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In psychology, there’s a saying “If it’s hysterical, it’s historical.” When you’re caught in a negative thought loop, you’re usually trying to work out an old wound, an experience (or set of experiences) from the past that hurt and left you wounded. That said, you can ask yourself: What experience am I reliving here, what deeper wound or core experience has this current problem triggered in me? Do I feel unheard, invalidated, unloved, unimportant, not enough…? And if I were to solve this current problem, figure it out, win the argument in my head, what would I get to feel then, who would I get to be, and what would be resolved at a deeper level?

🧠 7 Steps to Defuse Our Most Dangerous Emotion: Anger 🧠 Anger is a natural emotion designed to change things, but it’s what we do with it that really matters. Here are the key steps to manage your anger and others’ anger effectively: 1. Recognize Rage: Identify what you or someone else wants to change. 2. Envision Envy: Use envy as motivation to achieve your goals without bringing others down. 3. Sense Suspicion: Understand that suspicion often stems from fear of losing value. 4. Project Peace: Use mirror neurons to calm the situation by projecting peace. 5. Engage Empathy: Show that you value the other person’s feelings. 6. Communicate Clearly: Use clear language to understand and address the root cause of anger. 7. Trade Thanks: Express gratitude to reinforce mutual value and safety. Respect is at the core of managing anger. It enhances trust and reduces conflict. Remember, there is nothing wrong with anger—it’s how we handle it that makes all the difference. Read the full article below. #AngerManagement #EmotionalIntelligence #Leadership #WorkplaceWellness Joseph Shrand, MD

Why Do We Bring Up the Past in Arguments? 🧠💭 The Psychology Behind It 💥 🧠❤️ 🎯 Written by Nonnozita Ever find yourself in the middle of an argument and, out of nowhere, an old issue sneaks in? Suddenly, you’re not just talking about the dishes; you’re reliving that night they forgot your birthday two years ago! 🎉💥 But why do we do this? Why does the past creep into the present? Let’s uncover what’s going on inside our minds during these heated moments. #PsychologyOfArguments 🧠❤️ #Relationships The Brain’s Trick: Why Memory and Emotion Collide 🌪️ In arguments, our minds aren’t just cataloging facts—they’re supercharging memories with emotions. Psychologists call this “emotional tagging,” meaning memories attached to strong feelings (like anger, sadness, or disappointment) stand out in our minds (Kensinger & Corkin, 2003). So, when we argue, the brain digs through similar past emotions to make connections. 🎯 Think of it this way: our minds are like super-efficient librarians, reaching for old emotional “files” whenever we experience familiar tension. These tagged memories resurface because our brain believes they’re relevant—especially in conflicts. #EmotionalMemory 📂🔄 #MindAndMemory The Need for Closure: Why Unresolved Issues Stick 🧲💔 Ever wonder why you keep revisiting that one unresolved fight? Blame it on the “Zeigarnik Effect,” a tendency for unfinished or unresolved experiences to stay in our minds longer (Zeigarnik, 1927). That means if we leave past conflicts hanging, our brain keeps them open, hoping for closure. So, in new arguments, our brain seizes the chance to try and “close the loop” on past issues—even if it’s not the best time. Ever felt like your brain just won’t “drop it”? It’s not stubbornness; it’s psychology! #ClosureQuest 💫💔 Emotional Baggage: Why the Brain Replays Old Wounds 📼💥 Read the complete article on the link below... https://lnkd.in/d6URN7kt

Now, there is a major lesson from psychology about our thoughts and feeling vs. our actions. It is known as the “cognitive-behavioral” approach, where it explains that our thoughts about something determine how we feel about it and therefore act. In this regard, if you have positive thoughts about an exam coming up, then you’re going to feel excited and study harder. On the other hand, if you think negatively “I will never pass”, you may feel worried, and it will be difficult for you to concentrate. We can see how related they are, and it gives us an opportunity to replace some patterns of thoughts and actions to the detrimental society. Can you already suggest what to do when you realize that have only negative thoughts?

What is the 2 second rule in psychology? 🤔  Did you know that thoughts can fade from conscious awareness in just 2 seconds? 🧠 Think about that for a second.  If you have an idea to do something (like tell a client something important), unless you hold that memory alive in your mind, it may vanish 😶🌫️ Sometimes those intentions have important consequences, like taking your medication or turning a stove off after use. Yet unless the intention is acted out, they can easily slip away. 💊 🍳  Worse yet, retrieving those memories is not always successful.  We spend so much of our lives creating intentions to do things in the future, but thanks to delays, distractions or interruptions, the intention is easily lost.  So what's the 2 second rule?  If you have an idea that could have important consequences, you may have as little as 2 seconds to act on it. 💡⏰️  That act can be as simple as writing it down on paper, sending that text, taking your pills or even turning the stove off. ✍️  For example, I always forget to take the bins out before bin night. So now, I leave them at my front door the night before as a reminder (meaning I cant leave my house without doing them).  Our worlds are pretty complicated, and forgetting is easier than remembering. Acting intentions out, even in the smallest way, gets that intention out of your mind and into the world.  #memory #research #psychology

10 things in life you should always keep to yourself, according to psychology https://lnkd.in/eN9ypRQK

Everything is much simpler than we thought! The more I am studying psychology, the more I am getting to know that everything works on simple principles. We tend to overcomplicate things and keep worrying about that. One of the questions that is very common is: Why do we have negative thoughts? That is, why does our mind always keep searching for the negative aspects of any situation? The simple reason is "for our survival." From an evolutionary perspective, we tend to think about and find negative aspects of anything so that we do not get into trouble that may cause a loss of life. (If we go close to fire and our mind starts bombarding negative thoughts that we will get burned, this causes our sympathetic system to keep ourselves attentive and react immediately to save our lives.) We can think of it as our body's mechanism to protect us. But it's also very important to know that too many negative thoughts without any "valid" reason are detrimental. That is the time when we have to be conscious and ask for help if needed. For better clarity of our thoughts, we can write a journal and identify them, and afterwards, instead of wanting to stop them (which is not possible at all), we can learn to manage them.

7 circumstances in life where the best thing to do is remain silent, according to psychology https://lnkd.in/ePwe2Nq8

Psychology with Awareness Defines necessary - The Reality. Mind is amalgamation of clouds - which includes skills, talents, achievements but where do you use that, that what is necessary or mind field with deprived feeling of lack of status? the conscious one _ A default state of contentment, after basic needs are addressed which after longer duration feels bliss! the subconscious one is waiting for some imaginary goals to be achieved and wait to be happy -which after longer duration becomes stress, not @ ease manifest disease which means evening some external pleasure is a must. Unconscious one with lack or partial knowledge , totally dependent on external validation through mind and sense stimulation else every moment is suffering pain and misery,,,,not @ ease manifest disease.

Simple yet Profound change is easier than you think... It can’t be that simple, can it?! The fact that we make a picture or run a movie of a not so good feeling – or of "failing" – just overall bad ones – may very well be what the person is doing that is causing them an issue. It may have little to do with psychology, "disorders" (or diagnoses) or emotions. If they choose not to or don’t stop the behavior it will keep working as they designed it… to scare themselves, to have worry or get anxious or depressed, etc. What if (most of the time) the answer is simpler. What if they can stop doing this behavior (the response that is responsible for the experience they had)? People can obviously change the pictures or sounds or images they are making – what they are thinking – & do better for themselves. Can’t they?!