Learn key strategies to effectively communicate and gain support from a dismissive boss in the workplace.

A dismissive supervisor can create a negative culture and work environment. I believe that there are limits for direct reports and people working in the trenches to overcome insecurities, incompetence, or the pride and hunger for power demonstrated by dismissive supervisors. You need an advocate, a leader, or an external motivation to persuade the dismissive supervisor that the organization and end user benefit from changes in their management style. Someone other than you must invest time and energy to persuade the dismissive supervisor to try something different, listen without saying “no,” and build an honest narrative. Without help, things become more toxic for the employee. Develop your skills, be positive, and update your resume.

Last updated on Jul 8, 2024

Here's how you can navigate a boss who is unsupportive or dismissive of your ideas and suggestions.

Navigating the choppy waters of a professional relationship with a boss who doesn't support your ideas can be daunting. You're not alone if you've ever felt deflated after pitching a suggestion only to have it dismissed without consideration. It's a common challenge that requires tact, understanding of communication systems, and strategic action. While it's essential to recognize that not every idea will be a winner, it's equally important to ensure your voice is heard and valued in the workplace.

1 Assess First

Before reacting to a dismissive boss, take a step back and assess the situation. Consider the context in which your ideas are being rejected. Is it the timing, the presentation, or the content itself? Understanding the root cause can provide clarity on how to proceed. Perhaps your boss is under pressure or has different priorities. By evaluating the context, you can tailor your approach, ensuring your communication is aligned with your boss's expectations and the company's objectives.

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2 Stay Positive

Maintaining a positive attitude is crucial when dealing with an unsupportive boss. Instead of showing frustration, focus on the constructive aspects of your interactions. Positivity can help build resilience and open up a dialogue. Approach each conversation with a can-do spirit and be open to feedback. This positive outlook will not only reflect well on you but may also encourage your boss to be more receptive to your ideas in the future.

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3 Build Rapport

Building a strong rapport with your boss can bridge the gap between dismissal and support. Engage in regular communication, showing genuine interest in their perspectives and challenges. By fostering a relationship based on mutual respect and understanding, you increase the likelihood that your ideas will be given the consideration they deserve. Remember, communication is a two-way street; listen actively and demonstrate empathy towards your boss's viewpoint.

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Pierre Kuma

Business Leader driving offshore success with PMP® expertise
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Sometimes, we think we are speaking to someone but we are only speaking with ourselves. Have you had the experience of sharing a very insightful, innovative and groundbreaking idea in a virtual meeting only to réalise that your microphone was on mute for the past 2 minutes? This usually happens in communication, where one person is speaking but can’t be heard because they’re not speaking in the other person’s ‘language’. Building rapport with your boss helps you see and understand things from his/her perspective. This then helps you to understand his/her ‘language’, then you can communicate.

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Pierre Kuma

Business Leader driving offshore success with PMP® expertise
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Sometimes, we think we are speaking to someone but we are only speaking with ourselves. Have you had the experience of sharing a very insightful, innovative and groundbreaking idea in a virtual meeting only to réalise that your microphone was on mute for the past 2 minutes? This usually happens in communication, where one person is speaking but can’t be heard because they’re not speaking in the other person’s ‘language’. Building rapport with your boss helps you see and understand things from his/her perspective. This then helps you to understand his/her ‘language’, then you can communicate.

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4 Refine Ideas

If your boss is consistently dismissive, it's time to refine your ideas before presenting them. Ensure they are well-thought-out, feasible, and aligned with your team's goals. Practice articulating them clearly and concisely, anticipating potential objections. By presenting polished ideas with confidence, you demonstrate your commitment to contributing value to the team, making it harder for your boss to overlook your suggestions.

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5 Seek Allies

Sometimes, having allies at work can make all the difference in how your ideas are perceived. Look for colleagues who share your vision and can support your proposals. When others vouch for your suggestions, it adds credibility and can help sway your boss's opinion. Collaborate with your allies to refine and advocate for your ideas, creating a stronger case for their implementation.

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6 Adapt Strategy

If direct approaches haven't worked, consider adapting your strategy. Instead of presenting fully formed ideas, try discussing them informally first to gauge your boss's interest. Ask for input to make them feel involved in the ideation process. By making your boss a collaborator, you're more likely to gain their support. Sometimes, changing your communication style or delivery method can also make a significant difference.

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7 Here’s what else to consider

This is a space to share examples, stories, or insights that don’t fit into any of the previous sections. What else would you like to add?

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Kimberly Thomas, JD

Owner & Chief Collaboration Officer, Sister In The Shadow Consulting. I help smart people create a collaborative culture that promotes personal & career successes for students & professional staff
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A dismissive supervisor can create a negative culture and work environment. I believe that there are limits for direct reports and people working in the trenches to overcome insecurities, incompetence, or the pride and hunger for power demonstrated by dismissive supervisors. You need an advocate, a leader, or an external motivation to persuade the dismissive supervisor that the organization and end user benefit from changes in their management style. Someone other than you must invest time and energy to persuade the dismissive supervisor to try something different, listen without saying “no,” and build an honest narrative. Without help, things become more toxic for the employee. Develop your skills, be positive, and update your resume.

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Here's how you can navigate a boss who is unsupportive or dismissive of your ideas and suggestions.

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1 Assess First

2 Stay Positive

3 Build Rapport

4 Refine Ideas

5 Seek Allies

6 Adapt Strategy

7 Here’s what else to consider

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