Melissa Lohrer’s Post

We’re always updating the operating systems on our devices, but do we ever think about updating the “operating system” we use to live our lives? The truth is, a lot of people end up living with their “default” setting; doing things not because it’s what they want, but because it’s what they think they’re “supposed” to be doing based on what they’ve seen in their past. That’s why in episode 26, I sit down with Kate Wendell from FamilyOS. Kate and her husband Tanner Wendell work with couples to help them update their “family operating systems” so they can live a more peaceful, successful life. In this conversation, Kate shares: ✅What is a “family operating system” and why is it essential to having healthy relationships with your partner and child? ✅The “CODE” for creating a peaceful, thriving family (that Kate and Tanner teach couples they coach). ✅Why the mindset of “the kids always come first” can do more harm than good; plus the counterintuitive way of thinking that ends up helping kids more in the long run. ✅How your past impacts the way you parent and interact with your partner (plus some personal struggles Kate and Tanner have worked through). ✅Why having a “system” focused on long-term goals can help your family feel safe and secure. You can listen to the entire episode here: https://lnkd.in/giSMzEq7

Sorry to break it to you, but when you complain too much about something, you are essentially complaining about yourself. We all encounter reasons to complain: bad weather, tough business decisions, bad boss, challenging relationships, demanding clients, health issues… We've all been there because life is a series of events often beyond our control. However, that doesn’t mean we don’t have agency in how we respond to these events. There's a gap between stimulus and our response — and within that space lies the power we can wield. The power to choose between: ❌ complaining (not very productive) or ✅ taking action towards solutions (productive). In a way, excessive complaining reflects a lack of self-awareness and an inability to take responsibility for your own circumstances, and is often just a way to externalize blame. This isn't to suggest we should suppress anger and frustration; they're normal human emotions. What we should suppress is our immediate and passive response to them, which results in endless complaining. Instead, we should invest our time and energy into more productive pursuits that drive positive change. 💪 P.S. Thanks Noah Kagan and Laura Roeder for the inspiration and a great episode! P.P.S. The statement in the image is actually (and sadly) true. It’s a finding from Will Bowen, best-selling author of “A Complaint Free World.”

Suburban life might be slowly killing you - but I've got the escape plan! In my latest Strategy + Action episode, I sat down with the wonderful Frederick Barber, author of "Lifescapes," a new book about finding your place, living your dream, and profiting in the process. Fred shared some terrifying stats on how the sedentary suburban lifestyle (you know, where you have to drive EVERYWHERE) is actually worse for your health than smoking. And it's not just physical - social isolation in the 'burbs is fueling a loneliness epidemic. But fear not! Fred laid out a step-by-step plan to break free from the deadly suburbs and design a healthier, happier, and wealthier life. In this episode, you'll learn how to: ✅ Slash your housing costs by 50%+ (without sacrificing quality of life) ✅ Build a vibrant social circle in walkable urban neighborhoods ✅ Rack up 10K steps a day just living your normal life (no more gym guilt!) ✅ Calculate your true cost of living (hint: property taxes matter!) ✅ "Test drive" a new neighborhood before making the big move Plus, Fred shares a ton of free tools and resources to help you find your perfect walkable community. If you're feeling stuck, isolated, or just plain fed up with suburban living, you NEED to tune in to this episode. Trust me, it might just change your life. Check out the link below and let me know what you think! 👇 And as always, keep taking action! P.S. - A huge shoutout to the incredible connector, Andrew McKinney for making the introduction to Fred!

