In my adult life, I can not remember a time I didn’t feel alienated from the equestrian industry. A sport that my social life revolved around as a child, to something now incredibly lonely.
Although cowboy culture is historically tied to black and brown communities, nowadays, riding is often ultra conservative and tradition-bound, making it tough to navigate as a person from any marginalized community. As a trans person who rides, I’ve spent years feeling isolated and alienated in this sport, with the love for the horse being the only thing that keeps me in it.
So, I posted about it on TikTok, half-expecting a few people to relate. I don’t post about my horse too much, because I think she is not relatable, but the responses shocked me. In the comments, hundreds of LGBTQ+ people—some already in the industry, others who have since left, some who were too scared to even get involved—opened up. They shared stories of feeling just as alienated or, in some cases, even unsafe around barns, trainers, and the community.
What hit me hardest was the sheer volume of responses. I was seeing my own private struggles become so much more valid, as numerous others echoed the same feelings. “I’ve never had an original experience,” or however that trending phrase goes.
This is where social media time and time again proves its power. By connecting online, we see each other’s experiences, build networks of support, and bring visibility to the numerous voices calling for an inclusive, welcoming horse industry. This visibility doesn’t just stay online; it empowers people to reclaim their space in real life. The more we speak up about who we are, the more we chip away at the exclusivity that is holding back the equestrian industry. Social media doesn’t just create content; it creates community, and that community can become a force for real, lasting change.