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Navigating the complex world of parenting is no small feat. A recent discussion with Amber Lia highlights a vital, yet often overlooked strategy: transforming your burdens into opportunities for growth and resilience. 🙌 Parenthood can feel like a marathon with hurdles appearing when you least expect them. But what if our approach is where the real potential lies? 🔹 Imagine the potential when we decide to unload those heavy burdens and entrust them to a greater source of guidance. 🔹 Envision a parenting journey where moments of anger and frustration become stepping stones towards empathy and understanding. Amber suggests a profound intersection between faith and everyday parenting. And I believe this could be a game-changer for many out there. By thinking of our daily challenges as opportunities for spiritual and personal development, we pivot from merely surviving to genuinely thriving. 📌 Key strategies could include: 1. **Self-reflection over Reaction:** Before your frustration peaks, take a breath and introspect. What's truly at the heart of your stress? 2. **Seek Perspective, Not Perfection:** Instead of striving for an unrealistic ideal, focus on growth and understanding. 3. **Community Over Isolation:** Partner with fellow parents, sharing experiences and insights instead of going it alone. After all, it takes a village! By embracing these mindful shifts, we might find a parenting landscape that's not led by stress, but by progression. Surely, more parents are ready to explore this mindset as societal norms evolve and family expectations shift. Could faith-based strategies become a mainstream, transformative force in parenting circles? I'll be following closely to see where this journey leads us, especially in a world that desperately needs more nurturing and understanding souls. 🌟 Let’s reflect and share our paths. What burdens are you ready to relinquish, and how has this mindset changed yours or someone else’s parenting journey? Listen, grow, and support families in fostering a thriving environment for the next generation. 🔗 Check the full discussion here: [Listen to the Full Program](https://lnkd.in/dU--wPCa) and gain more insights on leveraging anger into teaching moments. Stay connected and inspired. Keep evolving. https://lnkd.in/emdgfXDV

YOUR unique parenting path   When it comes to what parenting style should be chosen or how to raise a child, the opinions can feel overwhelming.    What I am discovering is that my own path cannot be compared to anybody else’s.    What sometimes makes parenting so tough are these two aspects according to my experience.    1.   Others When comparing how others parent their child in my imagination - the grass is very often greener on the other side.      Even if I see with my own eyes, the story I tell myself can leave me feeling less than them.    This fantasy in my head comes from beliefs that determine my contentment or dissatisfaction.   No positive thinking can override the assumptions I made about life when I was very young.    2.   Trusting the process Where my unique path takes me, is uncertain and I am the only one who can walk it.    Sometimes, there is a bend right ahead and not being able to see or have control over what’s next, makes me want to stop moving.    Can you relate to this feeling of wanting to stand still? Leave me this in the comments below: 🥾   What I don’t mean is to take a pause, reflect and re-evaluate.    The stagnation I am referring to is more worry-based and a ‘What if it gets worse?’   This Albert Einstein quote came up on my phone this week:   “Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving."     On a walk that same day, I realised that me questioning if I was on the right path in life, can only be answered with: Yes.    So, what I am learning as a parent these last few days of 2024 is that there is no ‘right or wrong’.    As a mother, father or caregiver – you are on your unique path.    Nobody can judge you for where you are or who you are.   That feels so freeing, not only does it add curiosity to where the road takes us in 2025, I am adding some 💫 JOY to my steps and would like to take you with me.   You can book a free effortless call by clicking here and hear more about how you can take your power back: https://lnkd.in/ekAs8UNs (Confirming humanity: written by annett)

