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Serial liars.. have you experienced one. And yes i was asked few days ago if what i post is a reflection of my day, and my answer was yes it is a reflection of a day, yet not specifically this day as sometimes i leave the post in draft for few days or longer. However this is inspired by a discussion i had with a very dear friend and partner recently. 🙃 and i am not saying how recent.. In business and life, trust is foundational. Yet some individuals repeatedly fake the truth with a poor attempt to control narratives, avoid accountability, or project a desired image. Serial lying might seem like it offers shortcuts, but the reality is far different. Few things i have noticed. They always have an expiry date were their image crashes and goes up in flames, and they can never be happy because they get to addicted similar to gamblers and start digging only bigger holes. Below is what Chat gpt thinks of you 🫣 Why Serial Liars Eventually Fall. Lies, by their nature, are unstable. As the web grows, consistency lacks, and discrepancies become obvious. Over time, the cost of sustaining the deceit becomes higher than facing the truth. Relationships weaken, reputations crumble, and trust erodes. Whether in personal life or the professional world, the consequences of repeated dishonesty are inevitable. Can Serial Liars Change? Change is possible, but it requires a willingness to confront the root cause of the behavior. Serial lying is often driven by underlying insecurities or fear of failure, rather than malice. Addressing these triggers through self-reflection, therapy, or honest conversations can open the path to a more authentic way of being. But the motivation has to be strong—often a wake-up call from a loss or an accountability moment—to truly spark change. The Path to Integrity if committed to rebuild trust, the journey involves: 1. Acknowledging the Damage: Recognizing how lying impacts others and owning up to past mistakes. 2. Building Transparency: Practicing honesty in both small and big matters to rebuild credibility. 3. Seeking Accountability: Leaning on mentors, friends, or professionals to stay on course toward integrity. Trust, once broken, takes time and effort to restore. But for those who choose to confront their truth, the rewards of genuine relationships and lasting respect far outweigh the temporary gains of deceit. 😁 now tell me does Chat GPT knows you well enough. Listen, I am sure you are suffering, however there is one person you need to be supper honest with. Yourself. You burn your business, you burn your career, you burn your bridges, you burn those closest to you. Your friends and partners, your family, and then you will be left even without you.. Stop the chain today. It is similar to stopping smoking, and you can do it.. Don’t worry the eyes below are not looking at your soul, although it looks like it.

#grammarnerds, I know there are a lot of you in my network. A friend asked me a question tonight, and you may as well get the answer. Technically, the conditional form of sentences (I wish..., If I...) uses the subjunctive _mood_ rather than the simple past or simple present. A mood is not a different tense: It's still in the past or present. (Everything in this post is about English. Different languages are different.) * "If I were a rich man..." (past subjunctive — and go ahead, you can sing), not "If I was a rich man..." (simple past, a.k.a. preterite) * "I wish I were rich..." (past subjunctive), not "I wish I was rich..." (simple past) * "If I be that man..." (present subjunctive), not "If I am that man..." (simple present) Analyzing those sentences is a little tricky, for more than one reason. * The "were" in the first two bullets is the subjunctive mood for 1st person singular past tense. * It's not quite the same thing as the "were" in the sentence "We were rich in those days." _That_ "were" is the simple past for 1st person plural, because there's nothing conditional about it: no "wish", no "if". * That said, the subjunctive mood "were" in "If we were rich, we didn't know it" looks exactly like the simple past in “We were rich in those days.” And don't get me started on the various uses of "be". Heck, I'm not sure I understand them myself. But while those rules about the subjunctive are "the rules" of "proper English", the usage of real people is different. People use the subjunctive past sporadically, and fewer (like, pretty much nobody) use the subjunctive present. It's a thing that only sophisticated language users use; even if they couldn't name the rules as I've described them, those who use them are (at least) very well-read in classic texts. Look, I know, you don't care. For the most part, I don't care either: I'm describing, not prescribing, the way people use language. But I'm telling you this so when you ask, "Is this sentence in the narrator's voice right?" you'll understand why I say, "Yes. Well, no. I mean, sure. Depends on what you're going for, really."

