Clare Maxwell’s Post

Practising gratitude and affirmations with my kids is a must for me. (and it’s not only because it's a good practice.) I had 3 miscarriages before my first child. Then I had a loss at 21 weeks after my 1st. It made me anxious during all my pregnancies. I didn't know my anxiety could impact my kids. Later, I came across this study by Emory University. They proved that kids inherit their parents' traumas. They trained some mice to fear a certain odor. (by pairing that odor with mild electric shock.) Their pups were born with the fear of that odor. "What if my anxiety impacted and affected my kids?" Yes, anybody would think that and it’s normal. But here’s what we can do instead now: Don't blame yourself → let go of your past. Shift your focus → "What can you do now? Practice affirmations with kids → help them. Practice gratitude → enforce positive thinking. Affirmations and gratitude will strengthen the positive neural pathways in kids. PS. If you want to read the full study, I'll leave the link in the pinned comments below. 👇🏻

🌼 Celebrating Random Acts of Kindness Day with Regenerative Psychology! Today, we embrace the power of kindness and its profound impact on mental well-being. Random Acts of Kindness Day serves as a beautiful reminder that simple gestures can create ripples of positivity in the world around us. At Regenerative Psychology, we believe in the transformative power of compassion, understanding, and connection. Here are a few ways to spread kindness today and every day: Smile Freely: A genuine smile can brighten someone's day and create a sense of warmth and connection. Listen with Empathy: Take a moment to truly listen to someone's story, offering a compassionate ear and validating their experiences. Offer Support: Extend a helping hand or kind gesture to someone in need, demonstrating that they're not alone on their journey. Celebrate Others: Acknowledge and celebrate the strengths and achievements of those around you, fostering a culture of positivity and appreciation. Remember, kindness is contagious! As we uplift others, we also nurture our own well-being, creating a community grounded in empathy, support, and connection. Join us in celebrating Random Acts of Kindness Day by sharing your acts of kindness or experiences below. Together, let's create a world where kindness thrives and mental well-being flourishes! 🌟 #RandomActsOfKindnessDay #RegenerativePsychology #SpreadKindness #MentalWellBeing

#StoryTime It's the weekend and I tried to squeeze in bonding time with my teenager. I had a heart-to-heart with my daughter Daniella, who is now in 7th grade, and what she shared left me both proud and reflective. She opened up about a classmate who had been unkind to her and her friends. Despite feeling embarrassed and annoyed, she chose to respond with grace, opting not to make a big deal out of the situation. 🌟 Instead, she showed empathy, recognizing that the root of the behavior stemmed from unresolved trauma and anger management issues in her classmate's life. What struck me most was my daughter's maturity in handling the situation. Despite her own past experiences with trauma, she's never allowed it to define her or turn her into someone unkind. It's a reminder that we have the power to choose how we respond to life's challenges, even when faced with difficult circumstances. 🌈 It's crucial that those struggling with trauma or mental health issues receive the support and resources they need. However, it's equally important to recognize that these struggles should never serve as justification for hurting others. 💔 We must encourage open communication, seek help when needed, and foster a culture of kindness and empathy. In a world where kindness can sometimes feel scarce, let's make a conscious effort to be the beacon of light. Let's choose kindness, not just towards others but also towards ourselves. Together, we can create a ripple effect of positivity and compassion that transcends any adversity. hashtag #ChooseKindness hashtag #SpreadLove 💖

#Flashbackfriday I learned the hard way that I was a little girl in a grown woman’s body.👧🏽Grab a tissue ! My inner child manifested in various ways as an adult, such as: 1. Emotional reactions: I would have these intense outbursts but it was me reacting strongly to situations or stimuli that reminded me of past childhood experiences. 😡 Healing : Now instead of of reacting from tryna ; I have learned to observe my emotions & measure my reactivity by being self aware & aware of the sensations in my body 🧘🏾♀️ 2. Behavioral patterns: My emotional outbursts were a reaction to me not feeling safe enough to express myself as a way of avoiding conflict or repeating unhealthy relationship dynamic by being in a relationship with weed. 😪 Healing : Now instead of avoiding conflict I write a letter to see how i feel ; & i am fostering human connection & more healthy relationships. 👯♀️ 3.Needs and desires: Emotionally my needs & desires from childhood continued to influence my adult relationships and decisions. Healing : Now this is one that I am actively working through as I learn to reconnect . Instead of feeling like a burden , I will call my mentor for advice . Or instead of thinking that I’m “bothering” my friend , they may need to talk to me just as I need to talk to them 👩❤️💋👩 This journey has been anything but easy ; & i know it’s far from over . But I can already see by how transparent i am , how my behaviors have improved, & how I refuse to accept the LESS than bare minimum anymore that ITS WORKING !!! #innerchildhealing #mentalhealthawarenessmonth #traumahealing #healingjourney #spiritualhealing #traumaresponse #emotionaleating #transparency #vulnerabilityisstrength #alchemyofsouls #deathandrebirth

I have taken lots of clarity calls and 80 percent of women are struggling from this. I felt the need to address these concerns 👇 1. Do you feel extreme attachment or detachment from people around you ? 2. Do you feel like your creativity has run dry, and there's nothing left inside you? 😞💭 3. Do you carry the weight of guilt, like something is holding you back? 😔💭 4. Do you feel consumed by your own emotions, struggling to find peace? 😔💔 5. Are emotional ups and downs a constant part of your life, leaving you drained? 🌊😢 6. Do you turn to escape as a way to avoid facing the reality of life? 🚪🏃♂️ 7. Are you giving so much love and obsession affection, but never receiving it in return? 💖😭 8. Have you gone through multiple miscarriages? "If you answered 'yes' to all these questions, then my friend, trust me—you need healing. 💖 Comment 'yes' in the section below, and I’ll help you begin to heal your wounds. 🌿✨"