Here are five secrets about parenting that can make the journey smoother and more fulfilling: 1. **You’re Going to Make Mistakes—And That’s Okay** Perfection isn’t part of the parenting job description. Every parent makes mistakes, and that’s perfectly fine. Kids don’t need perfect parents, they need present ones. Owning up to mistakes, apologizing, and learning from them teaches children an important life skill—resilience. 2. **Children Learn More from What You Do, Not What You Say** Kids are incredibly observant. They learn values, habits, and behaviors by watching how you handle situations, not just from what you tell them. If you model patience, kindness, and self-care, they’ll likely pick it up too. Actions always speak louder than words. 3. **Quality Time Trumps Quantity** It’s not about spending all day with your child but making the time you do spend meaningful. Even a few minutes of undistracted attention can make a huge difference to a child’s emotional well-being. Focus on being fully present, rather than the amount of time. 4. **Each Child is Unique—One Size Doesn’t Fit All** There’s no single parenting style or strategy that works for every child. What works for one child might not work for another, even in the same family. Tailoring your approach based on each child’s needs, personality, and temperament is key to helping them thrive. 5. **You Can’t Pour from an Empty Cup** Self-care is not selfish. Taking care of your own mental, emotional, and physical health makes you a better parent. When you’re well-rested, calm, and happy, you’re more patient, understanding, and capable of handling the challenges of parenting. Would you like to add more 👇

Little Mirrors: How Our Children Reflect Our Inner Parts. Unlock the Transformative Power of Internal Family Systems (IFS) in Parenting Discover a Hopeful and Inspiring Path to More Empathetic and Effective Parenting July 3, 2024 Are you ready to transform your parenting journey? Delve into the depths of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and uncover how your child can become a mirror reflecting your inner world. In this short and compelling article, author and passionate IFS advocate Dr. Rivka Edery shares a personal anecdote about the transformative power of recognizing and embracing one's inner child, leading to a deeper connection with one's children. Through the lens of IFS, you will: Understand the concept of "parts": Learn how your inner child, protector, critic, and other parts influence your interactions with your child. Embrace the power of Self: Discover how operating from your essence – characterized by Calmness, Curiosity, Clarity, Compassion, Confidence, Courage, Creativity, and Connectedness – can create a secure base for your child. Recognize to heal your "exiled" parts: Identify and address the unseen and unheard parts of yourself, fostering compassionate patience and understanding in your parenting. Cultivate awareness of your internal landscape: Gain insights into how your child's behaviors may mirror your unresolved issues. Join us on this journey to create a more harmonious and nurturing environment for your child to thrive. You can read the full article now and unlock the transformative potential of IFS in your parenting journey. https://lnkd.in/eUK4k9dX

If you’re a parent, I’ve got an uncomfortable truth you need to hear: ❗You ARE going to fu*k up your kids ❗ As Philip Larkin said in his poem, This Be The Verse: “They fu*k you up, your mum and dad. They may not mean to, but they do. They fill you with the faults they had And add some extra, just for you. The reality is this: 💥We will fu*k up our kids because parenting does not come with a manual. 💥We will fu*k up our kids because the demands placed up on us by society, institutions, employers and our own families regularly exceed the resources we have available to meet those demands – and we’re bl**dy exhausted trying to meet them. 💥We will fu*k up our kids because we are not perfect. 💥We will fu*k up our kids because we are human. But here’s the good news: 👍Modern parents have a great deal more awareness of the ways in which we can support our children – and ourselves – than our predecessors did. AND 👍We have at our disposal two of the most important tools there are to support our own well-being, if only we can learn to access them. What are they? 1.       Acceptance, and 2.       Self-compassion When we feel guilt and shame in our parenting journey, it’s important to meet ourselves exactly where we are. Instead of ruminating on the past, fixating on the things we have done (or will do) wrong, we can consciously choose to start afresh in the current moment, acknowledging that: “I am where I am.” “I am doing my best.” “I am good enough.” So today, try asking yourself where you can bring more acceptance and self-compassion into your parenting journey. [Picture taken yesterday after a big “I’m fu*king up my child” moment – I don’t share my kids’ faces on social media, but I wish you could see the scathing look on my son’s face. It really was priceless]. P.S. If you want to learn more about the ways we are socially conditioned into our guilt in motherhood, and how we can break free from our conditioning and flourish in motherhood, work and life, check out the presale of my new book which ends THIS SUNDAY, 20TH October. Get your signed copy and exclusive author perks at https://lnkd.in/eFsw3vQD Comment GUILTFREE below and I’ll DM you the code to unlock a special final week discount. #maternalguilt #mumguilt #momguilt #challengeyourguilt #debutauthor #modernauthor #parenting #motherhood