Am tired❗️ Am tired of everything. Somebody should help me. Am tired! Am tired! Am so tired! Ah! Una no dey hear word! I feel like stoning them. We have had enough of you using ‘AM’ to start a sentence without asking a question. For the trillion times, do not use ‘AM’ in place of ‘I AM and I’M.’ I have written about this more than three times. However, I noticed that the problem persists. Am fine. ❌ (I feel like throwing you a stone.🙄) I am fine.✅ I'm fine.✅ The only difference is that we use “I am” for neutral or formal contexts and “I'm” for informal contexts. - I AM. ‘I am’ is a first-person singular pronoun. I is the pronoun used as the subject of the verb am. Thus, ‘I am’ is used when a speaker or writer is referring to himself or herself. “I am” is used when we want to use the verb “to be”. We often use the verb “to be” when we want to describe our state of being. EXAMPLES: - I am beautiful. - I am a girl. - I am travelling tomorrow. - I am not participating in the competition anymore. - I am going there tomorrow - I’M. ‘I’m’ is the contraction (shortened form) of I am. A contraction is basically when you put two words together and use an apostrophe to show that some letters have been left out.  In this case, we leave out the “a” from the word ”am”. The reason for this is that in spoken English, we often put words together because it is easier to say in that way. EXAMPLES: - I'm not eating! - I'm happy. - Wow! I'm glad to hear this. - I'm sleeping. - I'm beautiful I’m’ is used in an informal setting. - AM. One of the common grammatical errors in our daily basics is ‘Am’. ‘Am’ has been abused and often used in place of ‘I am’ and ‘I’m’, especially in chat. For example, if you are asked, “How are you?”, and the person replies, “ Am fine”, which is wrong in the English Language as it has no meaningful meaning. The appropriate reply is, “ I’m fine” which also means “ I am fine”. ‘Am’ is just an auxiliary verb and it can’t be used to start a sentence. Thus, when someone uses “am” to start a sentence, such a sentence is grammatically wrong unless it’s an interrogative sentence. Do not use ‘Am’ to start a sentence if it is not asking a question, For example: Am I good? ✅ Am good. ❎ Am I talking to you?✅ Am talking to you.❎ Am sitting wobbly.❎ Am I sitting wobbly?✅ Am not beautiful.❎ Am I not beautiful?✅ Am playing football.❎ Am I playing football?✅ In conclusion, it is instructive to note that you cannot substitute ‘am’ for ‘I am’ or ‘I’m’. You may only substitute I’m for I am depending on the context you are using it. I'm for informal context and I am for formal context. I trust this context has properly elucidated the phrase: I am, I’m and Am, and you now know their meaning and how to properly use them. You can provide some examples in the comment section. Many thanks, for reading. ©️ Dhikrullah, Rodiyyah Adedoyin. Please ignore the picture!

As you broaden your repertoire of charismatic body language, you will encounter some triggers. These can be places, people, conversational topics, or situations that surprisingly affect you. One common trigger is that while you’re conditioning yourself to maintain a proper posture, certain situations will cause you to shrink, manifesting as making yourself physically smaller, hunching, or bowing your head. Don't judge yourself; this is not a failure but a learning opportunity. When this happens, take a moment to learning from the triggers: - When do you shrink? - How does it feel to shrink? - How does it feel to NOT shrink? Analyzing these reactions in everyday situations will grant you valuable insights that help you strengthen your charismatic presence. Do these examples resonate with you? Share some of the triggers you have come across. How do you deal with them?

If you’re aiming for fluency, understanding transitive and intransitive verbs can help. What’s the difference? A transitive verb needs a direct object to make sense. In other words, it has to act on something or someone. If there’s no object, the sentence can feel incomplete. For example: She reads books. They built a house. Here, ‘books’ and ‘a house’ are direct objects that complete the verbs ‘reads’ and ‘built.’ If we left them out, the sentences wouldn’t make sense. An intransitive verb doesn’t need an object. It can stand on its own and still feel complete. For example: He sleeps. They laughed. In these sentences, there’s no object after ‘sleeps’ or ‘laughed’ because these actions don’t need one. The verb itself completes the thought. Knowing if a verb needs an object helps you structure sentences more naturally. Here's how I coach my clients to spot the difference: 1. Ask 'What?' or 'Whom?' – If you can answer them after the verb, it’s usually transitive. Example: He reads what? Books. (Transitive) 2. Can it stand alone? – If the verb makes sense by itself, it’s probably intransitive. Example: They slept. (Intransitive) Try a few sentences like this when you’re practising, especially if your first language doesn't have these features. Understanding these little distinctions helps you speak more clearly.

