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Asking for what we would like can sometimes feel vulnerable. Yet, if we don't ask, it is easy to slip into passive-aggressive behaviors. Today, notice how you feel when you make requests.

If you ask yourself what your top five values are, chances are these values are cover-up values. How do I know? Because everyone who does a deep dive into values, is surprised to find out they weren’t their values after all. A (real) value, drives your life and relationships. Otherwise cover-up values play in your mind but underlying values drive you. This makes relationships confusing. And drama-filled. Want to find your (real) values? Next time you’re upset with someone in your life, journal about why you’re upset, down to the very bottom of it. Be transparent with yourself. Don’t shut anything down by feeling right or wrong. Your values will become apparent. And when they do, you’ll understand your relationships and how you’d like to move in them. Don’t settle for a surface understanding when it comes to this. Because when you understand your values well, you get to be creative, clear-minded, and loving in your relationships. Without confusion. Once you find a value, poke around a bit more. Keep lifting it up and looking underneath. You’ll know you have it right when your conversations and your relationships feel fulfilling, regardless of whether they are smooth or bumpy. Reach out for help with this. I love helping you understand and direct your relationships for deeper fulfillment, solid trust, and lots more fun. - One of my (surface) values is nature. But, when I poke around I can see its actually connection. Nature helps me feel connected. And feeling connected is what I love.

Authenticity is key. Your clients want the real you. Show your personality. Share your journey. Be honest about your struggles. Connect on a deeper level. Vulnerability builds trust. Stand out by being yourself. Don't mimic others. Your unique voice matters. Let your values shine through. Embrace your flaws. They make you relatable. Remember, people buy from people.

Some wise words for this time of year.. So, when you’re in conversation, let go of the urge to plan your next statement. Take a breath, relax your mind, and give the person speaking your undivided attention. Let yourself be present, fully. When you walk into a room, slow down and really see it. Observe the details, feel the energy, notice the small things that make that moment unique. You’ll find that life becomes richer, fuller, and more meaningful when you learn to listen and observe completely. It’s not just about hearing words or seeing objects—it’s about feeling the fullness of everything around you. It’s about experiencing life, deeply and completely. - What do you believe we miss out on when we’re not fully present, and how does that impact our relationships and experiences? Credit Goes To The Respective Owner

Do you know what makes a memorable first impression? It’s not just about your attire or firm handshake. 🕴️🤝 The essence lies in your ability to connect authentically. When you meet someone new, listen more than you speak. Show genuine interest in their story and experiences. This not only helps build trust but also opens up deeper dialogues that can be mutually enriching. Remember, the art of creating a lasting first impression isn’t about perfection; it’s about authenticity and connection. So next time you're meeting someone new, focus on being genuinely interested in them rather than impressing them. Amazing things happen when people feel truly heard! 🌟✨ Your thoughts? Have any strategies that worked wonders for you? Drop them below! 👇📝

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One of the greatest lessons I've learned, and my clients learn, is that it matters who is around you, and how you interact with those people. We're an energetic expression and the people we spend time with, converse with and attract all hold valuable clues to the pitch of our particular frequency. Every single person you come into contact with can tell you something about yourself, your story and how you're currently showing up in the world. Ever had that experience of standing in line next to someone and they say something really profound that it's really memorable and surreal? Then imagine the amount of 'intel' the people closest to you are holding. Every one of them has a piece of the puzzle to the mystery that is you. This is more than setting boundaries and creating empowered relationships (that's a given). It's the understanding that your soul's expression, who you are at your deepest level, is constantly being reflected back to you - and holds amazing insights of your gifts, how to use them and what you're really here to do in the world. This is what I help my clients do, learn how to see the REAL them. Because sometimes our conditioning creates distortions that we can't see clearly. It can be a bit confronting to look at all of yourself at once, so it's helpful to have someone hold the mirror. That's what I do, hold the mirror so you can see your true reflection and show you how to adjust it so you can shine at your brightest. If you've been wondering how you could show up as a purer, lighter and the most authentic version of yourself, let's talk.

Embracing authenticity is a powerful tool that can free us from the exhausting charade of upholding facades. By allowing our true selves to shine brightly and unapologetically, we can unlock a new level of personal and professional success. It's time to let go of the fear of judgment and embrace our unique qualities. Remember, authenticity is not a weakness, but a strength that can help us build meaningful connections and achieve our goals.

Embracing authenticity is a powerful tool that can free us from the exhausting charade of upholding facades. By allowing our true selves to shine brightly and unapologetically, we can unlock a new level of personal and professional success. It's time to let go of the fear of judgment and embrace our unique qualities. Remember, authenticity is not a weakness, but a strength that can help us build meaningful connections and achieve our goals.