My worst parenting fail As I reflect on my journey through parenthood, one lesson stands out with crystal clarity: the importance of self-regulation. During the tumultuous years of parenting tweens, I often found myself grappling with the challenge of controlling my own reactions. I wished I had had better self-regulation skills to navigate the myriad emotions that this stage of parenting brought. You see, the responses we give to our children during these years lay the foundation for how they will engage with us as they grow older. And raising tweens, well, it's an adventure unlike any other. As our children transition from childhood to adolescence, we, as parents, are also navigating uncharted territory. It's a phase filled with growth, exploration, and yes, challenges. It's easy to feel alone. To question our abilities. Harboring feelings of guilt for not being the perfect parent we envisioned ourselves to be. But here's the truth: Parenthood is messy. It's imperfect. And that's perfectly okay. If you are a mom out there who may be feeling overwhelmed, guilty, or alone, I want you to know that you're not alone. We're all in this together. It's okay to have moments of frustration, doubt, and yes, even anger. But it's how we respond to these emotions that truly matters. Learning to regulate our own reactions is not just a gift we give to ourselves, but also to our children. So, to all the moms navigating the tween and teen years, I offer this piece of advice: Be gentle with yourself. You're doing the best you can with the knowledge and resources you have. And that, my friend, is more than enough. Drop your best parenting advice in the comments below. Let's create a space filled with encouragement, empathy, and shared wisdom. Here's to embracing the challenges of parenting with grace, compassion, and a whole lot of love. You've got this. 💕

I remember going into parenting thinking,   𝘐’𝘮 𝘴𝘮𝘢𝘳𝘵, 𝘐’𝘮 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘦𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘵, 𝘐’𝘮 𝘢 𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘣𝘭𝘦𝘮 𝘴𝘰𝘭𝘷𝘦𝘳,   𝙄’𝙫𝙚 𝙜𝙤𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨!   Until I didn’t.   For most of us, parenting doesn’t unfold the way we expect.   We’re not sure what to do to support our kid.   We feel like we’re putting out fires rather than calmly feeling in control.   We start to feel like something is wrong with us.   And something is wrong with our kids.   That we need to fix them.   Compare and despair sets in.   We feel the judgment from other parents.   Their kids are doing well and making good choices.   All little reminders that things aren’t going smoothly for us.   And we feel like a failure.   Like we’re doing it wrong.   Listen.   Nothing is wrong with you, and nothing is wrong with your kid.   You just need a different way of understanding them.   And a different approach to talking to them.   Book a consultation at the link in the comments to learn about parent coaching.   You’ll feel seen, heard, and understood.   And you’ll finally have a clear picture of how to get to “I’ve got this.”   It’s a soothing and powerful experience, with no pressure to move forward.   And the best part is you’ll have no regrets. Click the link in the comments, and I'll talk to you soon. ---------------------- Hi! I’m Jeanine, a parenting coach for dedicated moms and dads who want to help their children thrive and deepen their connection. My 𝘽𝙚𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙧 𝙋𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 program is curated for you.

