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If you’re feeling a little overwhelmed about a busy holiday social schedule with family and friends, take a deep breath. 😤 Focus on your health routine 🍃 Many holiday traditions revolve around food. During the holidays, you may stay up late telling stories around the dinner table. You might eat less healthy foods and drink more than you usually do. That can be tough on your body. Solutions: Just because it’s the holidays, it doesn’t mean you need to drastically change your habits. But here are some healthy ones to keep in mind: Keep your sleep schedule intact. Make sure you’re getting at least seven hours of sleep each night. Being well rested is great for your physical and emotional health. Sneak in some exercise. If you go away for the holidays, pack your sneakers so you can go for a walk or a run. Or, if you’re sticking around, see if your gym has a holiday class schedule. (You can even exercise without leaving your home.) Or plan a fun activity that gets your whole family moving. Good options: Play soccer in the yard, go bowling, take a hike. Know your limits 🕰️ Figure out what to do when your stress level spikes. Give some thought to exactly what it is that makes a moment stressful. Know when you need to walk away from family members, friends or your spouse to keep the peace. Solutions: Ask yourself the following questions before family (or friend) gatherings: How do I want to handle stressful situations with my loved ones? And how do I want to feel? #holidaystress

Here are 8 healthy ways to help youth safely navigate the digital world: 👉 Define boundaries. One of the simplest ways is to limit their use of social media. Consider which sites, if any, you’re comfortable with them using and how. Clearly communicate your expectations, including the consequences of not meeting them. 👉Monitor their activity. There are several ways you can do this. For example, you might require them to add you to their social media groups so you can see their interactions. For social media accounts, ask them to allow you to follow their feeds to monitor their activity and potential trolls. It’s also helpful to require them to be in a shared area of the home when using the internet. Also, consider blocking sites that may cause them distress and let them know it’s OK to ask you questions. 👉Be realistic. Adolescents often find ways around parental rules and controls, such as keeping more than one social media account. 👉 Teach them security. What you post or say online can be difficult to take back. Many people can read, screen-grab, share and forward it. Encourage them to think carefully before posting or sending anything. 👉Set friend guidelines and privacy settings. Encourage them to use privacy settings to limit who can see their content and contact them. They should accept requests only from people they know and trust and keep their passwords private. 👉Be responsible and respect others. Help them understand anything they search for, share or post digitally can be tracked, copied, saved and shared. Make sure they know messages, videos and posts on any digital platform can be easily copied and shared. Encourage them to pause before they send, post or share anything, especially if they’re feeling strong emotions at the time. A good guideline is if they wouldn’t say it in person, they probably shouldn’t post or send it. 👉Share information. If they do come across something unsettling, talk to them about it in an appropriate way. Listen and answer any questions they may have. By staying calm and compassionate, you can help them process and move forward. 👉Help prevent cyberbullying. Make sure they know what cyberbullying is — using email, text or social media to purposely embarrass or hurt someone — and encourage them to tell you or another trusted adult if they are targeted or if someone else is. Set clear consequences if they participate in bullying behavior. (See “Bullying

Imagine you’re walking down the street on a tough day. Suddenly, a butterfly flits across your path, making you smile. As you start walking again, you realize you feel a bit lighter. Then, as you head into your favorite coffee shop, someone holds the door open for you. Maybe you let out a breath you didn’t even realize you’d been holding in. A little more weight lifts off your shoulders. 🏋️♀️ That’s the power of gratitude. The more we take time to notice the small things that make life worthwhile, the more we end up appreciating. 🧠 Ideas: Keep a gratitude journal Focus on the little things Try a meditation Send thank-yous Make gratitude a habit #gratitude #mindful #meditation

🍂 Secret #1: Keep your expectations in check Longing for drama-free holidays? It’s best to let that idea go. Holding on to the fantasy of a totally smooth holiday will just set you up for disappointment. Instead, recognize that everyone has flaws. (That includes you.) If you go into the holidays expecting perfection from anyone, you might find yourself being overly critical, she notes. You might get caught up in a cycle of finding fault instead of just enjoying the moment. Solutions: “Take the judgment out of the holidays,”. Instead, pay attention to all the good things that are right in front of you. Those could include delicious food, funny stories or a cookie swap with close pals. Try to go with the flow and enjoy the moment. 🍂Secret #2: Take a breather from social media Life is not a seasonal TV movie. But some people you’re connected with on social media might make it look that way. You scroll through posts on your phone and see perfectly decorated homes, fun parties and happy family gatherings. It’s easy to feel like your own festivities aren’t measuring up. But try not to compare your celebration to what you see on social media. And remember that social posts don’t always reflect real life either. Solutions: Try doing a social media detox during the holidays. Here are some ideas: Make it a point to power down your screens when you meet up with friends or family. Place your laptop or tablet in a drawer for a few days. Temporarily remove the social apps from your smartphone. 🍂Secret #3: Set a holiday spending budget Do your family or friends have their own holiday culture and rituals? Maybe it’s handmade decorations or big dinners around a crowded table. Maybe it’s a pile of well-wrapped gifts. Traditions play an important part in your life and keep you connected to your past. Don’t buy alone: Go in on a shared gift with other family members or friends. Buying one gift together might help cut down on the cost of bigger surprises. Buy local: Getting gifts from your local area helps save on shipping costs. Buying local also benefits your neighbors who own small businesses. Buy used: Shop on online marketplaces, used bookstores or charity shops to find gently loved items. #holidays #holidayswithfamily #holidaybudgets

