You’re struggling to be assertive and confident in your career. How is it hurting your leadership potential?

Think about a leader you respect. What is it about their style, presence or behaviour that you admire? Picture yourself as a leader in your company. What are you feeling, doing, saying? What is the smallest first meaningful step that can take you in that direction?

Você pode até evitar conflitos e a exposição de falar o que pensa... sabendo que esse posicionamento não é estratégico para a sua carreira. Todas as pessoas que atendi, especialmente quem precisou desenvolver skllis para a liderança precisaram desenvolver um posicionamento que os levassem a serem mais escutados e a serem mais relevantes para seus mercados. Não é evitando conflito que conseguimos destaque, mas sim escolhendo "quais brigas valem a pena brigar."

Feedback is more than a gift, it’s a strategic tool for career advancement. Those who invite criticism and learn the art of providing criticism navigate the workplace more strategically than others and are statistically proven to advance their career faster. This is because individuals who accept criticism and feedback well, often receive hidden nuggets on how to navigate a situation, and more importantly, how to pivot. Learning the skill of pivoting is learning agility. It’s learning creative problem solving. It’s teaching you new levels of critical thinking. Giving feedback builds influence, credibility, and courage when done correctly. Utilize your voice and share it with others.

I work with women leaders and I notice this is a limiting behavior that stands out. Lack of assertion is also present in men however I see it impacting women in their careers in a big way. - You are not regarded as a leader as you have no voice - You are seen as a pushover and you will not be considered for key roles. - Assertive communication is one of the foremost leadership qualities at higher levels as it is the vehicle for managing clients, teams and for negotiating tough situations I would invite this for you: - Join assertiveness training - Work somatically using martial arts - Invest in a self awareness program that is psychologically anchored so you gain awareness of your limiting beliefs and narratives.

Conflitos são inevitáveis em qualquer ambiente profissionalv ou pessoal. Saber como lidar com eles de forma eficaz é fundamental para o sucesso na sua carreira. Conflitos são oportunidades para aprender e crescer. É importante manter a calma ao lidar com conflitos. O foco deve ser sempre na resolução do problema e não em culpar ou atacar as pessoas envolvidas. Ao trabalhar em conjunto, é possível encontrar soluções que sejam satisfatórias para todas as partes. Com um pouco de esforço e comunicação, você pode transformar conflitos em oportunidades de crescimento e sucesso na sua carreira.

Setting boundaries is important thing not for your work or leadership career, but in all aspects of your life. You need also to learn to say no, because sometimes it it is necessary in your business decisions. Feedback is a constructive tool you better to use it to improve your performance.

Aqui cabe um exercício de controle e vale a pena a análise: 1. Saiba que a maioria das situações você nem controla nem influencia 2. Identifique quais situações você de fato influencia (quais processos, quais áreas,...) é aqui que você precisa dedicar sua energia - no que você influencia 3.A sua menor área é a área do que você controla: saiba o que é e permaneça o menor tempo posssível Por melhor que você seja, saiba que sua influência é essencial nos resultados mas que independem (em sua maioria das vezes) do seu controle! Desapegue do que não faz sentido!

Learning to say "No" is a topic I am working on with my clients. Often, they just want to be helpful by saying "Yes" to everyone and everything, but it can result in a lot of stress and frustration for the leader. Helping them step by step to say "No" more often helps them to find healthy boundaries.

In my experience, you could very well have a "Pleaser Saboteur." I know this because I have one. I think to myself, "If I want to maintain a positive relationship, I need to sacrifice what I want in order for this other person to appreciate and value me." It's a lie, but if I'm feeling nervous or stressed, I fall for it. A key to overcoming a mental saboteur is to step back and see the lie and label it as such. Instead of building the relationship, my failure to set healthy boundaries erodes trust and diminishes my leadership capacity. Key Action: Recognize and label the lies that cause you to sacrifice and avoid setting boundaries.

Trying to get it right for everyone? Not stepping on anyone's toes or hurting anyone's feelings? That may be nice of you, but it will not help you in a role where you need to show up and take courageous decisions. Instead of trying to be everybody's darling, define a clear brand and profile. Ask yourself: What do I stand for? What are my values? What is important to me as a leader? What does good leadership mean to me? And take steps to implement them.

In my experience, many people mistake being loud and overpowering as being assertive. Being effectively assertive is essentially a quiet (as in not being seen as all strong and powerful) and a deliberate thing built upon the foundations of expertise, empathy and enthusiasm. It is essential for effective leadership and a coach should be able to help with the how's.

Doubting your abilities and value can make you feel insecure and hesitant to express your opinions or needs at work. This can affect your performance, relationships, and satisfaction in your career. Being assertive and confident in your career means having a positive self-image, communicating effectively, and taking responsibility for your actions. It also means respecting yourself and others, and being open to feedback and learning.

