2 Questions That Will Change Your Attitude

Have you noticed that sometimes you wake up in the morning feeling empty, drained and not wanting to get up and go to work?

Yet other mornings you wake up really looking forward to the day ahead? 

What makes the difference?

The future hasn’t yet happened, yet your focus is on what might or could occur, and that controls your mood, feelings and emotions. 

One of my influencers in life is Tony Robbins and I admire many of his teachings and ideas. One such concept is that of focus.

Focus is your centre of attention or activity and it can become your reality.

It’s selectively concentrating on one aspect of the environment while ignoring other things. 

Now Robbins takes this further and asserts that: 

• What you focus on controls your entire life.
• Everything in your life is controlled by focus.
• Whatever you focus on is going to become your experience. 

So, whatever it is you keep in your conscious awareness becomes your reality.

Ask yourself the question; if I’m feeling down and in the dumps, what am I focussing on? 

What controls what you focus on?

Well, it essentially comes down to the questions you ask yourself. 

Some people ask themselves:

• Why is this happening to me?
• Why do I get all the bad leads?
• What’s wrong with me?
• Why can’t I get the breaks? 

I’ve found that the questions you ask basically come down to what you value in life.

If you value success and accomplishment, then you will focus on those things and they will become your reality, because the questions you ask will revolve around how you can become more successful. 

If you focus on something that isn’t true, but is absolutely real to you, does it become true to you in that moment of time? Yes it does. 

You’ll remember those times when prospects rejected your product or your ideas, and because you focussed on that, it became your world and your whole body, soul and senses reacted to that as if it was reality.

So what you focus on actually controls how you feel, and it’s the quality of the questions you ask that control your focus. 

So your state of mind at any time is determined by the questions you ask yourself on a regular basis.

Those questions we mentioned earlier are negatively-focussed so, as your brain endeavours to answer every question you ask it, the answers you get aren’t very empowering. If you ask yourself ‘why is this happening to me?’ you probably get the answer ‘because you’re lazy, don’t prepare and expect the whole company to revolve around you!’

Boy, that’s going to make you feel pretty creative and inspired...not! 

So what questions do you ask yourself on a regular basis? What do you focus on above all else that drives you? 

Robbins talks about a ‘primary question’ that drives us forward.

This is a question, he purports, that we subconsciously ask of ourselves thousands of times a day, and consciously maybe dozens of times a day.

So if you choose your ‘primary question’ you can change your entire focus, your entire experience and the actual results you achieve. 

So, what is your primary question that you often ask during the day? It has to be one that inspires you, motivates you and creates some kind of forward momentum. Robbins’ question is:

‘How can I make this better?’ 

With that one question, Robbins is propelled towards a different reality because his brain is always on the lookout for improvements and progress. He never dwells on what’s gone wrong but asks instead:

‘What can I learn from this?’ 

You can experience something and then use that experience to determine what could be improved.

If the prospect says he doesn’t agree your services will improve his business, determine how you could ensure this point never comes up again in the future. How can you prove to future prospects that your services really WILL improve their bottom line.

Learn from every situation and you’ll ensure things don’t keep repeating themselves. 

Learn to pay attention to the quality of the questions you ask yourself on a regular basis.

Think about which questions cause you to seek answers and which questions put you down in the dumps.

That way, you will control your focus and start finding answers to the many situations you find yourself in daily.

Thanks again

Sean

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