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Today's habit: Family Game Night Monopoly is my jam. What's yours? Here's the habit: Launch a family game night, one night per week. How? 1️⃣ Schedule the game night in advance 2️⃣ Identify what you're going to play 3️⃣ Put all distractions aside. Phones away, TV off. 4️⃣ Make your environment awesome. Blankets, music, snacks! 5️⃣ Play the game! If you loved it, repeat it next week. Parenting pro tip: Don't let your kids win. Make them earn the win. Tune in tomorrow for day 3 of the March Habit Challenge. ----- ✍️ Share your favorite game ♻️ Reshare if you know any dads, moms, or colleagues who could benefit from this habit

We are so passionate about teaching families to play together in order to build resilience that we developed the BuildSmart Parent Mentoring Course. Great news is that this course is now available online for all workers mentoring parents - check it out at https://lnkd.in/dBubYkxx. Together we can empower the next generation as leaders of change. #parentmentoring #parenting

Showing up is more than just physically being present. It's a powerful way to demonstrate that you care and are committed. It's a reminder that your time and effort are valuable. By showing up, you prove that you are invested in whatever you're doing. So, remember to show up, not just for others, but for yourself too. It's a simple yet fabulous reminder that can make all the difference. #commitment #selfworth #reminder

Would you let your toddler drive your car? 💁🏼♂️👶🏻🚗😬 I don’t mean with him on your lap whilst you gently push the pedals and trundle through a deserted car park… I mean, you jumped in the back seat whilst little Jacky mashed the accelerator and hung from the steering wheel at 90 mph on the motorway?!?! 😱🤯 It’s not gonna be pretty is it?! 🤦🏼♂️💥😵 I often use this metaphor with clients who are hijacked by their inner critics. They feel like passengers on their own journey of life and don’t feel in control of where they’re heading. The steering wheel is in the hands of their self-sabotaging little monsters that “know better” and can “keep them safe”. These inner critics come in many forms. They tell us lies like… “You’ll fail if you try something different..” “It’s too risky. Stay in your lane..” “People we think badly of you if you change…” Believe it or not, these inner critics are coming from a place of love… or, in other words, “self-preservation.” Our ego is designed to protect us. It has learned from previous experiences when we’ve gotten our butts handed to us, looked a fool, failed… you name it…if it’s a bad experience, it keeps score! What it’s trying to do is stop us from being hurt. Therefore, our inner critics are coming along for the ride. Now, we can’t get rid of these little buggers, and like a toddler, they scream in our ears and distract us. Those of you who have kids know that ignoring a screaming toddler usually doesn’t solve anything…. in fact, if we do it for long enough, we may end up in jail! We also know that engaging with them on their level by screaming back doesn’t do us any favours either (despite how much we may want to, every parent has a limit! 🤪). As parents, we try to defuse the situation, determine what our kid needs, and proceed from there. What I have my clients do is get curious about their inner critics and understand where they are coming from, rather than stick their heads in the sand and hope they shut up (they usually get louder!). Once we understand who is coming along for the ride and what they have to say, we can learn to work with them. Much like the screaming toddler in the car seat, they must be appeased. And that is precisely where they should be: in the back seat, strapped in, soothed, nowhere near the pedals and steering wheel! My point is that you can’t get rid of your self-sabotaging voices, but you can learn to bring them along for the ride (on your terms!) whilst you steer your car on your life’s journey. When I picture my car, it’s similar to the Alanis Morrisette “Ironic” video. Yup, I’m an 80s kid who loved 90s rock music 🤘🏻. For those of you who remember, there are multiple versions of her in a car, all with different personalities and striving for attention. Check it out on YouTube or crank that tune up on the way to work to bring on the nostalgia! So, the question is, who’s driving your car? Have an awesome day! #Executivecoaching #wellbeing #leadership

Authentic community CAN exist in a virtual work context. I've seen it first-hand at Springpoint. Elina Alayeva .... and this is one of the many examples of how you have cultivated the conditions for such an authentically strong adult community at Springpoint (in a mostly virtual context + 2x/year all staff retreats... demonstrating that it CAN be done). If anyone wants to get some tips and hints about what it takes to fuel a vibrant adult culture in a remote organization, take note of this woman's mindsets & leadership moves. (spoiler alert, I think it starts with a leader who really genuinely believes in the importance of culture + authentic humility that the leader doesn't have all the answers). What else have others seen that creates the conditions for people to thrive?