Ohana Matters: Handling holiday stress: How to navigate tense political discussions at Thanksgiving 🦃 According to a survey conducted by Spruce Health, 64% of Americans say election-related stress is already affecting their holiday plans and 23% are considering skipping Thanksgiving altogether just to avoid talking politics. Featuring our very own Britt Young! 🌸 Hawaii News Now #hawaiinews #MentalHealthAwareness #thanksgivingstress #holidayseason

Meet the Team!🌺 Henry Lou-Goode, PMHNP-BC, APRN 🌴 Henry Lou-Goode, PMHNP-BC, APRN is a board certified Psychiatric-Mental Health Nurse Practitioner with eight years of experience working in the mental health field, including four years of experience with psychiatric medication management. As an Advanced Practice RN, he has worked with clients with severe and persistent mental illnesses in the community health and correctional settings, as well as helping working professionals improve and overcome their mental health struggles. He has expertise in treating adults with depression, anxiety, ADHD, OCD, PTSD, bipolar disorders, psychotic disorders, and personality disorders. 🌴Henry utilizes a person-centered approach with his clients. He believes in closely collaborating with clients to determine a medication regimen that is beneficial for the clients and is based on the most current research and evidence. He also incorporates supportive psychotherapy techniques to enhance client engagement and optimize treatment outcomes. 🌊Want to learn more? (808) 941-9648 http://spr.ly/6042s8nPk #mindfulness #life #ptsd #wellbeing #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #psychology #psychotherapy #love #wellness #depression #trauma #motivation #recovery #hawaii

The stories we tell ourselves shape our thoughts and emotions. We can just as easily uplift ourselves as we can bring ourselves down. Practicing positive affirmations encourages us to focus on our strengths and potential, helping us to challenge unhelpful thoughts. 🧠 😀 Positive affirmations are meant to be short, powerful statements that genuinely reflect your strengths, goals, values and desired areas of improvement. They often start with “I can,” “I will” or “I am,” and help you feel more confident and optimistic. For example: I can make healthy choices I can learn new things I will be kind to myself I will not compare myself to others I am worthy of love and respect I am stronger than my worries I matter I choose to focus on what I can control My past does not define me Today is a new day with new opportunities #affirmations #kindthoughts #youmatter

Tips for fighting SAD: Get as much sunlight as possible. While scientists don’t know exactly why SAD occurs, they do trace it to circadian rhythm shifts: The body’s “clock” is different when there’s less sunlight. While it can be cold during the winter months in places where SAD is most prevalent, it’s important to get outside as much as possible. Take a hike in nature, walk around your neighborhood or try a new winter hobby, such as fat-tire biking or snowshoeing. Also, arrange your home or office so you can sit by a window. ☀️ Consider vitamin D. While the science isn’t completely settled on vitamin D, it’s thought to promote serotonin activity. People in northern climates get less vitamin D from sunlight, and food alone might not give your body all it needs. Ask your doctor about taking vitamin D supplements. 🧘♀️ Get some exercise. Physical activity isn’t just good for your body; it’s also good for your mind. Research shows all types of exercise have immediate and long-term antidepressant effects — and it’s even more effective as you age. 🤳 Connect with friends. Look for ways to connect even with those far away. Just be sure to avoid talking about your problems too much. While friends can be great listeners, dwelling on negative feelings together (called “co-rumination”) can actually make depression worse. So be sure to support each other. But find friendships that distract you from the negative and make you feel positive emotions. #seasonaldepression #vitamind #connectingwithfriends

Meet the Team!🌺 Kelsi Yonting, LMFT 🌴 Kelsi Yonting, LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Hawaii with more than five years experience working as a Behavioral Health Specialist and Substance Use Counselor. 🌴She has worked with clients with a wide range of concerns including depression, anxiety, relationship issues, parenting problems, addiction, and other mental health conditions. 🌴Kelsi’s counseling style is warm and interactive. She believes in treating each individual with respect, sensitivity, and compassion, and doesn’t believe in stigmatizing labels. 🌴Her approach combines cognitive-behavioral, humanistic, psychodynamic and solution-focused counseling. She tailors your treatment to meet your unique and specific needs. 🌴It takes courage to seek for a more fulfilling and happier life and to take the first steps towards a change. If you are ready to take that step, Kelsi is here to support and empower you. 🌊Want to learn more? (808) 941-9648 http://spr.ly/6044s8Vd0 #mindfulness #life #ptsd #wellbeing #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #psychology #psychotherapy #love #wellness #depression #trauma #motivation #recovery #hawaii

Happy National Kindness Day from Xplor Counseling! 😊🙌 #nationalkindnessday