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A client doubts the value of your coaching services. How can you prove your worth? I was asked to contribute to this collaborative article to answer this questions. Here's what I would say to a client who is questioning the worth of my coaching: People consider hiring a coach to help them change something in their lives that they have not yet been able to change. Hiring a coach isn’t an investment in the coach, it is an investment in you. The moment you pay for a coach, transformation begins. By attending appointments focused on your issue, your awareness increases. Your brain learns that you are important and are worth making time for. This produces hope that things can change. It’s the combination of focused time, greater awareness and hope that creates the energy required to change. Coaches have the honor of witnessing our clients prove their worthiness to themselves. There is no greater gift.

Knowledge isn’t power. The application of knowledge is what makes the difference. As coaches and leaders, we’ve all been there. A client asks, “What would you do?” It’s tempting to give advice. To step in as the expert. But here’s the thing: information alone doesn’t create change. If it did, behavior change would be easy. The real power? Helping clients uncover how to take realistic, intentional action that aligns with their reality. Because even the best advice won’t stick if it doesn’t fit their life. The Science Backs This Up 🔹 The Intention-Behavior Gap (Sheeran, 2002) shows that even when people intend to act, external factors like habits and feasibility often block follow-through. 🔹 Self-Determination Theory (Deci & Ryan, 1985) emphasizes autonomy. People stick with actions they choose for themselves. 🔹 The transtheoretical model (Prochaska & DiClemente, 1983) reminds us that change is a process. Pushing advice too soon can create resistance. So, what’s our role? To guide, not dictate. When someone asks, “What would you do?” try this instead: --> Help them clarify their "why." --> Break big ideas into realistic steps. --> Focus on what aligns with their values and goals. Coaching isn’t about impressing clients with expertise. It’s about empowering them to find solutions they’ll actually follow through on. How do you handle it when clients ask, “What would you do?”

I see a lot of coaching service businesses built on "feel-good hippie crap". But effective coaching is verifiable science. Coaches who make a real impact for clients base their work on science backed by research. They have experience and they've tested the theories. They use numbers and lean into the scientific aspect, not hippie crystals, to demonstrate and articulate their messaging. That’s how they make a difference. That’s how they serve clients *better*. But importantly, your clients can independently research it. A lot of my clients are coaches. I'm honest and open about this. When they are questioned about their credibility or legitimacy, I always advocate them to: - Do the research, - Cite case studies, - Look at Ivy League schools papers or business cases. When it's based on qualifiable and quantifiable scientific study and metrics, you have absolute confidence in your offering and your ability to deliver. Do the work. Do the research. Figure out your facts. And stop talking about ******* crystals.

Six months ago, I seriously considered stepping into coaching within the industry I love. It was something I went back and forth on for a long time. Ultimately, I decided it wasn’t the right road for me not at this time. My energy and focus are needed in my business, even though, technically, the business doesn’t need me in the same way anymore. What I’ve learned along the way is this choose wisely and carefully. Nobody is going to grow or double your business for you, you have to put in the hard work yourself. Research who you want to work with, and don’t be drawn in by big promises or flashy results. Go with someone you genuinely vibe with, not someone claiming you can be just like them. After all, do you really know how well they’re doing behind the scenes? And as for the word authentic… I’m beginning to hate it. It’s become one of those buzzwords that’s thrown around as much as we English say “sorry.” Actions speak louder than words always. That being said, I’m not saying don’t get a coach. I think having a coach is a great thing it’s one of the best investments I’ve made in myself and my business. Just make sure you choose the right one for you.

“It’s like you gain a whole new level of understanding of the world." This powerful reflection from a client perfectly encapsulates the essence of coaching. Many of us, especially those who consider themselves leaders, are capable of solving problems and navigating life's challenges. But we don’t know what we don’t know, right? That’s where we put our focus during sessions. We uncover blind spots and create a truly safe, non-judgmental, yet challenging space where clients can explore their thoughts and feelings freely and fully. Oftentimes, this process leads to unexpected revelations and profound growth, aka “aha moments.” Here are some popular aha moments I’ve heard : “It disrupted my comfort zone.” It challenged them to question their assumptions and step out of their routines. “It exposed opportunities.” It revealed paths and possibilities that were right under their noses but had gone unnoticed. “It keeps me accountable for myself.” It held them to their commitments, pushing them to take action and make real progress. “It leveled up my awareness and consciousness.” It enabled them to confront their strengths and weaknesses and use them to their advantage. You see, coaching is not about solving problems for you. It’s finding solutions with you through facilitating new insights and unlocking deeper understanding. Imagine thinking knowing everything you need to know, only to discover there’s an entirely new perspective waiting to be tapped – just like this photo. 🙃 Well, that’s the power of coaching. Curious to see how it might support you in understanding yourself deeper and the world around you? Let’s talk. I’d love to answer your questions.

What motivates human behavior has been a topic of interest (and debate) for a very long time; even Aristotle had his theory about motivates human behavior. I'm biased bc I was "academically raised" on self-determination theory, but I also think it provides a simple, useful way to optimize our lives and our work. To (very) grossly summarize, intrinsic motivation is the drive to do something purely because you want to do it, and extrinsic motivation arises from factors outside of us: -Doing something because you enjoy it vs. doing something because you have to -Setting goals based on your values vs. setting goals based on someone else’s priorities -Focused effort to finish a report because you care about the impact of your work vs. because you don’t want to miss an impending deadline and look bad The action may be the same, but the motivation makes it hit differently. We usually have a mixture of intrinsic AND extrinsic motivation for tasks. 🥕 Being extrinsically motivated by something isn't bad, and sometimes the proverbial carrot is VERY motivating indeed! But when you do something because you're intrinsically motivated, you find an energy and powerful drive that is incomparable to any other source. In my Wild Path 1:1 coaching program, I work with clients to help them 1) identify what they are intrinsically motivated to do, and 2) align their resources of time, energy, and attention to doing MORE OF IT. From that place of energy and drive, achieving success becomes inevitable. And if you haven't already, check out my FREE Time & Energy template for an easy way to evaluate whether your time and energy are actually ALIGNED with your goals 👇 https://lnkd.in/g3iCSHXz

