To so many amazing women lawyers that I speak to on a daily basis:
You do NOT have to change a thing about your life if you do not want to.
But why not be honest with yourself about what it is that you really want and what you are willing to do about it and what you are not.
Do you constantly look for and consume
- The latest diet
- The latest self help book or podcast
- The latest financial guru’s advice?
Do you constantly switch topics in your mind and in conversation with others about
- a new job
- a new career
- a new place to live
- a new spouse?
You like doing this because It FEELS like you are doing SOMETHING to address your dissatisfaction. You keep consuming new material, looking at shiny new things on the internet, reading articles, books.
In the end you never really DO anything or you are doing very little , because you tell yourself that it’s all "too hard", or it will “never work out” for you because of ……..[insert some reason outside of your control that you just decide is true after very little or no effort on your part]
You fail ahead of time. Every time.
Without even trying to do the actual thing that anyone would need to do, you just move on to the next shiny plan, but again, never sit down to really execute the hard boring stuff.
You don’t figure out your:
- food plan on a daily basis
- you don’t figure out a budget and make a real financial plan
- you don’t re-work your resume
- you don’t network or speak to anyone about a new job but you look at job boards constantly and decide ahead of time that you can’t get any of them or you find some contenders but never follow through
- You complain that you “don’t know how”
- You complain that “it’s harder for you than everyone else" because of [insert family reason, ADHD, unsupportive partner, ]
If you recognize this behavior I have very good news for you:
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
YOU ARE HUMAN and you have a human brain
AND knowing that,
if you would like to stop this never ending, exhausting treadmill of giving up on yourself ahead of time
You absolutely CAN.
It involves radical responsibility
It involves work that is not all fun and shiny,
It involves a decision AND focused concentration that you ARE capable of, (after all look what you can do in your position at work when you are up against a deadline)
It involves making the time for yourself no matter what
It involves EMOTIONAL ADULTHOOD
It is ok if you cannot do this alone. It is hard to see your own brain and your own thoughts, with the same brain that has been designed to NOT tell you the truth, the brain that is keeping you safe and comfortable, and keeping you STUCK.
Message me anytime if you are ready to take different ACTION, if you WANT to take the steps off the treadmill to a life that you actually CREATE INTENTIONALLY and not just one that happens TO you while you are busy distracting yourself. ❤️