Bivita Chhetri’s Post

I've been booze free 22 months. This is what it's taught me. Alcohol as much as I validated why it was ok, simply wasn't ok for me. • It drained my energy. • It took away my focus. • It made me think smaller. • It destroyed my sleep and clarity. • It robbed me of my peace of mind. • It stopped me from showing up in the best way possible.    It also had me doing shit that I knew was not part of the man I wanted to become. I carried extra weight because of it, I was also more anxious because of it. I subordinated to other peoples values instead of living in my own. I have goals and a vision that I want to realise. I asked myself is the person that gets to that vision this person with these habits right now? No was the answer. Overall I am in a much better place without booze. I have realised that life and everything in it is still there to experience without the need for alcohol, even better in so many ways. If you enjoy it fine. But if like I did you have that nagging wee voice inside your head saying there is more to life than just doing this time and time again, then maybe it is time to make a decision? If it is drop me a message I would be happy to share some insights. What is your thoughts on the old booze?

Have you ever tried to meditate?? You sit down, close your eyes, and suddenly your brain flows with lots of weird thoughts 👀 "Did I lock the door?" "Why did I say that awkward thing at the meeting an hour ago?" Instead of finding inner peace, your mind becomes a relentless chatterbox, constantly seeking new ways to stress you out 😌 One of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever received is - "Control the controllables and let go of the rest." 💯 You can’t control the weather, traffic, your results, your thoughts and etc. But you can control your reactions, your preparation, and how many times you re-check your email for typos (let's be honest, probably still too many :p) Life is a lot like baking a cake. You can’t control how your cake will rise in the oven, but you can follow the recipe, set the right temperature, and not open the oven door every five seconds 🥮 Stressing about the cake doesn’t make it bake faster; it just makes you a hot mess in the kitchen 😌 Nothing kills you faster than your own mind, but nothing saves you faster than a good laugh. So next time you find yourself spiraling into stress about things out of your control, take a step back, breathe, and find the humor in the situation 😀 After all, life’s too short to be taken seriously all the time! ❤️ Mayank Agarwal

Enjoying the beautiful cup of amazing coffee in quiet this morning. Sipping something in silence except for the birds and sound of traffic nearby on the intricately detailed freeway right outside my backyard is the closest to nature I get! I enjoy creating this beautiful life and the best part? Is my kids also give me time to just be. As a mom, I savor these short pockets of me time. It’s a ritual I’ve embodied so I can be my best self and not frazzled or stressed. My kids appreciate this and so do I. Me time isn’t selfish, cruel, mean, or means I’m ignoring my kids or husband. Putting me first was frowned upon for so long I ended up running on empty- empty cup, empty bowl, empty plate, empty energy-fumes that it was normal. But then…..almost 22 years ago, when my son was born, I found me time and that it was okay. Frazzled, chaotic, fumes, empty doesn’t add to a harmonious environment. Even just 5 to 10 minutes of me time can fill your cup up and it doesn’t have to be rigid prayers and bible time. It can be coffee, journal, affirmations, shower, coffee, singing, coffee, ☕️ or just sitting on the floor meditating. Or breath work. Seasons change and if you are in a season of littles, find some pockets of time where you fill up your cup. These seasons go fast. Your kids won’t think you’re mean. And anyone who tries to give you an unwanted opinion of how selfish and self absorbed you are for not being ON or TURNED UP all day with your kids, well, tell them first ,”bless your heart” then turn and walk away and block them. No one needs that negativity. Putting me first has been a ritual for many years and no one has needed therapy because of it. I’m a better person. It’s non negotiable.

Do not be in a hurry to form an opinion. Suppose - You are drenched in sweat. You are very thirsty, your throat is dry, But you are not getting water anywhere. In such a situation, you stand under the shade of a tree to get rid of your fatigue! Then the first floor window of a building in front opens and your eyes meet that person. Seeing your condition, that person asks you for water with a hand gesture. What would be your opinion about that person? (This is your first opinion!) The man signals you to come down and closes the window. The door downstairs does not open even after 15 minutes. Now what is your opinion about that person? (This is your second opinion!) After 16 minutes the door opens and the man says - 'I am sorry for the delay, but seeing your condition, I thought it best to give you lemonade instead of water, That is why it took some time!' Now your opinion about that person would have changed? Remember you haven't got any water or sherbet yet. (This is your third opinion about that person, mind you.) Now as you put the sherbet on your tongue, you realize that it has no sugar. How do you feel about that person now? (The fourth opinion takes shape!) Seeing your face full of sourness, the person gently takes out a sachet of orange glucose and says - put as much as you want according to your taste. Now your opinion about the same person would have changed again? Even in a normal situation, if our opinion is so hollow and constantly changing, then are we worthy of giving an opinion about anyone? In fact, this much has been understood in the world that if a person behaves according to your expectations then he is good otherwise he is bad. Forming an opinion according to your expectations is the beginning of sorrows. "Life is melodious with chocolate." -Melting Melody, customized home made chocolates🍫 ( Our policy -reuse and minimum wastage)