Have you ever noticed how some parenting advice seems to spark a bit of friction between generations? 🤔 It's not uncommon to hear phrases like, "We did it this way, and we turned out fine!" This is what we call survivor bias – the idea that past methods worked simply because we survived them. But here's the thing: just because we made it through doesn't always mean it was the best way. Every parent is doing what they think is right. And we've all seen it get ugly online real quick, and misinformation is supported. Is it coming from your family? Every generation does their best with the information they have at the time. Our parents and grandparents loved us and wanted the best for us, just like we do for our own children. Admitting that some past practices might not have been ideal can be tough, but it opens the door to understanding and growth. We can honor the efforts of those who came before us while embracing new knowledge and better practices for the future. Parenting isn't about perfection; it's about learning, evolving, and loving unconditionally. When someone comments on your evidence-based parenting choices, remember, it's often a reflection of their experiences and biases, not a critique of your decisions. As new parents, it’s challenging not to judge others because we truly are making choices that shape our child’s life. But embracing a supportive, non-judgmental approach helps us all grow together.

"𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝗻𝗹𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗺𝗮𝗻𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗺𝗮𝗻𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲." - Ashley Anjlien Kumar As parents, the journey of raising a child is one of constant change. Literally, from the moment they are born, children grow, evolve, and develop at a rapid pace—physically, mentally, and emotionally. What works today may not work tomorrow, and every stage of their life brings new challenges, growth, and milestones. On a spiritual level, parenting teaches us the beauty of letting go. We learn to release control over outcomes, surrendering to a flow that begs to be uncontrolled, making space for growth and change. Each moment—whether joyful or challenging—becomes a temporary experience that shapes both you and your child. There is a deep sense of courage needed to parent this way; trust and faith are required in this process. As someone who navigates C-PTSD, this is not easy. But it can be learned. Emotionally, the idea of impermanence reminds us to be present. The tender moments, difficult conversations, laughter, tantrums and tears are here only now, in the moment. Then this moment is gone, and the next moment comes. This impermanence invites us to fully engage with our children, appreciating who they are today while knowing that both they and we may be different tomorrow. Developmentally, impermanence is at the core of growth. Children’s brains and bodies are in a constant state of transformation, and so are we as parents - our body and mind aren't the exact same as yesterday - because different circumstances arise and different experiences come up; our cells are not the same age as they were yesterday, thus even our cells are not the exact same as the day before. We get to adapt alongside them, reshaping our parenting approach as they move through different life stages or emotional cycles. What worked yesterday to soothe them, may not work today. It's infuriating and beautiful at the same time. The hardest challenge we face is surrendering to all of this. Understanding the impermanent nature of parenting helps us stay flexible, open, curious and responsive to their ever-changing needs. #parenting #Parentcoach

Parenting Tips I Wish I Knew at 35 : ✅1. Prioritize Self-care It's essential to take care of yourself before taking care of others. You cannot pour from an empty cup. Take breaks, rest when you need it, eat well, exercise, and do things that make you happy.  ✅2. What Works for One Child may not Work for the Next One Our kids are all unique, and we need to train them in the way they should go — not the way their siblings should go. ✅3. Kids Grow Better with a Routine Children function better with a routine and schedule to govern their days. When left to themselves for too long, they quarrel, become bored, and get into trouble. ✅4. It's OKAY to let Your Kids Fail Let your kid fail occasionally so they figure out how to do it. And then successfully get back on track using their strength of will. ✅5. "Relationship is First, Above All" If they put up a wall, break it down. Push through it to get to their heart. Be their advocate and biggest fan—relationships first, above all. ✅6. Set Realistic Expectations Parenting is challenging, and there will be good days and bad days. Set realistic expectations for yourself and your children, and understand that no one is perfect. ✅7. Take One Day at a Time The pressures of being a mother can be overwhelming, but it's important to take things one day at a time. Focus on the present moment, and don't worry too much about the future. Remember, being a parent is a journey, and it's okay to make mistakes along the way. By prioritizing self-care, seeking support, and setting realistic expectations, you can better manage the pressures of parenthood and enjoy the roller coaster ride called Parenting. What else would you love to add to this List? Share in Comments please 👇 #ParentingCoach #parenting #anjuarora