I hope this post doesn't offend. If it does, I'm sorry you feel that way. I use language the average may classify as obscene or profane in conversation with adults. Not excessively. Usually. When my mom moved my brother, sister, & I from Placerville to Woodland, CA in 1991, I took an advanced summer school Spanish class where I was seated next to a hesher/metalhead/headbanger whose name is lost to time & was constantly listening to his Walkman. We didn't talk much until one day I heard music blasting from his ears that intrigued my 14/15 year old brain. I tapped him on the shoulder, asked what it was, & became a fan of Anthrax. Startin' Up a Posse from Attack of the Killer B's diverged from your ordinary metal song's tempo & lyrics. Between the indelible chorus, convention challenging verses, & less than stately samples, the song had a huge impact on my developing brain, stimulated critical thinking, & expanded music appreciation beyond radio norms. George Carlin's 7 Words You Can't Say on Television & Fugazi's Words on their early compilation 13 Songs confirmed what Anthrax suggested. For me & what I consider my culture, limiting vocabulary limits expression, thereby reducing one's ability to effectively convey meaning & intent. Not surprisingly, my vocabulary often differs from what many, if not most, determine to be acceptable. Attempts to align to a standardized lexicon violated core values aligned with freedom, independence, & egality. In other words, trying to force myself to restrict my vocabulary meant I was forcing myself to be someone I wasn't. Why mention this on LinkedIn? Isn't this a topic better suited to Facebook or Tik Tok? There are a few reasons. 1. Authenticity is incredibly important to mental health. 2. Communicating my communication standards should (hopefully) filter out potential associates & allow current connections for whom such language is not accepted to disconnect. 3. I'll soon be sharing documents & communications which will include such language, demonstrate how comfortable I am using such language, & cite & describe consequential conversational results of the use of such language with average people. I should point out that I've made the California Workers' Compensation Appeals Board & other parties involved in the workers' compensation suit I have against my former employer, Saratoga Union School District & their third party administrator, AP Keenan, that such language is part of my normal vocabulary & asked for a list of words not accepted in court. They've responded that there is no such list which tells my black & white thinking brain that no language limits are in place within the WCAB system.

"I won't lie"... "I'm not gonna lie"... Red flags. Modern linguistic red flags that convey an honest message on the outside but fake and semi-grey intentions on the inside. They can also be categorised as dead/useless words, adding a resounding zero to the meaning. In fact, they deduct portion of the essence. You can spot then everywhere nowadays; it's a fashionable, trendy, Gen Z-like, modern, and witty comms tactics. But, 👇 "I won't lie" and "I'm not gonna lie": what they really mean is that you lied in the past, you lie in the present (habitually, from time to time) but this time you're gonna be truthful and real to your interlocutor. Why? Why you won't lie this time? 👇 "To be honest with you" (another version, slightly softer) means that you want to be honest at this moment with this person for your own reasons but you aren't always honest with others. It adds a touch of sincerity to the conversation but the choice of words themselves reveal the opposite. "Why are you honest with me now? Aren't you always honest?" 👇 Anyway, I'm not saying I haven't sinned with words in my life. All I'm saying is, if your word is your bond eliminate these phrases from your life; they make you look insincere and sly. Language is power. Language is powerful. It's sort of a sharp blade. You either cut bread with it or cut your finger. Am I right, Paola Natalucci?

