I am looking at. I regularly met with all my direct reports at once (junior and senior) to get that type of view. Providing the necessary feedback to guide and not discourage is a skill in itself but I love to see team members taking ownership.

As a sports coach, I empower my clients by asking them questions about situations and use two very powerful questions that allow them to take ownership for their growth. The questions are: What went well? What can be done differently? By reflecting like this, they gain a deeper sense of purpose which nurtures their growth and development but also their understanding of their capabilities. In addition, as a coach, by asking questions, I'm calmer and more focused as opposed to if I was dictating and telling a client what to do.

In my experience as a Transformational Coach and a corporate Leader in Digital, I've seen firsthand the transformative power of empowerment and involvement - when leaders genuinely practice it, they unlock untapped potential. Empowerment is about fostering trust, mentoring, guiding, and inspiring. Involvement fosters understanding, collaboration, and a sense of ownership among team members. Engaged and empowered teams are more agile, motivated, and innovative. Leaders with high EQ can create an environment where everyone feels valued, contributing to increased morale, productivity, confidence, team cohesion and overall success. It usually leads to an impressive business growth, personal satisfaction and high retention.

One of the most effective ways to empower individuals is to cultivate a trusting relationship and have faith in their capabilities, recognizing that they can achieve beyond their current accomplishments. This instills confidence, encouraging them to take bold initiatives, stretch their limits, and foster personal and professional growth.

In my experience as an executive coach, the perspective of leadership around failure sets the tone for the organization. When a perceived failure is simply analyzed as "what did we learn?", it no longer has a negative emotional charge. The truth is each failure is progress toward a goal. An emotionally intelligent leader understands that failure is progress, and allows their team the freedom to collaborate and innovate.

One of my fondest tributes has been a direct report honoring me by saying, “she wasn’t a bossy-boss but she made you want to do the work”. It was the ultimate compliment because modeling and inspiring behavior and values isn’t easy. I demonstrated my passion for excellence by trying to do whatever I thought should be done even when no one else was convinced it was necessary or possible. My motivation was having excellence modeled to me by my boss. Like I have found in parenting, even when it doesn’t look like you’re making strides with motivation and inspiration keep going. Sometimes it’s long after the lesson that the student makes the connection.

Leading by example is a powerful way to inspire and motivate others. When you exhibit enthusiasm, resilience, and a growth mindset, you become a role model that others can look up to. Your commitment to personal and professional growth, even in challenging situations, sends a clear message that encourages others to follow suit. Maintaining a positive attitude and demonstrating the behaviors you wish to see in others can be contagious, creating an atmosphere of inspiration and aspiration within your team or group.

Agreed Ei can inspire people, yet the question is as a leader do you want them to behave as you want or do you want them to be the person they want to be. This is why empathy and compassion makes a viral component to inspire others. Inspiring or motivation should not happen from outside rather. Hence having ableb listen and walk beside another to trigger inspiration within. And that is more sustainable motivation. Ei is crucial factor in our lives

Absolutely true! There is power in a shared high value and the key is that it must benefit all, not just an individual. Our values create our perspective, which then affects all decision-making and actions. In my coaching business, one of the biggest rewards is helping a client identify a value that they authentically embrace. When a team is connected in purpose, that is when the magic happens.

Authenticity is a mirage. If your 'goal' is to be authentic, you've already missed the mark. You're putting on a show. The key to authenticity is to NOT think about authenticity.

Utilizing EI we can embrace the key concept that motivation is less about employees doing great work and more about employees feeling GREAT about their work. Stepping away from the traditional carrot or stick approach to motivate employees we can engage in a new and meaningful way in the workplace.

The crucial thing is to be genuine in your interest in others. Real EQ can't be faked, nor is faking it beneficial. Ask questions, follow-up, show compassion and kindness. Be interesting by being interested (and intentional about it).

Emotional intelligence at its core is the friendship with emotions. Any inspiration is instilled when it encompasses simplicity. So, I'd not go about inspiring people about emotional intelligence, unless I simplify it in day-to-day life and show it to people how they can do the same.

Emotional intelligence is not a one-size-fits-all approach. It requires adaptability and a genuine desire to connect with and understand others on an emotional level. By consistently any of the above strategies, you can effectively motivate and inspire those around you, creating a positive and supportive environment for personal and professional growth.

"How much do you know about yourself?" and "how much do you want to know about others?" Human beings are social creatures and have an innate need for connection. So from the moment we are born we start building this skill. However human interactions are fraught with mis-communication, alternative motives, and tension due to unexpressed fear. These in turn trigger negative thoughts, emotions and actions. So start to recognise there is more going on than meets the eye. Learn more about the power struggle at play. The desire for dominance and control. Read simple psychology books, and tune into articles and programs that share insights about human behaviour. I enjoyreading Robert Greene's book 'The Laws Of Human Nature.'