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I got a call yesterday, the kind that reminds you why you do what you do. It was from one of the most incredible young women we’ve ever had the privilege to call family. She was with us for five years, but now, at nearly 30, she has a wonderful partner, children of her own, and a life full of love. When she first came to us, the situation was heart wrenching. Her previous foster carers, who had looked after her for five years, gave notice on her. They said she was becoming a 'bad influence' on her siblings. Can you imagine? A young girl, trying to navigate the loss and chaos of being separated from her family, was labeled for the simple act of longing to be with them. She came from a large family, eight siblings, all of whom were either in foster care or had been at some point. It broke my heart to see how desperate she was to stay connected to them. In those early days, she spent much of her time 'missing'. The system framed it as her 'running away', but she told us, over and over, “I’m not running from, I'm running 'to'. I don’t know why they think I am running from you, what I'm doing is running to my own family.” And that was the battle we found ourselves in. We fought tooth and nail with services and the narrative that tried to paint her longing for connection as rebellion. They wanted to ban her from seeing her siblings altogether, but how could anyone believe that severing family ties would ease her trauma? It only deepened it. It drove her to unsafe places and risky choices because, one way or another, she was going to find her family. We fought to change that. We insisted that her relationships with her siblings mattered, that they weren’t just 'contacts' to be managed but lifelines to her identity and healing. Once we ensured she was given the time and space to be with them, the 'missing' stopped. She felt seen, understood, whole. Yesterday, when she called, it wasn’t just to say Happy Christmas. She wanted to tell us about one of her happiest memories: skating on Christmas Eve in Santa hats. It was something my husband loved to teach all our foster children, skating became this magical little tradition that bonded us all. She asked if she could bring her own children to skate after Christmas, to share that same joy she remembers so clearly. And then, in her beautiful way, she said something that stopped me in my tracks. She told us, "You showed me how to be a parent, and I’ve never forgotten how hard you fought for me to have my family. It changed everything for me". Hearing those words, my mind flashed back to the young girl who arrived at our door all those years ago, carrying more pain than any child should ever have to bear. And now, here she is, a mother, a partner, a strong and kind woman who understands the power of love and connection. So here is that beautiful little girl skating in her Santa hat. (It's a bit blurred as I took it from the Cafe, where I was having a Christmas Latte!) #fostercare #wecare

The FosterWiki helpline is open every single day over the Christmas period, including Christmas Day, we have experts who's experience is grounded in frontline practice manning the email lines, and if it requires a support phone call we have our trained helpline coordinators on hand, even on Christmas Day to support and help. What's more all our people are volunteers.

What Does the Murder of Sara Sharif Have to Do with the Parson's Green bombing? The tragic murder of Sara Sharif, a child found with 96 injuries including fractures, burns, and a broken back, exposes systemic failures eerily similar to past cases involving Surrey County Council. Patterns of Neglect and Ignored Warnings ▪️Sara’s Case: Numerous professionals, reports, and individuals raised concerns about her welfare, yet they were ignored. ▪️Ahmed Hassan’s Case: Foster carers Penny and Ron Jones MBE warned Surrey County Council repeatedly about Ahmed Hassan, a young man placed in their care in 2017. Despite their concerns, and Ahmed’s troubling statements at Prevent and college, the council failed to act. Ahmed Hassan’s Terrorist Attack ▪️Ahmed carried out a terrorist attack at Parsons Green Tube Station, injuring 50 people, some with life-altering consequences. ▪️Surrey County Council had hidden from Penny and Ron the fact that Ahmed had been “trained to kill by ISIS,” a detail that should have disqualified him from foster care. The Devastating Impact on Foster Carers ▪️Penny and Ron dedicated 40 years to fostering, only to be silenced and mistreated: ▪️Ignored Warnings: Their numerous concerns about Ahmed were dismissed. ▪️Threats and Bullying: They were told to stay silent and ostracised by the council and other foster carers warned they were not allowed to speak to them. ▪️Heartbreak: Surrey County Council ensured they never fostered again. ▪️Ron was haunted by guilt after learning Ahmed had built a bomb in their home that could have destroyed six houses had it detonated. Attempts at Accountability ▪️With the support of a top human rights lawyer, efforts to hold Surrey County Council accountable were systematically blocked. ▪️No one faced consequences for these catastrophic failures, leaving the victims, both foster carers and the public, without justice. ▪️ Surrey County Council withheld all relevant files, citing that disclosing them was “not in the public interest.” The Same Failures, Repeated Now, in Sara Sharif’s case, the same council is accused of ignoring red flags. This is a distressing reminder that systemic negligence remains unaddressed, with devastating consequences for vulnerable children and families. Accountability is overdue. Without meaningful change, how many more lives will be shattered before lessons are really learned? Louise Allen Carolyn Moody MBE Niki Marangos 👉 https://lnkd.in/eJSzZ2eZ

