What do you do if your staff and colleagues are not responding positively to your emotional intelligence?

In such situation you need to take some time and think about your behaviour, communication style and interactions with others. You should also take feedback from a trusted colleagues to know how your emotional intelligence is perceived.

Ouça atentamente as preocupações e perspectivas dos colaboradores. Demonstre empatia ao validar suas emoções e pontos de vista. Explique os benefícios da inteligência emocional para a equipe e para os resultados do trabalho. Ofereça suporte e recursos para o desenvolvimento de habilidades emocionais. Promova a colaboração e a troca de experiências para criar um ambiente de aprendizado mútuo. Incentive a autenticidade e a expressão emocional construtiva.

In my experience, every person understands the world differently, there is no one-size-fits-all approach to emotional intelligence. Taking this into consideration, and including the diverse perspectives of your team, instead of trying to make others understand you, you need to hear others and learn about their challenges and strengths that could actually improve your team’s performance and productivity as a whole, then wisely incorporate the strengths and work through the weaknesses by being patient and explaining things differently in each case, at an individual level.

One of the awesome things about emotional intelligence (EI) is that it can be learned! Start by taking an assessment of your current EI domains. There are many available online. Where are you strongest? Self-awareness and self-management make it easier to have social awareness and relationship management skills. Consider reading Daniel's Goleman's book, "Primal Leadership," to learn the EI competencies for each EI domain. Then you can hone in on which competencies you struggle with and should work on, remembering that EI can be learned. In order to grow your EI, you'll need to practice. It's a good idea to inform your team (and maybe your partner at home!) that you're working on building your EI. Ask for feedback from them as well.

Understanding emotional intelligence does take time. Leading by self example will be the mandatory requirement wherein as leader you vibrantly display empathy, self awareness and be a positive listener. Appraising colleagues in a subtle way professionally about the advantage of EI will make a difference. Lastly organised formal training schedules on EI.

Emotional Intelligence is about dynamics and interplay of aspects like:- - Self-awareness of own emotions - Awareness about emotions of others - Motivation to regulate oneself - Empathy - Ability to build relationships with others If we examine the state of EI and lack of response in the light of above parameters we will be able to find the solution. The issue may be with oneself, with others or the process of building relationships. As a leader however the onus of having a positive EI is with oneself. We can look at ourselves and appreciate if we have aligned to our larger goals; have the motivation to rise above ourselves and created a harmonious relationship with others. We ought to understand others first before being understood.