Halo Effect

Are you missing the 1%? #progress #personalgrowth #collaboration #haloeffectcoaching

I’ve been working with a client on an ongoing issue with a coworker. They had been at odds for months when he joined my program. Arguing, gossiping about each other to other coworkers, and completely unable to work together. In our sessions, we were working on not getting triggered by this coworker. And how to communicate in a way that would bring the coworker to the table. In a way they’d feel heard and be ready to find common ground. And while there had been many weeks when there was progress, there had also been weeks that felt like setbacks. In those set-back weeks, my client felt like all the work he’d put in was for nothing. He’d join the session feeling defeated. And in those weeks, we’d coach on the impatience for the problem to resolve. The desire to have a quick win and not achieve it. Because here’s the thing – when you burn a bridge with another person, and then try to repair the bridge after, it doesn’t always happen overnight. You might be ready, but they might be skeptical. Why? Because they don’t know or trust this new version of you. The open one. The curious one. The one who wants to work together. They only know the old version of you. The angry one. The defensive one. The one they don’t like. It takes time to rebuild trust. To fully develop a new belief that there isn’t an ulterior motive to your kindness and willingness to listen. And if we give up on building a new bridge when we have setbacks, the progress we that we actually have made crumbles under the weight of the baggage. So I offer you – On days you feel defeated, look at the 1% changes that you’re making towards your goal. They’re there if you look close. Don’t miss them. They’re what will keep you going. #teamwork #collaboration #leadership #haloeffectcoaching

So, I gotta ask...are you giving up? There are weeks in coaching where you end up talking about the same theme all week. Just by coincidence. This week’s topic? Giving up vs. moving on. It was on everyone’s mind. “Is it time to look for a new job?” “I don’t want to be seen as a quitter!” “Maybe I just can’t hack it, and I need something easier.” As leaders and high achievers, we’re often taught that persistence is the key to success. To never give up. But there’s a difference between perseverance and knowing when it’s just plain time to let go. Giving up comes from fear, frustration, or self-doubt. It’s quitting because the road is hard, or because you don’t think you can achieve the goal. It’s hanging out in the passenger seat of your life. Moving on, however, is a strategic and personal choice. It’s recognizing that a path no longer serves your growth, aligns with your values, or leads to the impact you want to make. 🔥 It’s sitting in the driver’s seat of your life. 🔥 One is reactive. The other is intentional. The challenge? Knowing the difference. Ask yourself: ✅ Am I walking away because it’s too hard, or because the cost outweighs the benefits? ✅Is my ego keeping me here, or is there still purpose in pursuing this goal? ✅What might open up for me when I choose to move forward in a different direction? Sometimes, the strongest decision isn’t to push harder - it’s to pivot wisely. With intention. What seat of the car are you sitting in? #Leadership #ChangeYourLife #HaloEffectCoaching

Today’s Wellness Wednesday Tip is a little late because, well, it snowed for the first time in 5 years where we live. And, well, a woman's gotta have her priorities. In fact, one of the things I have had to work really hard on over the last 3 years is truly, and deeply, knowing my priorities. And I don’t mean just defining what’s important – I think we all can easily do that. But actually deciding in which order those important things rank. For example, my son is very important to me. Of course, I’m a mom. But here’s how important he is… ✅ He’s more important to me than a clean house. ✅ He’s more important to me than a good night’s sleep. ✅ And he’s more important to me than all the money in the world. So that’s why, this morning when he asked me to go outside and play in the 0.5 inches of snow we got last night, I dropped everything I was doing and spent 30 minutes in 11-degree weather to play with him. And living true to my priority list – putting time with him above my sink full of dirty dishes – created so much peace in my mind, I was able to experience joy while I played. After all, the dishes will still be there later. But he won’t be asking me to play on a snow day in North Carolina later. So, here’s how to restore balance in your life (especially when you’re juggling conflicting priorities): 1️⃣ Write out all your priorities in life on a sheet of paper. 2️⃣ Stack-rank them in order of importance. 3️⃣ Post a clean list somewhere where you can see it. 4️⃣ If/when you start to feel stressed out, revisit the list to determine what is out of order. (I promise it’s because something that’s less important to you is creeping above what is.) 5️⃣ Put those priorities back in order with a strong boundary practice. Just like that, you can create balance again and hold time for the things that bring you joy. #priorities #snowday #stressrelief #haloeffectcoaching

