Jenni Rock Co-Parenting Without Conflict’s Post

💔 When Your Child Becomes a Weapon One of the hardest aspects of parental alienation is seeing your child caught in the middle of adult conflicts. If this is happening, take a deep breath and remember: ✅ Stay consistent in your love and presence. ✅ Avoid retaliating or speaking poorly about the other parent. ✅ Seek support to navigate the legal and emotional challenges. You are your child’s safe space. Let’s work together to keep it that way. 🌟 https://lnkd.in/eERbad86

🚸 Case Study: John's Journey 🚸 John couldn't agree on a custody schedule with his ex. Their different work schedules and priorities led to constant clashes, affecting both John and his child. We helped them create a fair, balanced schedule that considered both of their needs and, most importantly, the best interest of their child. By putting their child's needs first and finding compromises that worked for both parties, John and his ex were able to establish a co-parenting arrangement that benefited everyone involved. Curious about John's strategy? Comment below to find out more! Let's explore John's journey and apply his insights to our own co-parenting situations. 📅 https://lnkd.in/eYqTTEAd

So true and so real

MAC: Childhood. What do you think in this picture what situation between adults the child sees. Options for answers that the children told me: 1) the couple is dancing 2) the couple is arguing 3) Dad protects the girl because mom wants to punish her 4) Dad attacks mom 5) A new guy wants to meet my older sisterand she don't 6) Againand again, my brother talks to the girl, but promised to help me ....... there were many ideas, they couldbe divided into 2 main categories: good (as #1) and bad (as#2). It all depends on what is happening in the family, how relatives behave. A child is a mirror of the parents. P.S: I like the 1st one.

What’s more powerful? Your hatred for your ex or your love for your child? Unfortunately our adversarial system of law encourages hatred, cruelty, war and winning by whatever destructive means necessary over positive, constructive and child focused solution based ways of dealing with the challenges of separation and divorce. The adversarial method is a profiteering abomination completely inadequate for issues involving children or survivors of interpersonal violence. Our courts have lost their wisdom in the name of greed and lust for power. Where once King Solomon declared a child be cut in two then awarded custody to the party who sacrifed their award to put the child’s well being first, today’s adversarial courts routinely award custody to the party who fights more ruthlessly (and pays the most) to claim their entitlement, thereby destroying many children and their families in the process. Our courts have become dirty and dangerous political forums fuelled by lawyers who care more about winning and building a profitable brand than about truth, justice or child positive outcomes. As a child welfare counsellor with thousands of hours in family court I’ve seen too many children and parents destroyed by this terrible system of capitalist legal warfare. My heart aches for the many children and families destroyed by this profiteering legal meat grinder. Sometimes the best thing to do is abandon the potentially hazardous legal options and focus all your attention and love on your child. Your children need peace, safety and your attention more than anything. Please don’t let hate and a legal retainer drive you to madness, harm your child or take away from their precious time with you. There are few predators more dangerous or destructive in our world than a lawyer willing to do whatever it takes to win and rake in profits. Please love and protect your child first. In Solidarity ❤️🩹🧸

Empower your child with the #1 most important skill: intuition. As a parent, nurturing your child's innate sense of intuition is paramount for their safety and self-esteem. Learn how to foster and trust their intuition with insightful tips from the Badass Grandma blog. From understanding intuition to practical steps for safeguarding against danger, equip your child with invaluable tools for navigating the world with confidence. 🧠👧 Read the full blog here ➡️ https://lnkd.in/gxeyZfAZ #parentingtips #childsafety #intuitiondevelopment #empoweryourchild #badassgrandma #trustyourinstincts #safetyfirst #parentingadvice #raisingconfidentkids #knowledgeispower

If you’re finding yourself with shared custody of your children, here are some key things to consider so you can optimize time with your kids: - Keep it simple. Lunch dates and intentional conversations about what’s going on in their lives can carry more weight than extravagant trips or events. - Remain undistracted. Putting away your phone and not fielding work calls during your time with your kids will make them feel as though they are important, especially as their lives are changing. - Avoid venting. Share your feelings with others in your support system–friends, other adults in your family, or a therapist–but not your children. Don’t put them in the middle of any conflicts you may have related to the separation. - Be consistent. Establish rules that are implemented in both parents’ homes. Concrete guidelines for things like homework, curfews, bedtimes, and bad behavior will provide stability for your children. - Develop a shared interest. Having shared experiences with your kids will help build your relationship and establish memories that will last a lifetime. Comment below if you have any other suggestions!

If you’re finding yourself with shared custody of your children, here are some key things to consider so you can optimize time with your kids:   - Keep it simple. Lunch dates and intentional conversations about what’s going on in their lives can carry more weight than extravagant trips or events.  - Remain undistracted. Putting away your phone and not fielding work calls during your time with your kids will make them feel as though they are important, especially as their lives are changing. - Avoid venting. Share your feelings with others in your support system–friends, other adults in your family, or a therapist–but not your children. Don’t put them in the middle of any conflicts you may have related to the separation. - Be consistent. Establish rules that are implemented in both parents’ homes. Concrete guidelines for things like homework, curfews, bedtimes, and bad behavior will provide stability for your children. - Develop a shared interest. Having shared experiences with your kids will help build your relationship and establish memories that will last a lifetime.   Comment below if you have any other suggestions!

Supporting your child during court proceedings is one of the most important things you can do as a parent. 🩵 Throughout my work as a Guardian ad Litem, I’ve seen how parental support can make all the difference in helping children feel safe and secure during this challenging time. Here are a few ways you can support your child: 🌱 Keep Communication Age-Appropriate: Share only what they need to know, using language they can understand. 🌱 Be Reassuring: Let them know they are loved and that the situation is not their fault. 🌱Create Stability: Stick to routines as much as possible to give them a sense of normalcy. 🌱 Model Calmness: Children often mirror emotions—staying calm can help them feel at ease. Remember, your child’s emotional well-being should be the priority. If you’re navigating court proceedings and need guidance, I’m here to help. Interested in learning more? Reach out to us at 305-903-2500. Together, we can ensure your child feels supported every step of the way. 🩵

Gaslighting by an alienating parent is a deeply damaging form of emotional manipulation, exerted upon their own vulnerable child. This insidious behaviour involves a range of tactics aimed at distorting the child's perception of reality, especially concerning the other parent. From denying positive experiences to fabricating false accusations and revising history, these actions plant seeds of confusion and doubt, profoundly affecting the child's mental and emotional well-being. By isolating the child and deflecting blame, the alienating parent further reinforces their control. Such manipulation can lead to a breakdown in the child's relationship with the other parent and a lasting impact on their self-esteem and trust. Recognising and addressing these behaviours is crucial to safeguarding the child's best interests, necessitating intervention and support from concerned parties, including therapy and, when necessary, legal action.