This is a tough subject, but one we all need to address. Join host Mark Turnbull on Aging Today as he chats with Rusty Rosman, the author of Two Envelopes. Dive into the episode "I didn't want to die, but I did" for insights on aging, estate planning, and final wishes. Don't miss out! https://buff.ly/3TmrB0t #aging #estateplanning #deathanddying #finalwishes

When it comes to the business world, far too many conventional beliefs and practices have hidden (or not-so-hidden!) roots in colonialist and capitalist ideologies. So what would it look like to build a business that reimagines success through a lens of social justice, liberation, and inclusion? 💗 In this week’s episode of Confessions with Jess and Cindy, Mosaic Consulting founder Olanike A. reveals the toxic principles that infect the way we do business - and how to build an anti-capitalist consultancy that aligns with your values! You’ll also learn: ✅ how to maintain financial sustainability while implementing equitable practices ✅ the importance of choosing a biz model that you can sustain energetically (and what this can look like!) ✅ how Olanike navigates the challenges of business development as someone newly diagnosed with ADHD You DON’T want to miss this inspiring and thought-provoking episode! Listen now and remember to subscribe! 🎧https://lnkd.in/grDxZDGe

Navigating the landscape of long-term care can often feel like venturing into uncharted territory. With misconceptions abound and horror stories that can sometimes scare rather than prepare, it's crucial to arm yourself with knowledge. Let's demystify the costs and care stages, ensuring you and your loved ones can make informed decisions about the future. Check out this clip from our most recent episode “Fact or Fear? The Real Costs of Long-Term Care”: #WEMoneyTalk #LongTermCare #FinancialPlanning #WealthManagement

Navigating the landscape of long-term care can often feel like venturing into uncharted territory. With misconceptions abound and horror stories that can sometimes scare rather than prepare, it's crucial to arm yourself with knowledge. Let's demystify the costs and care stages, ensuring you and your loved ones can make informed decisions about the future. Check out this clip from our most recent episode “Fact or Fear? The Real Costs of Long-Term Care”: #WEMoneyTalk #LongTermCare #FinancialPlanning #WealthManagement

🚀 Day 2 of #12DaysOfGiving 🚀 Discover the impact of seeking help proactively in relationships and finances with Ashley Quamme. A powerful episode reminding us to dedicate time to reflect and grow. Watch & Listen Now: https://lnkd.in/g_UtiCUF https://lnkd.in/eAguUbpE

Most people ignore these 3 questions when making a decision. Listening to the The Diary Of A CEO episode that had Dr. Layne Norton as Steven Bartlett guest, I was struck by a phrase that was used multiple times. “There are no solutions. Only trade-offs.” This was repeated by Dr. Norton a few times in the episode. I knew intuitively that it made sense but I didn’t know why or exactly what it meant. Until I read an article where the person who first used the phrase explained its meaning. Thomas Sowell is one of those few people who has made a mark in more than one field. In addition to being an economist, he is the author of “Late-Talking Children”. The book was born of his experience as a father whose son didn’t start talking until the age of four. Thomas Sowell disagrees with the idea of perfect solutions & presents they exist as utopian fantasies If a perfect solution seems to exist, it is only because these 3 questions have not been asked. 1️⃣ Compared to what? 2️⃣ At what cost? 3️⃣ What hard evidence do you have? I don’t have to be pursuing a perfect solution to be able to use this in my daily life. Even decisions that appear so obvious that they seem to make themselves contain these 3 questions. It’s just that we have answered them subconsciously & understood the trade-offs to be acceptable. Here’s the bit that struck me the hardest. We answer these questions daily & most of the times we don’t even realise it. What would we do differently if we were more mindful of these questions on just some of those occasions.

In our relentless pursuit to solve problems, are we inadvertently missing the point? On the latest episode of Nick Speaks, I shared a thought that challenges the conventional mindset: special needs children aren't broken, and they don't need fixing. They're perfect just the way they are. For years, society has conditioned us—especially men—to act as fixers. But what happens when we're faced with situations that aren't meant to be 'fixed'? The truth is, special needs children are not problems to be solved. They are individuals to be celebrated, understood, and loved unconditionally. It's a hard pill to swallow, accepting that your child might not fit into the traditional mold. But here's the kicker: they don't have the luxury to walk away from who they are, and neither should we. It's time to shift our perspective from fixing to embracing. Let's stop trying to change them and start changing the way we see them. Tune in to the latest episode of Nick Speaks and join the conversation on embracing, not fixing.