100% Responsibility

So let’s start by talking about what responsibility actually means.

Responsibility means that you do the things that you have agreed to do and accept the results of your actions.

So then what is self-responsibility? It is the state or fact of being responsible, answerable, or accountable for something within one's power, control, or management.

This is where is can get interesting. You see, I so often experience people not taking responsibility for themselves. In doing so, they feel powerless to so many things, often blaming external forces for their life situation, or a predicament they may be in.

This can be human nature to some degree, partly due to the way we have been brought up in society. But it can be easily changed.

When you realise that actually, you can be responsible for yourself, your actions, your choices, it gives a feeling of empowerment, relief and calmness.

Let me give you an example.

“My friend does not call me and I feel lonely and sad.”

Could it be that the friend not calling actually has nothing to do with the feelings, and that those very feelings were there anyway. The friend not calling just highlighted the issue and that you are falling into the victim mentality.

I work through taking responsibility with my clients to help them understand that they are 100% responsible for everything inside of them and how they are being, and their thoughts, beliefs and emotions all make up this inner state.

So much of this behaviour, action and reaction is subconscious, moulded through our childhood and life, or even past life. But life does not have to be something that happens to us, more something that WE shape and control.

When you are ready to heal, it is possible to get to the root of all of this to allow you to step out of feeling blocked or uncomfortable. You can learn that your reaction is the most important part.

It is so so powerful when you realise that you can actually face your past and the areas you are resisting being 100% responsible for. You can do this by learning how to live through heart.

In clinic, I often hear people say, “She made me feel that way.” I ask them if they could perhaps reframe that to, “When she said that, I felt this way inside of me.” Can you see the difference? When we are triggered, it creates a stirring in our unhealed self, giving us the experience that something is being done to us, but it isn’t.

I work on healing the source of these triggers so that they no longer result in you having a negative reaction, where you are able to freely be with the people and situations that used to be difficult for you.

Now that I have highlighted this to you, how often do you hear people complaining about one thing or another in a way that reflects that they do not feel 100% responsible for themselves? 

For example:

My boss never acknowledges all of the work I have done, so I never feel good enough.

Maybe you can now also relate to it in your own life?

Changing our perspective makes a massive difference to our quality of life and general well being. After all, to one person what seems controlling appears as supportive to another. Wouldn’t it be great to transform from the controlling interpretation to the supportive one?

I would love for you to share in the comments or privately with me any feelings you have on this.

When you experience a negative feeling, take a step back and reflect. Can you see why you may feel angry, or insecure (for example) and that it actually has nothing to do with the person or situation in front of you?

Please also understand that so much of this is buried in the subconscious. It can take guidance and healing to uncover the root causes and work on clearing them to give you a calmer, clearer and happier future.

Thank you for taking the time to read this and I really hope it has made a positive impact.