Thanks to my friend Christina Olsen for nominating me to share my #DefiantOriginStory. (a day late for #TBT - yesterday was a busy day!)
Many know parts of my story as I share openly in my #keynote talks and even most recently as the opening speaker at #TEDxMiami where I spoke about #HealthyResilience (I look forward to sharing the talk once it’s live on the #TED website in a few weeks).
My origin story is my “WHY” - it’s what has fueled me in life. I have long-since been determined to be better than my biology or my circumstances. I was born to a drug-addicted teenage mother who was very abusive to me; thankfully, I was adopted out of the environment at age 4. While I had a safe, loving adoptive family - we were very much in a lower socio-economic position so I began working at age 11 and by age 14 I stepped into my first leadership role as the assistant manager for the shoe store I worked at in high school.
Work was a safe place for me, one I excelled at. I felt very much in control - more than outside of work - I was in charge of my performance, the skills I acquired to advance, the hours I worked etc. I had planned to go to law school but I realized that I loved the corporate environment and my role as a leader so I pursued this path. I was recruited into my first executive role at the very young age of 24.
I made mistakes, particularly in my early days of executive leadership - I was fearful of showing emotions and vulnerability - I didn’t want anyone to question the queer young female executive. As I grew, I learned the value of, what I refer to, as Whole Human Leadership - being authentic, transparent, and vulnerable amongst other important leadership traits and actions (stay tuned for my book on this topic in the fall). I now openly share my stories - my lived experience, failures, and lessons - to connect, educate, and inspire. I share one of the only pictures I have of me prior to my adoption....from scared toddler to "likeable badass" as I've recently been called!
Thanks to Bryan Peña, CCWP and Defiant Solutions LLC for kick-starting the DefiantOriginStory!
#leader #Unstoppable #NoExcuses