#150: From Fear to Connection: How Breaking Biases Can Open Doors to Success

Today is All Saints’ Day, a cherished holiday in Croatia, and here in Rijeka, the vibe is reflective as people honour loved ones and take a day off from the grind. Halloween isn’t big here, which I’ll admit feels refreshing—fewer masks, fewer distractions from what’s real.

The origins of All Saints’ Day go way back to ancient Rome, where Pope Boniface IV declared it a feast day on May 13 in 609 AD, dedicating the Pantheon to the Virgin Mary and all martyrs. Rome’s history with this tradition runs deep. Pope Gregory III later shifted the holiday to November 1 in the 8th century, when he dedicated a chapel in St. Peter’s Basilica to “all saints.” Eventually, Pope Gregory IV made it a Holy Day across the Church.

Speaking of Rome, it’s truly an incredible city—anyone who hasn’t should make it a priority! From its rich history to the artistry of every corner, Rome offers a connection to the past that’s simply inspiring. Walking those ancient streets, you get a sense of where so many of our traditions began. It’s hard not to be moved by the sheer scope of what this city has to offer.

And today, as we reflect on All Saints’ Day, we’re reminded of the power of tradition, history, and genuine connection. Let’s face it—fear and bias often keep us from experiencing the world fully. As Roosevelt once said, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” Fear can make us hesitant to connect with people, especially those we wouldn’t usually approach.

Now what about the huge dude with the tracksuit?

Take my recent experience after Jujitsu: I ran into a massive guy outside my building in Rijeka—well over two meters tall, shaved head, tracksuit. Not the sort of person I’d normally start a conversation with. But once we talked, I discovered he was warm, polite, and insightful, with fascinating stories of working on huge tankers with people from around the world. If I’d let appearances guide me, I’d have missed out on an unexpected connection.

Success in life isn’t just about what you achieve; it’s about who you become along the way. Every time you push past fear and break free of the biases that hold you back, you’re opening doors to new opportunities, new friendships, and new paths to greatness. Success favours the brave—the ones who reach out, who ask the questions, who challenge their own assumptions. It’s not the loudest or the boldest who find true success; it’s those who are unafraid to connect, to learn, and to grow. So, dare to do the unexpected, and watch as life rewards you in ways you never imagined.

“Change, I think, comes with positives and obviously negatives because we’re all scared. Everybody’s scared of change. It’s natural to be scared of change. But we’ve got to remember that enthusiasm and stress and worry are, two sides of the same coin.” Steven J. Manning

Listen to this discussion I had with Steven here.

So, here’s a challenge for All Saints’ Day—and every day—do one small thing that scares you. Say hello, start a chat, or go out of your way to connect with someone new. Breaking down fear and bias isn’t just about courage; it’s about growth, perspective, and building real human connections right in our own communities. And if you get the chance to visit Rome, don’t miss it—it’s the perfect place to expand your horizons!