Why is “good enough” so hard to accept? This is a bit of a self-report, but... I used to spend hours tweaking my work, fine-tuning presentations and rewriting emails long after they were ready to go. I’d tell myself, “Just one more edit.” But I realized this wasn’t just about improving my work. It was about fear. - Fear of being judged. - Fear of not meeting impossibly high standards (mostly my own). - Fear that 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘦𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 isn’t good enough. Over time, I learned a better way: put your work out there early and iterate as you go. 𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽 𝘆𝗼𝘂: 1️⃣ You build confidence. Putting it out there, you’ll learn that it was probably already good enough. 2️⃣ You save time. Instead of over-editing, you avoid starting over if someone else has a different idea. 3️⃣ You create momentum. By acting, you break free from overthinking and get things moving. If perfectionism is holding you back, let’s talk. I help professionals overcome self-doubt, focus on what really matters, and build the confidence to succeed. 💬 Book a free chemistry call to see how coaching can help you. DM me or book it yourself through the Featured section.

What are you core values and goals ? how do they differ from each other as you keep traversing through the the day, weeks etc ? Discuss this with your coach I can discuss how core values and goals might differ for individuals and how they can evolve over time. Core Values: Core values are fundamental beliefs and principles that guide our behavior and decision-making. They serve as a compass, shaping our actions and defining what we consider important. Core values tend to be relatively stable over time. They are deeply ingrained and often remain consistent throughout an individual’s life. Examples of core values include honesty, integrity, compassion, loyalty, and respect. Goals: Goals are specific, measurable objectives that we strive to achieve. They can be short-term (daily or weekly) or long-term (months or years). Goals can change frequently based on circumstances, priorities, and external factors. For instance: Daily Goals: These might include completing tasks, exercising, or spending quality time with loved ones. Weekly Goals: These could involve work-related targets, personal development, or maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Long-Term Goals: These are broader aspirations, such as career advancement, financial stability, or personal growth. Differences: Nature: Core values are intrinsic and enduring, while goals are extrinsic and time-bound. Core values shape our character, whereas goals drive our actions. Flexibility: Core values are less flexible and resistant to change. Goals are adaptable and can be adjusted based on circumstances. Hierarchy: Core values serve as the foundation for setting meaningful goals. Goals align with our values and help us achieve what matters most to us. Remember that everyone’s core values and goals are unique. They evolve as we learn, grow, and adapt to life’s challenges. Discuss these in your upcoming coaching session

I’m a coach, and sometimes, I’m embarrassed to tell others. Don’t get me wrong—I love what I do, but sometimes, coaching language is too cringe. “Holding space,” “co-creating transformational journeys,” or “honoring the client’s inner knowing.” It’s as if coaches feel the need to wrap every concept in layers of flowery language. At best, it sounds poetic. At worst, it alienates the very people we’re here to help. My theory about jargon-heavy professions for a while has been that they are compensating for something and indeed, Brown, Ancich and Galinsky's (2020) research supported my hypothesis that people in lower-status roles often overuse jargon to signal expertise as a way of compensating for feeling undervalued or insecure. Here's the thing ... coaching has a lot to offer. It is powerful because it helps people discover their own insights and achieve their goals. It doesn’t need overly complicated language to stand its ground. In fact, I’d argue that this tendency toward jargon hurts our profession. It creates barriers for coachees who may not be familiar with the lingo, making coaching seem more esoteric than practical. Coaching should be for everyone, not just those fluent in “coach speak.” If we want coaching to be taken seriously as a profession, we need to simplify how we communicate. Jargon doesn’t make us sound more credible—it makes us less relatable. I’d love to hear your thoughts. What’s your take on the language we use as coaches? What can we do to make coaching more accessible?

DID YOU KNOW THAT SELF DISCIPLINE IS A POWERFUL SUCCESS INGREDIENT Self-discipline is the ability to control and regulate your own behavior, actions and decisions so you can achieve goals or keep to a set of principles, even in the face of temptations, distractions or challenges. Yes in staying persistent until you achieve your goals. 1. Start Small, Win Big: Instead of feeling overwhelmed by big goals, begin with 5-minute exercises that build momentum and confidence. These bite-sized actions boost self-control and pave the way for larger habit formation. 2. Understand what situations tempt you to stray from your goals. Knowing your weaknesses allows you to anticipate and navigate them, preventing derailment before it happens. 3. Silence the negative self-talk that sabotages your progress. Practice self-compassion, celebrate your efforts, and view setbacks as opportunities to learn and grow. 4. Harness the Power of "No": Don't be afraid to decline requests that drain your energy or conflict with your goals. Saying "no" empowers you to prioritize your well-being and focus on what truly matters. 5. Reward Yourself Strategically: Positive reinforcement works! Celebrate your victories, no matter how small, with meaningful rewards that align with your values. This fuels motivation and keeps you on track. 6. Surround yourself with supportive individuals who encourage your growth and hold you accountable. Sharing your goals and progress with trusted friends or a professional coach will boost your commitment and provide a vital support system. 7. Mistakes and setbacks are inevitable. Don't beat yourself up! View them as learning experiences and use them to adjust your approach and make even stronger progress moving forward. Sign up for coaching today! Dr. Grandmaster Coach Duri international Coaching & Mentoring Foundation (ICMF) +263773522350