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Parenting is a beautiful journey filled with ups and downs, and at its heart are the four essential pillars that can guide us: loving discipline, self-care, joy, and emotional regulation. Loving discipline isn't about strict rules but about setting boundaries with warmth and empathy, ensuring our children feel secure and understood. It’s that gentle but firm guidance that helps them learn and grow. Have you found ways to balance discipline with love in your home? Equally important is self-care because you can’t pour from an empty cup. Taking time for yourself isn't selfish; it’s necessary. Whether it’s a quiet cup of coffee in the morning or a walk in the park, nurturing your own well-being directly benefits your family. And let’s not forget joy! Creating happy moments, no matter how small, fosters a positive environment. Lastly, emotional regulation helps us and our children navigate life’s challenges with resilience and calm. How do you practice staying calm in the midst of parenting chaos? These pillars, when embraced, create a nurturing and loving foundation for your family. Illustration credit: Unknown

When your parenting to-do list is overwhelming and driving you to tears how about you create a “to-don’t” list? Your “to-don’t” list includes anything you’d like: ✔️ What’s draining your energy? ✔️ What do you hate doing?  ✔️ What shortcuts can you take? Don’t get me wrong - some things you are going to have to do, like it or not, like changing a nappy💩 - that’s just part of parenting. Finding a way to refuel your emotional tank and stay thankful for your parenting privilege is also important. What could you add to a “to-don’t” list and STILL  enjoy a calm home and be the best you can be? Well, how about starting with these… ✖️ Don’t stress over the undone housework, always place your relationships with your children above a task to be done. ✖️ Don’t fill every moment of your child's day with activities.  ✖️ Don't Solve Every Problem: Let children face challenges and solve their own problems. This builds resilience and problem-solving skills. ✖️ Don't Overreact to Mistakes: Avoid making a big deal out of every mistake. ✖️ Don't Ignore Your Own Needs: Parents need to take care of themselves to be able to care for their children. Don’t sacrifice your well-being for the sake of your kids. Share this post, you might be lending a hand to another tired and overwhelmed parent.

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BLOG POST - Family arguments are inevitable and a part of growing together. As much as we want to avoid them, they can be healthy if managed well. Frequent disagreements can indicate unresolved issues, leading to resentment and disconnection. It's essential to teach our children how to argue constructively, enabling them to express themselves, set boundaries, be assertive, and build resilience. How your family argues significantly influences your family's happiness levels. Understanding the differences between how unhappy and happy families argue can make a profound difference in your family's relationships and overall well-being. In this BLOG, I explore ten ways that happy and unhappy families argue, providing insights to help you foster strong, healthy, and happy relationships within your family. What are your experiences? https://lnkd.in/eShGGZ7C #ParentingTips #FamilyHarmony #RaisingKids #PositiveParenting #UKParents #HealthyArguments #FamilyCommunication #ChildBehavior #HappyFamilies #ParentingAdvice #BuildingResilience #ParentingSupport #FamilyWellbeing #MindfulParenting #ParentingJourney #positiveparenting

Sometimes I Need… Is a companion resource for Sometimes I Feel… and it’s stuffed full of excellent resources for helping children to understand and develop four key areas of EQ (emotional intelligence): 🔹Building self-esteem and confidence 🔹Self and co-regulation 🔹Working through worries and problem solving 🔹Mindfulness Designed to be used with Key Stage 1 children (aged 5 - 7), Sometimes I Need… contains everything needed to deliver at least a term’s worth of SEMH (Social Emotional Mental Health) groups as well as a whole host of quick interventions to help soothe a child in moments of chaos. Sceptical? Here’s what the children who’ve used it say: “It helped me be less angry with my brother.” “I enjoyed the colouring and the running” “My helping hand helps me remember who I can ask for help” “I like the breathing” “It helps me feel calm” We’ve watched it work in groups too - if you’ve never witnessed a group of small children spontaneously rally round their upset friend and guide them through the breathing exercises and grounding tools they’ve all learned together until they all feel better, you’re missing something incredible. As with all great projects, there are some great people behind it: Gary Nightingale Creative - the talent behind the artwork that brings it all to life. Shelley Wilson ✍️ - who very graciously allowed me to use her child-friendly meditations (she’s written a whole book of them and she might put the link in the comments if we’re lucky!) Donna Atkinson - who allowed us into her school to do this work and test out the resources. Tanya Slattery - the real brains behind JLTS Family Services who takes the words and pictures and makes them into books. And finally… Gemma McSweeney - who isn’t on LinkedIn but who goes week after week into schools to actually do the work with the children. Thank you all 🥰 Oh yeah, I suppose I should tell you all to buy it, shouldn’t I?! 🤷♀️🤣 It’s there, on Amazon. 👇 Keep your eyes peeled though for some cracking deals, bundles and offers soon to be available direct from our website! Happy Darn Saturday LinkedIn! 💙 https://lnkd.in/e3Ph5yyB