A good exercise when you see a negative thought enter your mind is this: Challenge the negative thought. Ask yourself these questions: What is my negative thought? What evidence proves this thought true? What evidence proves this thought false? What unhealthy feelings and behaviors does this thought cause? What will eventually happen if I continue to think this way? What advice would I give a friend who feels this way? What conditions should I accept right now? What won’t change? What can I do to make my thinking more positive? What words will express my new healthy thought?

Doubting your abilities can also make you defer to others around career direction instead of trusting your own intuition. You can end up just taking whatever opportunity or role or extra project that presents itself, instead of sitting in the driver's seat of your career development. This passivity isn't helpful to you, your team, or the company. At the end of the day we need people who are on fire for the work that they do, and passively taking whatever comes your way instead of figuring out what your next most impactful ascension is can leave you feeling stagnant and unfulfilled. The antidote, self-inquiry. Take the time you need to journal and self-reflect and what you really want in this season and trust your answer when you find it.

I see clients dealing with self-doubt struggle to speak up in meetings. They hold back on their thoughts, don't ask questions for fear of "looking stupid", or thinking they should already know the answer. As a result, people don't realize the contributions they bring and often the overall impact of the group is diminished because all the voices aren't in the conversation. It holds back not only their career, but the broader impact of their teams.

Todos temos crenças que nos influenciam, sejam elas positivas ou não. Quando ampliamos nossa perspectiva na tríade: o que penso? O que sinto? Como agi a partir daí? as situações vão ficando mais claras. E para mudar crenças, precisamos olhar para as evidências que temos sobre o que pensamos. **Tem um exercício que uso muito no coaching, baseado em evidências: escolha um pensamento que está te inquietando hoje e escreva: quais as evidências que esse pensamento é certo? Quais as evidências que esse pensamento é errado? É bem provável que você encontre respostas para ambas as polaridades!!Precisamos encontrar pensamentos mais equilibrados e realistas! Essa é uma forma de ampliar nosso bem estar:) Desafie seu pensamento agora.

Our thoughts determine our emotions. If, when faced with a challenge, we think only of failure and its devastating consequences, we cannot prepare ourselves mentally or emotionally for success. Instead of dwelling on negative experiences and emotions, replace negative thoughts with positive ones by actively thinking about successes and positive experiences you've had in the past. What helped you achieve that success? What can you learn from it? And how did you feel at the moment of victory?

You have a tool for this: forgiveness. It is a powerful thing that people use freely and willingly all the time until it comes to themselves. Think for a moment about the people in your life who you forgive their ignorance, childish behaviors, emotional outbursts, etc. Now consider how when you do the same, you shame yourself and subject yourself to self-judgement. Give yourself a break. You are an incredible and accomplished human being who behaves in a silly manner from time to time. Remind yourself that, like everyone else (including world leaders), you are a human being and capable of brilliance and stupidity alike. Choose the simple, yet brilliant act of forgiveness towards yourself. Begin anew today, your team is waiting for you to.

¡Definitivamente! Las experiencias te construyen, los momentos de hacen mas fuertes y las vivencias te condicionan, sin embargo soy fiel creyente que se pueden replicar como también se pueden modificar, ya que cada experiencia y lugar es diferentes, somos seres cambiantes y cuando entendemos esto desde lo individual por mas que las personas no lo hagan te hace creer mas en ti y en tus habilidades, porque no; no soy el mismo que ayer, aunque este en el mismo lugar, no soy el mismo de mi trabajo anterior aunque hagamos lo mismo y eso esta bien! simplemente es entender que los capítulos se cierran y dejan aprendizajes, que no son siempre aplicados para todos los escenarios.

Not ecessarily the past experince or influences. Many of us are born introverts or with low confidence. What we are is the sum total of genetic factos, upbringing, environment and most importantly how those 100 billion cells in our brain re formed and function. They function in the unique way for each of us. The encouraging part though is they can be reprogramned to direct us differently. There is where coaches like me and hundreds others, mentors, counsellors, trainers pitch in. Make use of them to overcome impact of past beliefs and eperiences.

Don't let fear debilitate you. It's about awareness. Know your values. Be aware of your thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations. Be aware of the actions you take when you feel and think that way. Check those behaviors against your values. For example if you feel afraid or angry and you avoid a situation, while avoiding it might allow you to escape the immediate aversive feelings, avoiding also may be moving you away from your values. Instead of focusing on thinking differently or getting rid of the bad feelings, focus on replacement behaviors. What can you do more, less or differently that will move you toward your values. Except that you feel whatever way you're feeling, and focus on value driven behavior for success!

Growing your leadership experience has to start from a place of passion and genuine curiosity - but your growth will be watered by your dedication to self improvement. Talk with more experienced colleagues, pursue avenues and lower pressure projects to assess your technical and strategic skill to build your confidence. When you build ways to integrate the expertise of your network into your working environment, you grow your experience intentionally. Do not prepare to lead and never fail - prepare yourself to manage your expectations and the expectations of your team as you work.

