Recently I had an opportunity to catch up with my mentor & guide. Discussed many things and one among was, whether the leader should be liked or respected. I had written about this many years ago. Believe the question still remains relevant, and it touches on core aspects of leadership philosophy. There are valid arguments on both sides, but ultimately, I believe that being respected is more crucial for effective leadership than being liked. Here's my reasoning: Respect vs. Likeability: Respect is based on competence, integrity, and fair treatment. It's earned through actions and decisions. Likeability is more about personal charm and agreeableness. While valuable, it's often more superficial. Long-term effectiveness: Respected leaders can make tough decisions that may be unpopular in the short term but benefit the organization long-term. Leaders focused on being liked might avoid necessary conflicts or difficult choices to maintain popularity. Crisis management: In challenging times, people look to leaders they respect for guidance and stability. Mere likeability may not be enough to inspire confidence during crises. Team performance: Respect often leads to higher motivation and productivity. Team members work hard for leaders they admire. While a likeable environment is pleasant, it doesn't necessarily drive peak performance. Ethical leadership: Respected leaders are more likely to maintain ethical standards and hold others accountable. The desire to be liked could lead to compromising principles to avoid conflict. Professional boundaries: Respect helps maintain appropriate leader-team member boundaries. Overfocus on being liked might blur these lines, leading to favouritism or inconsistent treatment. That said, the ideal leader would cultivate both respect and a degree of likeability. Empathy, effective communication, and fairness can make a respected leader more approachable and effective. It's also worth noting that different organizational cultures and contexts might prioritize these qualities differently. In some collaborative, flat hierarchies, likeability might be more valued, while in more traditional structures, respect might be paramount. What's your perspective on this? Do you see situations where being liked might be more important for a leader?
Thought provoking sir...eventually, the respected leaders silently be liked by many in a long run
I like to be respected !!.
I agree to most of the points and my two cents are that till the time leader is unbiased and his actions are consistent under given circumstances he will be respected and his tough and difficult actions will be liked and accepted by the team members. In army as leaders we take many such decisions as leaders and lead the team into situations where everyone knows that their can be grave danger to their well being but they follow because they firstly trust the leaders professional excellence ( admire) as well as that he will lead from the front and all his decisions will lead to the achievement of the teams objective. Hence professional excellence, trust, consistent unbiased actions, empathetic approach, fair and just decisions. They automatically lead to respect for leader.