5 KEYS TO BUILDING A HEART #CONNECTION WITH YOUR #CHILD The power of love parents have for their children is a force unmatched. Parents, we have a built in capacity to love and shape the lives we have been entrusted with. We may have the best intentions when they are born to love them to the best of our ability, but unless we spend time cultivating what we value, our best intentions will fall short. PARENT'S PRIORITY IS CULTIVATING A HEART CONNECTION. During the teenage or young adult years, when the kite is flying high, it is important the string of the kite (connection) is in good condition to keep it grounded to the source--you. If the string has been frayed and damaged over the years, it will be difficult to keep the kite connected. We must develop good parenting habits to ensure the storms of life will not disconnect us from our children. 1. I WILL BE A SAFE PLACE BY REMAINING CALM AND GENTLE. When your child is doing things that might be frustrating, from spilled milk to common struggles with chores or homework, it is important to remain calm. In doing so, you are sending the message that your child does not control your emotional state. This protects them and helps them to feel safe. 2. I WILL SEND MESSAGES OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. It is so important to discover what makes your child feel loved. It might be playing their favorite game, giving them specific words of encouragement, telling them what you love about them, or even doing a project like yard work together. Whatever it is, find the ways your child receives love the best, and send those messages of love regularly. Never let, “I love you” be a secret. 3. I WILL NOT REMOVE MY AFFECTION WHEN YOU MAKE A MISTAKE. When you feel angry at your child’s mistake, a first response is often to remove affection as a form of punishment. Loving connection is strengthened when you stand with your child in the middle of a “mess”, letting him know you'll help them “clean it up.” If your child feels your judgment and removal of affection instead of sympathy, they may become angry, making you the enemy. Help your child figure out how to resolve the problem, knowing you are a strong ally. 4. I WILL REGULARLY CHECK IN AND MEET YOUR SPECIFIC NEEDS. Everyone has an individualized set of needs that will change regularly. Your child needs to feel seen, accepted & loved in specific ways on a consistent basis. It might be a hug after falling down or talking through emotions after a tough day at school. It's important to ask questions & check in to know what those needs might be so you can meet them. 5. I WILL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR YOU. You can let your child know you can be counted on by being consistent in the relationship. Finding ways to share common joys and laughter will send the message you are happy to be around them, and will develop positive experiences together. Unconditional love is the greatest skill to master & we won’t be perfect at it.

𝗣𝗼𝗼𝗿 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 Parenting is one of the most challenging and rewarding things we do – but let’s be honest, it’s not always easy to get it right. Maybe you grew up in a household where love was conditional, emotions were ignored, or mistakes were met with anger instead of understanding. Those experiences often shape how we parent our own children, sometimes without us even realising it. But here’s the good news: it’s never too late to make a change. Reflecting on how you were parented, and how you want to parent, can open the door to a healthier, more connected family dynamic. And if you’re carrying pain from your own childhood, addressing those wounds can free you to be the parent you always wanted for yourself. You don’t have to do this alone. Whether you’re healing from the past or looking to make positive changes now, support is here for you. Book a free 30-minute session at www.themindmechanics.co.uk or call us on 01386 571 114.

I remember when being on leave meant worrying about how families would manage without my support (things could get really bad). That was back when I was the families’ driving and support system. You know ⬇️ 📣 Needing to be there and present for fear of things may go wrong - children being violent, teenager running away…. 📣 equally families also feeling anxious about my absence. Meanwhile: I can be anywhere in the world enjoying my holiday and yet 🥂Families are making progress with their teenagers on the daily basis ( getting them to school, managing aggressive behaviour, self harming…etc) 🥂Families know what to do when I am not around 🥂Families feel that they can relax (So can I) This is not some random luck. This is strategy. When I learn how to stop being the driving force & instead learn to create opportunities for parents to be the driving force for their family’s change using the Heal Family First Method. Families can continue to make change without me….. This is when You will know what it really feels like to feel free, to feel confident and to focus your energy on things that you know will work. This frees up a lot of your time and energy so that you can enjoy other aspects of your life, knowing your teenager’s behaviour is improving. This is the power of Heal Family First: Thriving Together Parenting Method. This is the only method that ⬇️ 🔥Stops troubled teenager behaviour and improves your family’s relationships in weeks (not years) The good news?⬇️ You can access the method in every part of my world. If you want to bring harmony back in your home in 90 days, let’s chat 😊

✨Dr. Magdalena Battles Shares Expertise on Parenting, Family Dynamics, + Faith✨ Here are some topics we discussed: 🔹"6 Hidden Behaviors that Destroy Families" and the importance of relying on the word of God for guidance to battle these behaviors. Emphasized the significance of recognizing these hidden behaviors in order to repair and restore family relationships. 🔹 3 time-saving tips for busy parents, including the importance of creating a family mission statement, letting go of perfection, and making use of calendars and to-do lists to stay organized. Also, provided insights on helping kids get ready for church and willingly attend while addressing their worries and fears. 🔹 Intrusive thoughts and scrupulosity in children, providing insights on how parents can help address and manage these behaviors to provide support and guidance for children struggling with religious fears and anxiety. 🔹 Practical strategies for nurturing faith and promoting healthy family dynamics. More at: https://lnkd.in/egBKd4ub

Parenting is a beautiful journey filled with ups and downs, and at its heart are the four essential pillars that can guide us: loving discipline, self-care, joy, and emotional regulation. Loving discipline isn't about strict rules but about setting boundaries with warmth and empathy, ensuring our children feel secure and understood. It’s that gentle but firm guidance that helps them learn and grow. Have you found ways to balance discipline with love in your home? Equally important is self-care because you can’t pour from an empty cup. Taking time for yourself isn't selfish; it’s necessary. Whether it’s a quiet cup of coffee in the morning or a walk in the park, nurturing your own well-being directly benefits your family. And let’s not forget joy! Creating happy moments, no matter how small, fosters a positive environment. Lastly, emotional regulation helps us and our children navigate life’s challenges with resilience and calm. How do you practice staying calm in the midst of parenting chaos? These pillars, when embraced, create a nurturing and loving foundation for your family.