What do you do if networking feels overwhelming as an introverted professional?

Many people I work with find the term ‘networking’ cringe-worthy and daunting. It conjures up images of large, formal, awkward events. However, networking is simply relationship building and this can be done in many ways. Choose what feels most natural and authentic to you. Offering support to someone else is a great way to build relationships that are supportive and reciprocal.

Before you attend an event, check out the list of speakers and think about what you'd be interested to learn from them. You can prepare a set of questions ahead of time and approach a speaker after their talk. The reason I like focusing on speakers is that you have heard them present a topic so starting a conversation will feel easier than doing so with complete strangers. Make sure to connect with them on LinkedIn afterwards and keep an eye out for their posts. Chances are you'll find other professionals contributing to the comments section and that offers additional opportunities to network.

For this introvert, there are 4 keys preparation that work every time. 1. If possible, volunteer for a role. This will give you something to do and a reason for you to interact with others. 2. Plan three open-ended questions. Open-ended questions start with what, when, how, why and can't be answered yes or no. You can reuse them in multiple conversations. 3. Know that it's OK to have a few deeper conversations rather than many surface conversations. 4. When all else fails, move! Don't just stand in one spot. Move around the periphery of the room and when you're ready to move back in to a conversation, go for it. Typically you're not the only person struggling to connect. People will appreciate you initiating so they don't have to.

For introverts, the idea of networking can often feel like a steep mountain to climb. Adding a personal touch, such as jotting down memorable facts about the people you meet right on their business cards, not only aids in remembering who they are but also helps in crafting follow-ups that are both thoughtful and personalized. This strategy not only eases the anxiety around remembering details but also builds a foundation for relationships that are rooted in genuine connection and interest.

Hoy en día es muy importante hacer networking de forma frecuente en el mundo online y offline. La forma de ir sintiéndote cada vez más cómodo es arriesgándote. Entre más lo hagas cada vez vas a fluir de forma más segura y natural. Si te sientes más cómodo inicia tus reuniones de networking con personas conocidas. Cuando solicites reuniones de networking no vas a tener una tasa de respuesta del 100%, no te lo tomes personal ni te desanimes, hace parte del proceso. Lo importante es dar el primer paso y verás que es más fácil de lo que te imaginaste.

I think networking from a place of authenticity and curiosity would be helpful for not draining your energy. More often than not, networking can feel transactional and draining if you're doing it "because other people said it's important" . If you reframe networking as an opportunity to get to know someone, learn something new about an industry you didn't know about, get some questions answered about some unknowns, it could viewed as an interesting learning experience. I typically focus on one person and asking them questions, rather than talking to many people at once and not getting to know them. Also important to have recovery time and recovery activities after networking for you to recharge if you find it overwhelming.

Reframe the idea of networking and instead think of it as making new friends. Look for what's interesting and unique about other people; express your curiosity and think of them as a friend when interacting with them. They'll appreciate your warmth and interest, and interactions will be easier and lower-pressure!