“No” is a complete sentence. “No” is one of the shortest words in the human language—likely the first word issued by most of us as babies. “No” is an almost universal word, understood regardless of other language barriers. ✨ Both “yes” and “no” are words that make us responsible for our thoughts and actions. If we say “yes,” we’re responsible for fulfilling whatever we agreed to. If we say “no,” we must accept that another may be upset.  It is OK to say “no” to conserve our energy and define our priorities.✨ Because we’ve developed and collected a large scope of experience and connections over the years, we’re often in great demand! So learning to determine when we need to say “no” is very important. The fact is, we really can’t do all that we’re asked for a variety of reasons—and if we try to, we’re potentially increasing our likelihood for illness triggered by physical and emotional stress.✨ When we need to say “no,” there is no need to over-explain or justify our position. “No” is “no.” But if, like many of us, we’ve said “yes” throughout life when we really wanted or needed to say “no,” here are four strategies for getting comfortable with using the word when we need to conserve our energy: 1) Just practice saying “no.” Get used to the sound of it coming out of your adult mouth. 2) If “no” still feels too hard, practice saying this with a smile: “Thank you for asking. I’m flattered but I can’t do it. I appreciate your understanding.”3) When possible, offer a suggestion. Maybe there is someone else or some other way you can envision the request being fulfilled: “I’d love to help but I can’t. Perhaps you can…” Then, 4) Remove yourself or change the subject. ✨ It is OK to say “no.” We have every right to think about our response and respond within our own timeframe if we need to think about our answer as well. Before jumping to say “OK” (another short word), stop and choose. It is OK to say “no” and move on guilt-free. Try it.✨   PS: A little fuzzy since this is a screenshot of a campaign....but ... this is me in my best Miranda Priestly pose ;-) She was excellent at saying: "No."

Phrases Killing Your Intelligence! I took quite some time to collate these. truthfully whole lot came from my 10 year old, which I realized that some adults use them too. These little phrases that subtly drag down how smart we seem. That realization inspired me to write this because, hey, we’ve all been there. We want to sound intelligent, but some everyday phrases aren’t doing us any favors. Ready to ditch these brain-draining habits? Let’s talk about it. 1. Rocket Scientist, Who? “I’m not a rocket scientist, but…” Come on, just say what you mean. Why apologize before you even start? Own your insights, no disclaimers needed. 2. Blame Game “Just my luck.” We’ve all used it, right? But it makes you sound like life is happening to you, not because of you. Try: “I should’ve planned better.” Own it. 3. Literally Overkill You’re “literally starving”? Unless you’re about to faint, skip it. Misusing “literally” makes you sound dramatic, not smart. 4. Honesty Alarming When you say “to be honest,” it sounds like you weren’t being honest before. Just say your piece no need for honesty disclaimers. 5. Guessing? “I guess” signals doubt. Drop it and let your ideas stand strong. 6. Passive-Aggressive Mode “I’m just saying” feels like a dodge. Say what you mean, and stand by it no sidestepping. 7. I Can’t, or Won’t? Saying “I can’t” makes challenges look like dead ends. Instead, say, “I’ll try.” It’s way smarter to leave space for possibilities. 8. No Stupid Questions—Really? “This may be a stupid question…” Never call your own curiosity stupid. Questions show you’re thinking and that’s always smart. 9. “Whatever” = I Don’t Care Using “whatever” makes it look like you’ve checked out. Respect the conversation—you might learn something. Words Shape You What we say isn’t just about others—it’s about how we shape our own confidence. These phrases might feel harmless, but they hold back your potential. Drop them and see how much sharper you sound—both to yourself and to others. Ready to elevate your conversations? Comment below, let’s talk about it, or hey coffee on me! (Link in bio) #SmarterConversations #PhrasesToDrop #SelfImprovement

It is time to reclaim #assumptions from those who regard them as binary examples of a #badthing one must not do. Really?... No. Human beings are meaning-making machines. We assume, judge, perceive, hypothesise and generally make sense of the world through playing with all of these, ideally in relationship to/with others coupled with a capacity for #reflexivity. Now, you could just say 'all assumptions are bad and you are a bad boy, Steve' and I would respond with the assumption that you are #wrong. joe chislett does an excellent job here of breaking this down, and to highlight one strand of his argument: "... it seems to me that the colloquial meaning of 'assumptions' has done both - it has narrowed, and become more pejorative. It basically means jumping to unfair conclusions about people. It therefore suggests a (unpleasant) combination of arrogance and lack of sensitivity towards others. I'm not necessarily saying, certainly not assuming, that this colloquial sense is *worse* (I wouldn't want to make an ASS out of U or ME.) But I do think there are dangers with it. In fact I think the effect can actually be to make people *less* humble or sensitive in their thinking or treatment of others." Worth reading the whole thing, as it talks to how words become debased and bastardised when we manage our anxiety by squeezing them into over simplified definitions that lose all #nuance.