Know yourself. You cannot be all things to all people and do it well. Setting boundaries allows you to hone in on your talents and skills to give people your best. Set time boundaries Know your talents It’s ok to say no Solutions given to problems doesn’t mean that you have “work” the solution Don’t become an enabler in your leadership.

Current challenges are significant in most workplaces, which can trigger an ongoing high level of anxiety. This in turn makes it hard to show up authentically and with confidence. Learning how to calm ourselves in the moment, even with something as simple as taking some deep breaths, can help us face the challenge as an opportunity vs. a threat.

Yes. Pressures and challenges cause you to slip into a defensive mode if you are not able to cope up with them. Its a typical fear syndrome which csn generate two reactions. Face Everything And Rise Or Forget Everything And Run. Your choice decides your character as a leader.

360’s can be a game changer. Engaging with a leadership coach and undergoing a 360 leadership assessment provides a unique opportunity for leaders who may be wrestling with self-doubt. This process can help uncover strengths, hidden talents, and potential blind spots providing the leader with valuable insights and a more targeted approach to personalized development. A knowledgeable coach can interpret the 360 data and guide the leader in gaining confidence through achieving their development goals, and empowering them to navigate leadership challenges with greater assurance and effectiveness.

As a new leader, I struggled to be assertive and confident in using my voice at work. I’d stay silent and unfortunately, I’d watch things unravel because I hadn’t shared my thoughts. With the help of a leadership coach, I found my voice. It was shaky at first, but I got better at sharing my ideas and insights and helping others see the value in them. Believing in myself, investing in myself, and finding my voice built my leadership presence, which led to developing business strategies, growing my responsibilities, and impacting more people than I thought possible. The takeaway here? Wisdom can be found in all ages because awareness has no age. So don’t silence yourself and if you need help being more assertive and confident, ask for it.

Empathy is Key! If you are ready to develop someone or believes this person need to take the next step and your are call to Lead her or him in to this journey; be emphatic of the actual situation and the challenges they will face. Empathy in the process will guarantee a greater engagement of the person in the process, and will build connections that will strengthen the results.

Low assertiveness and self-confidence are rooted in the erroneous belief that something in you is lacking. So whilst you already have everything you need to be successful, it sometimes takes a third person such as a coach or mentor to help you see this. They can’t “give” you more assertiveness or self-confidence, but they can provide pointers where to find hiding inside you that, which you belief is lacking. Doing this work yourself successfully (yet with guidance from the coach) will generate more self-confidence. Telling the coach they did not add any value will be a sign of your assertiveness ;) If it was a good coach, they will welcome being “fired” by you as a result…

One solution would be working with a coach and using the GROW Model to significantly enhance your assertiveness and confidence. The GROW Model stands for Goal, Reality, Options, and Will. You start by defining clear goals for your assertiveness, then assess your current reality and challenges. Next, explore various strategies (options) to overcome these challenges. Finally, commit to specific actions (will) to improve. This methodical approach helps you identify and act on practical steps towards becoming a more assertive and confident leader.

Try a couple of grounding exercises before a meeting -Take a few balancing breathes - Feel your butt in the seat - Physically establish boundaries extending your arms, pulling them into your chest with an inward breathe and pushing out and saying 'Back Off' - Butterfly Tap- cross your arms and place your hands lightly on your upper arm, slowly and alternately tap while taking some nice deep breathes. During the meeting - Take time to observe others, their body language, their expressions - Count 3,2,1 before you respond to others - Ask How and What questions in the meeting, be curious Most people want to have meetings that bring value and respect to all involved so don't psych yourself out before you give it a try. Enjoy!

Confidence is often hit by a lack of self awareness. The more your know yourself the more you will be confident in your ideas, the easiest you will lead and inspire your team!

Our mindset makes a huge difference in how we show up. Experimenting with different mindsets can help us shift how we show up in various situations. For example, a growth mindset can enable us to focus more on what we can learn vs. what we currently don't know. Similarly, an opportunity mindset sees new challenges as opportunities vs. threats which can help diffuse the tension we feel in new situations.

When confidence and assertiveness are challenged, it can create doubt in your team (if you're leading others) and may also create a perception that you may struggle in a leadership role. This can manifest as struggling with decision-making, giving presentations, or generally how you lead yourself. It can also manifest in avoiding self-advocating, taking risks, and pursuing promotional opportunities, to name a few. The good thing is that both can be developed like a muscle. The sooner you know it may be getting in the way of progressing in your career, the sooner you can identify strategies and solutions to help work on increasing them both. Don't sit on this as they're not just important skills in your career but in life!

Who says one needs to be assertive and confident in a leadership role? If you are a generalist leading a team of experts, say, you don't want to showcase a "forceful personality" (taken from the definition of assertive). You want to be a great communicator and manage healthy conflict to get the best from an already strong team.