Chapter 4: Dude, please get to the point! BLUF: We want to help you get outside and bond with your kids. L&C will post activity ideas every Monday (time still TBD, but probably around lunch). We'll put an idea in your hands early in the week, leaving ample time to prep so you're ready to go when the weekend arrives. The goal is to highlight small cost / big fun things you and your kids can do together. If we do it right, you'll learn something (even if it flops), and maybe discover a new hobby you can lean into, together. We'll post other thoughts as the mood strikes us. We'll review a few books along the way, and provide gear suggestions as we find things that enhance our own experiences with our kiddos. But the focus is reducing the friction of getting outside and having fun. That's it. Accessible ideas. Time with your kids. Simple, right? #Parenting #GetOutside #OutdoorAdventures #NatureKids #OutdoorFun #PlayOutside #OutdoorFamily #WildChild #NatureBasedLearning

My 6 year old son: "Working hard can be fun!" Also my 6 year old (20 min before): "I don't wanna do that..." You're not a bad parent for "making" your child do something they don't want to do. In fact, I'd argue you're a great parent for being willing to fight the fight. Like you and I, life will demand of them that they do things they don't want to do. I'm coming to learn that so much about their habits and behaviors are shaped during these younger years, but it's hard. >It's easier to sit them in front of a device than to push them outside. >It's easier to cook them whatever THEY want to eat vs making them eat fruits, vegetables and other things they deem as nasty. >It's easier (and usually quicker) to just get out the saw, the lawnmower or whatever it is and do the yard work yourself. But they don't learn that way. In fact, it has quite the opposite effect. Far too may people in our society are bent on making life easy for their kids. Whether they're just trying to love them well and create happy kids or they're just tired of fighting, it's taking a toll on our culture. (See The Collapse of Parenting by Leonard Sax for further reading from an expert on the subject.) My son specifically NEEDS outdoor activity. He needs to be physical, to sweat, to tire his body out, not sit still. What's more, hard work, creating/fixing/solving creates a sense of pride in us as men. He demonstrated as much when declaring to his sister after pausing for a snack, "I gotta get back to work..." And lest you think this is some sort of humble brag from a perfect parent, I had probably the biggest failure to date with my son two evenings prior. I'm trying and failing everyday, but I refuse to take the easy way out.

Mom? Where are you? I've heard this from my own children. There are times that I say this myself when I wish my mom or grandmother were still here. There are times where you are just looking for someone to vent to and understand. Not everyone has parents or a support system around to lift them up and support them. 💔 But here's the thing: we don’t have to walk this journey alone. Whether in life or business, we all need people in our corner—those who challenge us, cheer us on, and keep us grounded when things get tough. Building a support system isn’t just a personal need—it’s a strategic move for success. Surround yourself with people who: ✨ Push you to be your healthiest self   ✨ Guide you in growing your dreams and achieving your goals ✨ Encourage you when the road feels hard In business, health, and life, the right support system can be the difference between surviving and thriving. I deeply enjoy the privilege of helping people not only build strong support systems but also create the product of their dreams—bringing their ideas to life and guiding them every step of the way. It’s not about doing it for them but empowering them with the tools and confidence to make it happen. Don’t be afraid to invest in relationships that support your vision. After all, champions aren't built alone. 💪 #SupportSystem #CommunityMatters #BusinessGrowth #CPG #HealthAndWealth #Resilience #WorkHardChaseRainbows

When your kids' idea of fun is reenacting their favorite Marvel scenes* in the living room, embrace the chaos and enjoy the show. *You want to see Deadpool and Wolverine now! As a single dad since 2010, I’ve learned these moments are precious. It's like project management; every detail counts. Remember that time our server decided to nap during a major update? Humor and adaptability saved the day. What’s your favorite way to bond with your kids? It's the little victories and the laughter that keeps us going. Parenthood is a lot like managing a project where the scope constantly changes, and the stakeholders are tiny humans with big demands. The trick is to stay flexible and find joy in the unexpected moments. Sometimes, the best project plans get derailed by impromptu superhero battles or surprise dance parties. But those are the moments that make it all worthwhile. p.s. How do you find balance between work and parenting? p.s.s Pet parents have a mini balancing act. How do you manage? Repost if I sparked your curiosity #ParentingLife #MarvelMadness #HumorInParenting #FamilyFun #Organization #Veterans #Business #ReputyzCreators #Reputyz

You want more connection with your wife and children. We all do deep down. This is why it is good for our spouse to know and see with our children that we are doing difficult things that are good for us. Why? Not because we need to teach them anything or for them to see us dig deep and muscle or power through any difficulty. It all comes down to connection and fostering a home where everyone feels known, loved, supported, and believed in. Maybe it’s running a marathon or even 5k and your family is there supporting you. Maybe it’s applying for new job and you have a big interview and your family drives with you to meet everyone who will be interviewing you (I did this!). Maybe you’re going through personal suffering that absolutely sucks. We can hide all of these things. We can do it alone. We could get through it all and not ever talk about it. Or we can invite our family to journey with us. Inviting your family along the journey of good difficulty can create spaces for connection with each other. More opportunities for conversation, for memories, for connecting with other families. People start to feel known and loved. And this begins to open the door for future opportunities to connect when life gets really hard, when your son or daughter needs you in an important time in their life, or when you end up making a decision that ends up costing you. You’ve built trust. All too often I hear the sentiment that husbands and fathers need their own “space,” or they need to just do this one thing by themselves. Men need guy time. I think it’s important to have alone time even. But it's crucial to involve our family too. ---- Men's rec basketball was more fun than difficult this year, but because I invited them to come with me every Sunday night, my wife met another mom friend, my kids got to play with other kids, we were able to be a witness as a family who lives life together and where it's not just "me" time, and we enjoyed family trips to get ice cream cones after the wins.