Are you a toxic leader? Toxic leaders undermine others. Throw others under the bus when they fail. People around them have their heads on a swivel and are fluent in the best CYA practices. The thing is, these leaders have no respect from their peers or their staff. No trust. And when this kind of leader takes charge, people leave the company like rats on a sinking ship. Here are a few tips you can practice to avoid becoming a toxic leader. ✅ Provide constructive feedback, not criticism. And ALWAYS thank the person for their work first, before the feedback, even if the work wasn't good - after all, they still spent their time on it. ✅ Foster a culture of open communication. Create safe spaces to share the good, the bad and the ugly. ✅ Don't berate the ugly. Recognizing and celebrating failures are as important as recognizing and celebrating achievements. Because it's only when we fail that we grow and learn. ✅ Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Be willing to say "I don't know" when you don't. Share your own failures. You're not perfect and I'm sure your staff already knows that. ✅ Lead by example, showing respect to everyone - even to the most junior members of the team. You never know where the best idea will come from. ✅ Encourage growth and development. Prioritize your team's careers as much as you do your own, and you will rise alongside them. ✅ Allow your team as much autonomy as you can tolerate - and then give them a little more. No one likes a micromanager, and not all your ideas are the best anyways. #leadership #careergrowth #haloeffectcoaching

This Wellness Wednesday includes a little math lesson. Math is great. It teaches us that making small changes - like 1% improvement every week over the last - adds up to a 67% change over the course of a year. Incredible, right? But we have to take those first steps. You know, $#!% or get off the pot 😜 to make them happen. Planning to get back in shape after the holidays has never helped me...and believe me, I've tried. But when we actually make tiny changes and stay committed to upping the game each week, the results are nothing short of extraordinary. What kind of 1% changes are you making towards your goals that will change your life forever? #goals #changeyourlife #haloeffectcoaching

When you feel triggered by someone else, look within for the real reason why. #personalgrowth #emotionalintelligence #haloeffectcoaching

Happy Wellness Wednesday!  This week, I’d like to ask you a question – be real: How do you really feel about the holidays??? If you’re like most of my clients, you’re DREADING them. Between the never-ending to-do list, family obligations, and last-minute EOY requests from your boss that have you scrambling to the mall 30 min. before it closes, there are days where your heart is racing so fast that it feels like you’ve been sprinting all day. But here’s the truth - 10 years from now no one will remember that your cookies for the cookie exchange were store-bought, or that you didn’t buy them the best present off their wish list, or that you didn’t email them back before you logged off at 4:30 to finish your holiday shopping. But they will remember if you’re snapping at everyone, huffing and puffing around the house and/or office, or having a total meltdown in the closet with the door closed because you just couldn’t be all the things to all the people this year. 🙋♀️ You see, the key to having a happy holiday season starts with giving YOURSELF a gift. The gift of grace. So... Pause. Breathe. Prioritize. ✅ Say YES to what makes YOU happy. ✅ Say NO to what drains YOUR energy. ✅ And release control of everything in between. It’s that simple. If you feel like you’re on the Hot Mess Express this holiday season, I see you. I was you. I can help you. Together, we’ll shrink your to-do list to get the most important things done, reduce the need to be liked and/or perfect so you can be a relaxed host, and prioritize time to actually enjoy yourself. Book a free consultation today, and together, we’ll finally make the holidays the most wonderful time of the year. Calendly link: https://lnkd.in/exWhGgMS #burnout #stressmanagement #boundaries #holidays #haloeffectcoaching

📣 CALLING ALL PROCRASTINATORS! 📣 I see you. LOL! But I'm not here to judge. After all, this probably feels like a big decision. So let me help make this easier for you... ...there are no such things as right or wrong decisions. What? 🤯 Yep. No such thing. There are only the decisions you make, and the ones you don't. And worrying about making the "wrong" decision right now is draining your energy. So instead of overthinking it, I challenge you to make this decision right now. Buy a session or two for half off. And then, together, you'll learn how easy it can be to make decisions with my decision-making protocol, so you never have to feel stuck like this again. Get your half off sessions here ➡️ https://lnkd.in/eQ2c7FAG And together, we'll change your life. #stressmanagement #decisionmaking #procrastination #changeyourlife #haloeffectcoaching

$100 is less than a night out for two. But it can buy soooo much. $100 can buy you time. $100 can buy you energy. $100 can buy you peace of mind. So spend $100 to ✅ Start building the life you want. ✅ Start prioritizing YOU. ✅ Start living a better life. ✅ Start getting paid what you're worth. 🚫 Stop arguing with coworkers or loved ones. 🚫 Stop settling for less. 🚫 Stop putting everyone else and their brother before you. 🚫 Stop living a life you don't actually WANT. Because a $100 coaching session is less than a night out. Just sayin'. Get your half-off sessions here ➡️ https://lnkd.in/eQ2c7FAG #stressmanagement #burnout #changeyourlife #haloeffectcoaching