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24 of them thangs! 24 years ago today, I married my favorite person. Four years before that, we were two scared unwed teenage parents. 🤰🏾 Statistics and many around us were quick to let us know the odds were against us. 📉 - Less than 2% finish college before age 30. - 61% of young women who have children in college do not complete their degree. - Boys born to teen mothers under age 19 are 2x more likely to go to prison. - Only 2 out of 10 teen fathers eventually marry the mothers of their children. - 48% of those who marry before 18 divorce within 10 years. An advisor even suggested we terminate if we wanted any chance of a future (a la Lauryn Hill’s “To Zion”). But praise God, that was not our story (1 Corinthians 15:10). It can be easy to let negative talk keep us in fear and tied to the confines of others' limiting beliefs. It doesn’t have to be that way. 🙏🏾 🖊️ Control your pen: Determine that you get to write your next chapters. Don’t allow others to project their history on you. Their story does not predict your trajectory. 🫂 Set Boundaries: Limit your exposure to negative individuals. Surround yourself with supportive, positive people who uplift you. (See previous post about building a strong supportive network) 🍭 Remember your POP (Pillars of Purpose): Make decisions based on your pillars of purpose, which are rooted in your principles and values, NOT the opinions of others. Your life’s story is unique, and you have the power to shape it regardless of what others say.

I survived a nasty divorce, getting arrested, and losing the right to see my kids. But I didn’t just survive — I transformed trauma into triumph.🔥 Here’s what I learned: An event is just an event. → Acceptance releases resistance. → Nothing has meaning until we assign it. → Explaining the event in the fewest words removes the emotional charge. The result? Shifting your perspective on tough events becomes your superpower. 🦸♂️ Every day, I: 1️⃣ Focus on the present moment and use the movie metaphor. 2️⃣ Acknowledge the difference between a person and their behavior. 3️⃣ Observe others’ perspectives without judgment, through their lens. 🌟Because YOU are the star of the movie called Your Life. 🎬You step into the spotlight when you surrender to any scene. Have you ever turned a bad scene in your movie into a good one? ♻️ Repost to help others rewrite the scripts to their next scene.

A bunch of us were sitting in a jeep, watching this waterbuck, when someone in the back (I won’t name names) blurted out, “Bummer of a birthmark!” The laughter startled the poor thing, and it quickly ran off, disappointing everyone. It was funny, but later I thought about how often we say or do things we regret. Scaring a waterbuck is nothing compared to some of the things I wish I could take back. Regret is a strange thing. It stings, but it can also wake us up. As C.S. Lewis put it, “God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains: it is His megaphone to rouse a deaf world.” Is God shouting to you? Regret, like pain, can be a tool for growth. But Lewis also warned against dwelling on the past and being paralyzed by it. In The Great Divorce, Lewis explores the idea of regret through characters who face choices about holding on to their pasts versus moving toward redemption. He implies that regret, if used constructively, can lead to transformation rather than despair. This is where the grace of God overcomes regret and despair. It can be especially powerful in the workplace! Do your words at work lift people up, or tear them down? Watch this… https://lnkd.in/gEjZ98_T May 2025 find you living in the moment and trusting God for what’s ahead instead of re-living the past. #owner #ceo #president #faithbased #growth #regret #tool

Here’s a quick story for you: Joe and Sally were married and owned a home together, and Sally had two kids from a previous marriage. When Sally died intestate – that is, without a will – the assumption was that her half of the home she shared with Joe would go to him, and he would own it 100%. Wrong! That’s not what happens in many states, including South Carolina. Instead, her property was disposed of according to state intestacy law. Half of her half of the house went to her husband Joe. The other half of her half of the house went to her kids. So Joe owned 75% of the house and his stepchildren, collectively, owned 25% of the house. Owning just 25% may not sound like much, but it gave Sally’s children leverage. When Joe wanted to sell the house, they agreed to sign the deal – as long as they got 50% of the proceeds. This is not what Sally wanted. Unfortunately, dying without a will can create complicated legal situations for heirs, and the battle over assets can permanently strain previously good relations between family members. We've seen it too many times to count. The moral of the story is that you should not leave it up to state law to determine what happens to your assets after you’re gone. You should have a will, even if your estate is not large or complicated. A will is a simple, legal, and relatively inexpensive way to make your wishes known so you don’t inadvertently put your family members in difficult situations.

𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐑𝐞𝐛𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐀𝐭𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐖𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐖𝐢𝐟𝐞 Providing support to men who want to rebuild attraction with their wife. Advice to help you be confident in yourself & create the relationship you really want. A common question of the lonely husbands is “How can I rekindle her desire for me?” Spoiler alert: There’s a different question you should be asking first. https://lnkd.in/eRMrvFrM

Ever thought about the "what ifs" of love? Like, what if things don't go as planned? We're talking about the big stuff—breakups, divorce, or even saying goodbye. It's not the cheeriest chat, but it's one we've got to have. Check out our latest blog for some real talk on protecting your love story, no matter the ending. Read the blog for details. https://lnkd.in/gcfgcU-i

Hey there! Ever thought about the "what ifs" of love? Like, what if things don't go as planned? We're talking about the big stuff—breakups, divorce, or even saying goodbye. It's not the cheeriest chat, but it's one we've got to have. Check out our blog at cklhlaw.com for some real talk on protecting your love story, no matter the ending.

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It's easy to let our past experiences or current struggles define who we are. We often hear people say, "I am divorced," when in reality, it’s more accurate to say, "I went through a divorce." Or, "I am a failure," when the truth is, "I am going through a difficult time." When we attach our identity to these experiences, we limit ourselves, confining our sense of self to moments or phases in our lives. We begin to see ourselves only through the lens of what has happened to us or the roles we've taken on. Our identity should be more than a collection of past experiences. It’s about the person we are becoming, the values we hold, and the potential we have to grow and contribute in ways that go beyond any label. So, let’s start embracing the idea that we are dynamic, ever-evolving beings. Let’s resist the urge to box ourselves in by our past or present and instead, focus on the endless possibilities of who we can become.

A childhood of abuse from an alcoholic father. Failures & suspensions in school. Prison. Divorce. Arguments with his wife. I worked with an executive coach recently, and these were some of his personal experiences that he shared. Some of the stories were raw, shocking, and cringeworthy. Didn't this guy know you're supposed to keep the skeletons in the closet?! What was he thinking? Didn't he know that building a reputation and personal brand is about celebrating your strengths and hiding your weaknesses? Rather than losing respect, he gained credibility. I thought--"wow, this guy is imperfect and flawed and has traumas…LIKE ME!" He understood the power of vulnerability. Vulnerability doesn't make you weak. It makes you human. It makes you relatable. Vulnerability is about being real--warts and all. Perfection is a fairytale. Most of your clients, employees, and teammates stopped believing in fairytales a long time ago. And the ones who still believe already know you're not Prince Charming. So don't pretend like you are! Acknowledge weaknesses, shortcomings, failures, and mistakes. Be vulnerable. By opening up, you won't lose credibility; you'll gain respect and trust.