𝙃𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙃𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙚𝙙 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙄𝙣𝙣𝙚𝙧 𝘾𝙝𝙞𝙡𝙙 𝙔𝙚𝙩? 𝙄 𝙃𝙚𝙖𝙡 𝙄𝙣𝙣𝙚𝙧 𝘾𝙝𝙞𝙡𝙙 𝙖𝙩 35 Ever wondered how your past affects your present? Healing your inner child can bring profound transformation. Start by asking yourself: 1️⃣ What childhood experiences have left a lasting impact on me? 2️⃣ How do these past events influence my current behavior and relationships? 3️⃣ What unmet needs did I have as a child, and how can I fulfill them now? 4️⃣ What self-care practices can I adopt to nurture my inner child? 5️⃣ How can I reframe negative childhood beliefs into positive ones? Reflecting on these can help you understand and heal past wounds, leading to personal growth and well-being. Remember, it's never too late to give yourself the love and compassion you deserve. #InnerChild #SelfCare #PersonalGrowth #MentalHealth #SelfLove

I want you to read this to yourself like you read to your kids, nieces or nephews for story time. Grab a warm drink and let's go. In the hustle and bustle of life's daily grind, We often forget to take a moment to unwind. We push our boundaries until we're in a bind. Before you know it. you've lost your mind. We give and pour, till there's nothing left, Do you nourish your mind, or have energy theft? "You can't pour from an empty cup," they say, For self-care is vital in every way. Everyday. (repeat this) So let's pause for a mindful moment, breathe deep and slow. Let the worries arise and flow! Imagine the body's stresses begin to let go. Fill up your cup with goodness, love & know, That you are not alone in life. Whether you are a dad, friend, mom, or wife. Self care matters to all. So pour it into a cup that's tall. Nourish your body, mind, and soul, With kindness, therapy, and compassion become whole. So remember this lesson, simple yet profound, To care for yourself, let self-love abound. For only when your cup is full, bubbly, and bright, Can you pour into others with all your might. If you got this far, way to go. A reminder to let it all go. For those that don't know I am a registered play therapist even though my current focus is serving adults. I help caregivers increase their parent-child relationships. This is a great reminder to take care of yourself so you can take care of others especially in the summer. Poetry is a great tool for kids and adults. Maybe I'll make a short story on this. Hope you enjoyed. #poetry #therapy #humor #fun #reminder #fyp #self #healing #parenting #mom #dad #adults #mentors #caregivers #takecare #empty #full #cup #energy #selfcare #poem #selfcompassion #coping #therapy #mentalhealth

Finding PEACE hasn't always been easy for me. When I was diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder (DID), envisioning a life free from triggers or the paralysis of my wounded parts seemed impossible. But I made it my mission to heal and embrace joy, peace, and balance daily. It's been a challenging journey, but I'm grateful for every experience that has brought me here. Learning to love every part of myself was key. I realized that each part had helped me survive life's toughest moments. Now, I'm deeply grateful for every aspect of who I am. Tears of joy flow as I reflect on the healing that came from simply learning to love myself. Self-AWARENESS and self-CONNECTION were crucial. Calming my mind to bring awareness and connection to each moment helped me integrate and calm my nervous system. Now, I live with peace, calmness, and immense joy, which is my true essence—and the essence of all of us. I'm excited to invite you on a journey of self-connection through my masterclass. I'll share personal stories and tools that have been pivotal in my healing journey. Check the comments for more information about the FREE online 5-day Masterclass starting on May 20th. Thank you all for being a part of my journey and for sharing your presence and gifts with me. #InnerPeace #HealingJourney #SelfLove #SelfAwareness #SelfConnection #DIDAwareness #HealingToPassion #DanceToUplift Live in Love, Shalay

Dear Younger Nadine, You stand there, full of youth and hope, unaware that those who claim to love you most can sometimes hurt you deepest. Your vision of love—built on connection and shared dreams—is beautiful, but you'll soon learn that for some, love is a mask for darker needs. The lesson ahead will shake you to your core. It will be painful and confusing, but listen closely: it won't break you. From this trauma, you will rise. Your pain will become purpose, your anguish a beacon of hope for others. You'll become a teacher, Nadine. Your experiences will educate women about toxic love. You'll create a guide of red flags to help others avoid your fate, and offer a roadmap for those already trapped to reclaim their power. Right now, nothing makes sense. But one day, you'll understand that this crucible forged you into a warrior and healer. Your pain will become your triumph, and in saving others, you'll discover you've saved yourself. With love and strength, Your Future Self #narcabuse #traumabondrecovery #domesticviolence #traumabond #pathologicallover This is not therapy. Seek professional support when necessary. My content is not a substitute for professional counseling.

Do you like small talk? 🗣️ How is your wife, husband, child, dog, cat? 🐕 🐈 What do you enjoy doing? Where are you from? 🌎 How is work or school? What do you do? 👨⚕️ 👩🏭 Tell me more! Small talk can be personal but... personal questions are hard to answer for someone with lived experience of selective mutism / SM! Did you know that factual things are easier to say than personal opinions? It is more helpful if you start speaking about yourself first in conversations with someone with SM without asking too much. If you would like to know more - Assertive Voices will be at EK Collective - Flexible Workspace on Friday 25th October 2024 at 12pm for a free information session on selective mutism. To book see the link below. October is Selective Mutism awareness month. Please share this with your network. THANK YOU. 🙏😀 #conversations #selectivemutism #socialanxiety #communicationload