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🌟 Is Gen Z better prepared for marriage than previous generations? 🌟 In a world where relationship dynamics are constantly evolving, it's fascinating to explore how younger generations may have unique advantages when it comes to navigating love and marriage. From embracing vulnerability as a strength to seeking advice from modern relationship gurus like Matthew Hussey and Esther Perel, Gen Z has access to a wealth of resources and insights that previous generations didn't. At Grayfords, we recognise the importance of understanding the complexities of modern relationships. Our expert solicitors are here to provide tailored legal support for all your family matters, from prenups to divorce. Book your free consultation today and let us help you navigate the journey of love and marriage with confidence. 💖 #Relationships #Marriage #FamilyLaw #Grayfords

I meet with many individuals and couples that quickly realize that their marriage was a mistake. And by quickly I mean in a matter of weeks or months. In many cases, these are #arrangedmarriages, using #matchmakers, or courtships that started overseas, or progressed without a full understanding of the other partner’s goals, habits and proclivities. But even with secular couples (even those who cohabited at length before the marriage, and even took the step of having a prenup) sometimes the marriage simply is not viable, and this is recognized soon after the wedding. In many cases, the #marriagelicense was not even filed yet. And there is an urban myth that holds that you do not need to get a divorce if a marriage license is not filed. False! The good news is that for a very brief marriage that produces no children, there are very few legal issues that can become contested. There are very few actionable claims to spousal support, counsel fees or marital assets when a marriage is only a few months long. The bad news is that when the marriage is so short, emotions run high. There is usually blame and shame that goes around, involving the in-laws and larger community. this can mean a vindictive ex-spouse that is not ready to cooperate with a divorce. In many cases, fighting leads to police intervention, which leads to an order of protection. In most cases, I recommend #marriagecounseling, including with religious clergy. For a young couple that does not have a track record of resolving disputes, or needs help with relationship ground rules and communication, counseling can work wonders. But if the marriage is truly over, and this is mutually recognized, it’s time to consult with a lawyer to protect your rights and the aware of your responsibilities. In most cases, it is beneficial to file the case right away to protect you financially and legally. An #annulment is a rarely used process that sometimes is the best solution. A recognition that the marriage was never valid in the first place. In most cases, an #uncontesteddivorce is the most appropriate route. If the marriage is less than six months, we do have to be creative regarding grounds for divorce. In all cases, it’s important to move forward with a rational mindset, rather than an emotional one. #ReligiousDivorce #IslamicMarriage #JewishMarriage #islamicprenup ~~~~~~~~~ ⚖️ I am Jacqueline Harounian 🔹Family law attorney in New York 🔸Speaker and CLE provider on family law, religious divorce and mental health. 🔹Trademark: Prenups are the closest thing to divorce insurance. 🔸Let’s Connect 🔄 Follow #JackieFamilyLawFacts and my business page: Wisselman Harounian Family Law

Marriage presents the opportunity for many changes in lifestyle and status - and it can also include potential risks.  Attorney Reagan Wish explains how a prenuptial agreement is a great way to keep the risks of marriage to a minimum. https://lnkd.in/g7Uy5pKY #prenup #prenuptialagreement #marriage #FamilyLaw

Who are your #marriage role models? The number of couples choosing to get married is plummeting. Good, solid marriages are less common than they used to be. Maybe YOUR marriage has been a role model for others – or maybe you would like to be. #love #relationships #couplegoals #lifelessons #families #parents #grandparents

💬 How do you deal with finances before, during, and possibly after marriage? 💬 Let's start a conversation about managing money in relationships! Here's a guide to get you started #MoneyMatters #RelationshipGoals #FinancialWellness 💑 https://lnkd.in/gUxCwC7d

4 Ways To Avoid Financial Stress In Marriage https://lnkd.in/eb594dFU

What is an emotional affair and how can it impact a marriage? Attorney Lindsey Obenhaus discusses the subtle warning signs of an emotional affair, its impact on a marriage, and addresses common outcomes for a relationship that may be experiencing this type of infidelity. Click the link below to read the blog. https://lnkd.in/e3VSpxV9

💡Happily ever after? Why marriage revokes a will Concerns about ‘predatory marriages’, where elderly or vulnerable people are persuaded to marry someone they’ve only recently met, are increasing. It is becoming an increasingly contentious issue as Partner, Jo Summers, explains in this article for STEP – Advising Families Across Generations. But why is it so controversial? Well, when you get married or register a civil partnership, it revokes any prior will you may have. The 'amount' of capacity needed to get married is lower than the level of capacity needed to give instructions for a new will. However, sadly, we have seen numerous examples of elderly people who had sufficent capacity to get married, but who sadly no longer had capacity to make a new will. So, if you’re one of the beneficiaries of the old will, which was automatically revoked under the intestacy rules, the new spouse will inherit - perhaps everything. It begs question whether it is right for the laws of England and Wales to revoke someone’s will automatically upon their marriage. However, until the law changes, this is something to be aware of. Discover more ⬇️ https://lnkd.in/e4VYi4tV #STEP #wills #testament #marriage #intestacy #privateclient #law

One of my favourite things about reading used books is finding notes, highlights or bookmarks. As I began my quarter exploring emotional intelligence, a letter fell out from between the pages, somewhere in the middle of John Gottman’s “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.” I’m not sure where this copy came from - I’ve bought used books in Chicago, LA, Nashville, Toronto, Calgary and many other cities in between. But as I read the very personal undelivered letter and plea to work on their marriage that Ben wrote to Amanda, I couldn’t help but hope for the best. As Gottman says, “one of the saddest reasons a marriage dies that neither spouse recognizes its value until it is too late. Only after the papers have been signed, the furniture, and separate apartments rented do the exes realize how much they really gave up when they gave up on each other. Too often a good marriage is taken for granted rather than given the nurturing and respect it deserves and desperately needs.” This made me reflect on my life as a divorce lawyer. How many times have we served papers prematurely? We are not trained counsellors, nor is it our role to push clients to do more to save their relationships. However, virtually all jurisdictions have requirements to advise clients on issues such as reconciliation and counselling services that are available. But (a) how far do most of us push that advice; or (b) even understand exactly what our role is? I’ve commented that our office should be the place of last resort (except in instances of domestic violence or where someone simply wants to know their rights, responsibilities or entitlements). As James Sexton wrote in his book of the same title, “if you’re in my office, it’s already too late.” With strained relationships that are hanging from a thread, I think it’s important to recognize that most lawyers have one tool to deal with that: ✂️.

I get excited with a client who knows what they want and have done their research. Take example, one client of mine who came to me with a marriage regime in mind already. Most couples find out the marriage regime they are under at a lawyer's office whilst being dragged to divorce court. In South Africa, if you got married and did not sign a contract before hand, you are married in community of property. She is a successful woman who is also a hard worker and will be the main financial contributor past nuptials. When I advised to go with marriage out of community with accrual, she was triggered. She wants straight out of community, no accrual. She still asked me what my advise was. I still shared it with her but told her the decision is completely hers. She was painting all sorts of scenarios with accrual system and did not like the fact that a party whose estate is showing accrual must share a percentage with her spouse on dissolution of marriage. To which I responded what if you are the party with less accrual? Life is unpredictable and has lessons for each one of us. We just don't know what lies ahead. I love planning for the future, however, designing a marriage contract sometimes gives the vibe that you are planning a wedding with a divorce in the mind. Regardless, of my thoughts it is recommended always. Just be cautious not to spoil the fun and excitement of planning a wedding with the marriage contract. Reach out should you need advise on your future nuptials.