My top tip for today is the quick Breathe and Brew. This is a simple way to start your day with focus and hydration—no elaborate routines required. While the kettle is boiling or your coffee is brewing, fill your usual cup with plain water. Take two minutes to sip it slowly, pausing for a few deep belly breaths in between. This small habit clears your mind, hydrates your body, and sets a steady foundation for the day. Then, enjoy your coffee—because by that stage, the kids will probably be up, and you’ll need all the help you can get! Bonus: Repeat this whenever your mind feels scattered or you’re pushing through a mid-afternoon slump. If you’re ready to find simple ways to make life feel a little more manageable, let’s chat about how we can work together.

Joy list for the day: 1. Surprising a loved one 2. To put the apartment in order 3. To go traveling 4. Get some sleep 5. See the sunrise 6 Take a walk in the forest 7. Blowing bubbles 8. Buy yourself something good to eat 9. Learn new things 10. Go on a picnic 11. To thank someone 12. Listen to your favorite music 13. Go to yoga 14. Hug a loved one 15. Read a good book 16. Take a bubble bath 17. Make a healthy habit 18. Don't be late for anything today 19. Learn a foreign language 20. To play sports 21. Go to a concert 22. Play sports 23. Get caught in the rain 24. See a rainbow 25. Wrap myself in a blanket 26. Hear the birds singing 27. Cook your favorite dish 28. Smile at a loved one 29. Have dinner with friends 30. Watch a favorite movie 31. Walk barefoot on the grass 32. Spend a sunset What would you choose? Share in the comments?

6 Free Dopamine Hits to Fuel Your Day ⚡️ Because feeling good shouldn't cost a thing. 1. Step outside and feel the air    ↳ Let nature’s dopamine do its thing         (My fav are sunsets)     2. Bust a move    ↳ Shift the vibe, get your energy moving.     3. Blast your go-to hype song    ↳ Let it carry you into full-on good mood mode.     4. Find a patch of sunlight and just soak it in    ↳ Nature’s free mood boost     5. Do one unexpected act of kindness    ↳ It’s a boost for them and you.     6. Savor that coffee or tea    ↳ Like, really enjoy it. Full presence mode!     7. Take a two-minute daydream break    ↳ Go somewhere epic in your mind and let it fuel you. What's your go-to hype song??

Thanksgiving can bring up deep emotions like loneliness, guilt, or stress. If you're feeling this way, try a simple practice of Radical Self-Love: breathe love into your heart and allow compassion to flow through you. By focusing on your heart and breathing with intention, you can soothe your body and mind, restoring balance and harmony. This practice can help you navigate difficult emotions and connect more deeply with yourself and others.

coffee in one hand, confidence in the other COFFEE ☕️ & CONFIDENCE 🔥 (or for my non-coffee, drinking friends Cabernet and Confidence 😂 lol) For real though, the secret sauce is pretty simple: ✔️showing up as your best self will attract opportunities ❌being a Negative Nelly will repel them If you’ve ever woken up on the wrong side of the bed, 🖐🤚then you probably know exactly what I’m talking about. First you’re out of coffee, then you spill your coffee on your white shirt, you rush out the door and realize you have no gas, forgot about the meeting you had, and let’s not even start on how you’re pretty much being held together by dry shampoo! It seems like you’re always a step behind and can’t catch up 😞 But then there are those days you jump out of bed, full of energy and things are just…effortless. You not only wake up early, but you even have time to sit and read a chapter in your favorite book with your coffee before beginning your day, and then your favorite jams are blasting in the car......🎼 It feels like your feet barely hit the ground because you’re floating on cloud 9 ✨ The only difference between these two days is: PERCEPTION 10% of life is what happens to us, 90% is how we respond to it…( ain’t that the truth guys!) Remember energy flows where focus goes. Let’s make today a good one!! ❤️ It’s time to taco.... I mean "Tackle" your Tuesday! #alwaysbeclosing #loanofficer #quotes #confidence #powerofperception #lifelessons #wordsofwisdom #inspiration #motivation #coffeelover #dreambigger #goalgetter