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"What compels you to tolerate disrespect and to be torn in a never ending tale of emotional drama? Is it love or attachment?" 👉 Trust me, your soul knows it exceptionally well when you are not longer operating out of love, rather your motivation to stay in a relationship is the fear and its many layers that come with deep attachment. 💯 And this is what happens in a narcissistic relationship - there was never any love to begin with from their side. While you chose to shower your love, attention and care on them, they were always looking to play a game of control and power at your expense. 🎙️ They always wanted and still want the highs that come with keeping you stuck in the web of lies they created so that you are running in cycles to keep them happy and get their attention as well as support while they only throw occasional crumbs of 'fake love' at you to keep your hopes alive. 🌀 And all the while, they lie to you, disrespect you, speak condescendingly, mock you and humiliate you while the attached part of you waits for that one day they finally see your worth and give you the love or recognition you deserve. 🎯 But that day is never going to come because they already know your worth and are doing everything to break that so that they can make you dance to their tunes. Still want to be a puppet in their hands❓ DM 'healing' if you have enough of the manipulation and now want to take back the reins of your life in your hands.📩❤️ #thedebashmitachakraborty #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse #emotionalabuse #awakening #selflove
"But they must provoke a response...." We can usually stop them at this point. This is the reason why we must moderate our response. This response must not in any way offer "supply". The attention and control they seek and crave. Grey Rock is a good way, but it may have some weakness... I discovered what I call "Blank Wall", very similar, but with a few differences, before I learned about Grey Rock. I was in a hoovering episode with the covert across the street at the time. There are several nevers... 1. NEVER use the word "You" or derivations in your reply. 2. NEVER directly make it about them or what they said. We use their tactic of deflection here... OR, we make it just a short GENERAL statement. Very Bland, but not really addressed to them Almost like you are talking to someone else. But when you respond, talk "through and beyond" them.. 3. NEVER put or use ANY emotions into your words. Say it like ordering lunch at a restaurant. This takes emotional supply out of the picture. They don't get the drama, and response they wanted. "Disarmed provocation". 4. At the end of every communication... We STEAL the attention for ourselves!!!!! "Thanks for giving me attention." Lol... Covert stopped hoovering.
I also see... How Love can become "Attachment".... I would think that would be from the Trauma Bond.... Its not Love .. you're right, I think.
Emotional Researcher at Happiness Is No Charge
3moBlank Wall.... Ever practice tennis or ping pong against a wall? Right... The wall always wins, and it dont care .. In this case, WE become the wall... And just blandly tap the ball back whichever way it goes.... We can tap it back, or left or right, or put it on the floor... And walk away ... I realized that I had control here .. It can actually be FUN... Might not work well on a psychopath so be sure of what type of critter you're dealing with, but it's worth a try.