What do you do if you're experiencing emotional reactions to failure and need help navigating through them?

Here are some pointers: 1. It's alright to feel sad, depressed after a failure. It showed that you were truly were involved in that activity. Just go through the feeling and don't try to supress it. 2. Reflect on why you felt the way you felt after sometime. Talk to your loved ones. They are your closest critiques and well wishers. 3. Learn from this experience and make yourself more comfortable with these emotional rollercoaster next time.

Sometimes we tend to identify emotions as good or bad. But emotions are neither. They just are. What we decide to do with our emotions is what gives them the connotation. You might be angry and upset with failure, you can either use your anger to give up or to try even harder. We have the power of choosing what to do and how to channel our emotions. Sometimes we may need some support, and that’s where a god therapist or coach can become handy.

It is hard to ask for help when you feel you've failed at something, and maybe this is the lesson "failure" is trying to teach you. Being imperfect is our natural state of being, so failing from time to time is absolutely normal. Navigating those feelings may be difficult, but once we learn to sit with them, in them, we manage to gain resilience, courage, self-confidence, and trust in life and ourselves. A coach or a therapist is of great help, but also friends and family, and groups of support. navigating alone can be hard, but with someone else the burden feels easy. Alone time is also important for reflection and learning to sit safely with the feeling until it doesn't seem so scary.

Only 1 in 10 of us are able to truly recognise our emotions. Did you know that? Studies show that there are at least 27 distinct emotions, all of which are highly interconnected, yet many of us default to the standard six: anger, surprise, disgust, enjoyment, fear, and sadness. My thoughts are to accept the feelings, we first need to dig into them and really understand where they come from and what triggered them. Only then can we accept them and figure out how to feel all our feelings in a healthy way. (Don't suppress them! They are telling you something!)

Here is what helps me: 1) Acceptance > Resistance. With acknowledgment and acceptance of facts comes a degree of freedom from them. 2) Break it out. Understand. I am REACTING. The situation is neither good nor bad, my thinking is making it so. The situation is not permanent either. 3) Call Viktor Frankl: Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. 4) Call a friend: Add humor: it has the ability to lift us above a situation 5) Success is the culmination point of everything that once failed. Failure is the stepping stone 6) Don't judge yourself. Change the energy The human spirit is stronger than anything that happens to it PK

In my experience accepting all outcomes as a gift helps reframe what we consider as failure. Looking back on life, we can all find something that we learned that helped us grow into who we are now. No event or circumstance was a complete waste of time. We always got something out of every experience. Remembering this, and looking at the big picture can change our perspective and help us to reframe "failure" as a gift or opportunity, and create a positive rather than a negative mindset.

Failure sharing is becoming popular in future-ready corporations because they recognise that failure is learning. The same goes for personal growth. I have failed many times and sometimes more than once at the same thing, but I have learned something new each time. The only regret would be to fail and then fail to learn anything from it.

Here's a useful reframe I use for myself and with my clients: The only reason why I'm "failing" is because I'm ready to grow! This is incredibly empowering and brings hugely constructive energy with it. I wouldn't be failing if I was in my comfort zone, doing what I know, playing it safe. Accepting the feelings is very important, and part of enabling that is the reframe. I have never failed so much than I have in 8 years, and I'm so grateful. I wouldn't be where I am without that part of the journey.

Seeking help is ok, always. You do not have to do this on your own. Knowing your own worth and not buying into external validation, will help you seek help more easily, without shame or guilt. A coach can help you see challenges from different perspectives, and having the unconditional support of one is priceless. When you are feeling low and not believing in yourself, having someone that believes in you is crucial. A coach can help you navigate challenges and create lasting change as well.

If you have a powerful reframe, like the one I suggested above, it will serve as a building block for cultivating resilience. There are many techniques to support your resilience, and if you weave them in to each aspect of how you work, you'll suddenly discover that you're immensely resilient. Support yourself with baby steps - they'll quickly compound and become a super power!

Mastering your mindset and mental fitness skills can help you make lasting change. When you train your mind to respond with new ways rather than react to failure with habitual negative thoughts and emotions, you create new neural pathways that will help you for the rest of your life.

"Inner bliss = Outer Calm" is my meditation credo. Since I committed to meditation every day, my reactions have reduced exponentially. The only thing we truly have control over is ourselves, so find your way to increase inner balance: physical sports, walks in the park, any time that is yours–and defend it furiously and passionately.