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"Absolutely true. Speaking as a former 'keyboard warrior ' with 29 years experience, I can assure you, the fostering agency did not appreciate, recognise, agree with my experience of their treatment of me or my family. They did make some changes once I was gone but have made sure I won't foster again. The culture is toxic, foster carers can be complicit because they don't want deregistered, singled out, and will often go as far as saying how much support they get from the agency." Foster Carer - Facebook comment #FosterCare #FrontLine #WeCare

Are we about to see more of this? When priorities shift, foster care often gets dismissed and neglected. With the new government reform of children’s services aiming to keep children at home, it raises serious concerns: ▪️Is it workable? Will the extra funding truly be enough to make this happen effectively? ▪️Will policies transform into real change? Or will this become another missed opportunity for frontline services, leading to more failures like this one. Sara’s heartbreaking story is an example: ▪️In 2014, Sara was taken into foster care, then reunified first with her father (already known to social services for beating his children) and later with her mother. Four years later, she ended up back with her father. ▪️This child was subject to a child protection plan from birth. Both parents faced abuse allegations. School reports noted bruises on her face, nothing was done and she was then 'home schooled'. ▪️ It’s highly likely that the foster carers questioned these reunifications. Despite knowing the children best, their concerns were undoubtedly ignored and, worse still, they were more than likely actively silenced. This isn’t an isolated case. When foster carers speak up to advocate for the children in their care, they are often dismissed, told to keep their opinions to themselves, or worse, met with veiled threats or allegations. The reality is: without a stronger focus on foster care, we risk leaving children in unsafe environments, justified by a policy designed to “keep them at home.” We need: ▪️Real support, funding and innovation for foster care. ▪️Greater listening to those on the frontline, especially foster carers. ▪️Policies that prioritise safety and well-being over box-ticking. Let’s not let history repeat itself. It’s time to refocus, because children deserve better. #fostercare #frontline #socialwork #childprotection

It's a funny thing when you've fostered...you feel guilty about a break, but like our founder Sarah says here, you can't pour from an empty cup, and never is that more true than for all of us working in children's services, whatever our role.

Such important comentary from FosterWiki Ambassador Carolyn Moody MBE "Spend a few minutes on social media, and you’ll likely come across them, those fostering adverts brimming with promises of warm cuddles, endless smiles, and the satisfaction of ‘making a difference’. While fostering is undoubtedly rewarding in profound and unique ways, these adverts often paint a dangerously misleading picture, doing a disservice to foster carers, children in care, and the fostering sector as a whole." We couldn't agree more. Our NFCQ Intergrated Assessment Process and NFCC Accredited Foundation qualification in Foster Care is worth advertising to potential carers, most of who will welcome an accredited qualificion. They aren't the only ones, the childen they care for will benefit hugely too. #fostercare #education #raisingstandards #betteroutcomes

Another super blog/article published today by our FosterWiki Ambassador Carolyn Moody MBE "Let’s get real. Fostering is not about babysitting children, it’s about providing a safe, stable, skilled and nurturing environment for young people who have endured unimaginable loss, instability, and trauma." "These children have been removed from their families, often losing everything familiar to them in the process. Foster carers don’t just provide a roof over their heads; they walk alongside these children through their trauma, loss, pain, anger, grief, and, hopefully, healing." 👉 https://lnkd.in/enDCkvnk #fostercare #retention #recruitment #reality #betteroutcomes #childrenincare

"Rather than engaging with meaningful feedback, the agency referred to foster carers who raised concerns as “keyboard warriors,” “completely clueless,” “just plain stupid,” and “attention seekers” unworthy of a response. Furthermore, the report suggested that these views are widely shared among agencies and other fostering organisations, implying that such disparaging discussions are commonplace within the sector." #FosterCare #FosterWiki #WeCARE