Ruth Kent’s Post

Be curious not judgemental..

'Judgmentalism' is a mind-set and a heart-set —and when our rutters are set to sail in the 'no way' position, it's very destructive when we are poorly judged. At Newman-Millette Leadership we set sail to build each other up —sometimes we have to do it from scratch. That's the hardest position I know; 'clean slate'. So I strive for better and I ask questions: What are we curious about today? Me: How can I leverage my skills and behaviours in overcoming boredom —which has a cure and it's called curiosity. There is a cure for a propensity to judge self and Others (as bad). There is no cure for curiosity.

be curious not judgemental

🌟 Inspired by Ted Lasso, I’m reminded of the power of curiosity over judgment. 💬 Pause before you speak. And think twice if it’s necessary to speak at all. When we approach conversations with curiosity, we open ourselves to others’ perspectives and truly listen. Instead of letting judgment take over, let’s make it a habit to first consider the other person’s frame of reference. Be curious, not judgmental. 🌱 How do you practice curiosity in your daily interactions? 👀✨ #Leadership #EmotionalIntelligence #PersonalGrowth #MindfulCommunication #GrowthMindset

Curiosity has been my compass at work. 🧭 It’s guided me to ask better questions, connect deeply with others, and discover innovative solutions. 🚀 I’ve learned so much from colleagues and mentors who champion this quality—it’s inspiring and has led to exciting opportunities to learn and grow. Here’s to staying curious and embracing what we can uncover together! 💡 #StayCurious #WorkplaceWisdom #LearningAndGrowth #EmpowerConnections #InnovationMindset

✨ As the Christmas lights twinkle and the year draws close, may your heart be filled with warmth, joy, and the season's magic. Let the sweet aroma of home-baked treats and the laughter of loved ones remind you of life’s simplest and greatest blessings. Wishing you a Merry Christmas wrapped in peace and love, and moments to cherish forever! 🎄 From our home to yours: Happy Holidays! #BuiltInTheHomeOfTheProdigies #MerryChristmas

💭 "Be curious, not judgmental." This quote has stuck with me because it’s such a simple yet powerful reminder. Imagine if we all approached conversations with genuine curiosity—asking questions and really listening to understand, not just waiting to reply. When we’re open and eager to learn, we gain so much more than if we just form quick opinions. 🌱 So next time you're in a conversation, try leaning in with curiosity. You might be surprised by the connections and insights that come your way! #StayCurious #GrowthMindset #ListeningToLearn

It starts with 'being curious'. I've always been curious, always will be. WHY... is my favourite way of life! Nothing I've done comes from the perspective of being an expert. "I'm still learning life!" And then it takes 'self awareness.' I learnt a whole lot about myself over the past few years, because I chose to take the time to do so. It wasn't easy, but I wouldn't be me today if I hadn't made the effort. Finally, being comfortable with 'the person in the mirror.' No, I didn't say 'happy,' I said 'comfortable.' On purpose. Meaning, whatever the situation may be, I am going to find ways to accept myself the way I am, positive or not. Because I've found that, in doing so, I can make a choice to be happy and if I'm happy with myself, I'm resultantly comfortable with those around me as well... aka... no judgement! Entrepreneurship, for instance, is better off as a no-judgement sphere of operation. I find it difficult to judge others on their choice of career and the will to pursue it. I mean, the serial killer, I will certainly take note of. But who am I to question their motive and resolve? 🔪 Why do I say this? In the process of understanding how I'd like to live the next 4 decades of my life, I've come across some pretty amazing opportunities that have captivated my mind and soul alike. I've executed in them with my whole self. At Ascend HyFi Labs, though I officially am an investor rooting from the sidelines, I've volunteered myself into a Strategic role as CSO, to make certain that the brand receives all the attention and promotion it deserves. This has been enlightening. I couldn't have prepared for any of these experiences elsewhere. I'm extremely happy to report that "I'm still learning life, unconditionally nonjudgemental and curious!" Connect and follow to be updated on #Ascend #HyFi #CoreBanking #Banking

I m very inspiring and I invite everyone to take time for self-reflection on our curiosity and questioning habits. It's a valuable practice to pause and consider whether we've been sufficiently inquisitive or if we've allowed assumptions and judgments to cloud our perspective. Curiosity is a powerful driver of learning, innovation, and personal growth. It's the spark that ignites our desire to explore, understand, and challenge the status quo1. By cultivating curiosity, we open ourselves to new experiences, ideas, and perspectives, which can lead to more fulfilling personal and professional lives. Let's explore this idea further.The Importance of Curiosity and start building a good habits.

1985, Clacton (UK)—on stage, under the spotlights. I was 15 years old, playing in the Super-league regional final. In the opening leg of my match against a world-class opponent (who’d faced Eric Bristow on TV!), I hit a 9-dart finish. The crowd roared. He answered back in the second leg—another 9-darter—and the room fell silent as I opened the third with a 180. I was on target for another perfect leg when my third dart bounced off the wire. He shot out, and I lost. But what an experience! One memory that lingers is of a Wednesday night pub match, where I beat a seasoned player. Instead of the customary handshake, he threw his darts into a small table, storming out and shouting that “kids shouldn’t be allowed to play in the &&**&^%$ game anyway.” Despite my teammates' reassurances, I felt out of place and guilty, a moment that stayed with me for years. Jade Bonacolta, your post brought this all back for me, and reminded me of a critical lesson: “How they judge has nothing to do with me.” This is a powerful insight, one that I can now explain psychologically and neurologically. As leaders, we often impose targets, define the criteria by which people will be judged, and then sit in judgment, mechanically, systematically, and yet we wonder why we fail to foster high-performance cultures that inspire our teams to support us. It’s worth remembering that judgment without genuine care breeds resistance, not excellence. I owe these memories to my older brother, John Bovis, who cared enough to include me in what was his hobby. It’s always about care and inclusion. For leaders, I urge you to reflect on the environments you create and the degree to which they embody judgment. Consider how this makes your people feel, and recognise the direct link between those feelings and performance. The answer, in a world where we must perform under pressure, is to develop your people so they build the self-awareness exemplified in this scene, to excel, even in the face of negative influences in their environment. Thanks again for sharing, Jade. Some neural wiring from decades past just fired up with a bit of glucose energy! Happy Saturday!