Women have been socialised differently to men. Because of that difference in socialisation, women today often live in a frenzy of friction between who they are and what they want with their innate nature as lovers and fighters, versus the socialising to be the Good Girl and be all things to all people. So much of my work as a coaching champion for women in midlife is helping them understand the context of their struggle to juggle it all, rather than constantly thinking they are failing by not meeting the preposterous expectations put upon us. When you understand the context, it means you can work for yourself, instead of against yourself. Women have been socialised to be agreeable and then we lose ourselves in the others around us. And one of the places where I have landed in terms of meeting the context where it is and keeping my sense of self is grounding. In my latest Your Midlife Matters column, I explore how grounding means you can take a moment to discern what do I want? versus what is expected of me? I'd love to know your thoughts!
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