4 Ways to Build Real Trust on a Virtual Team
I once interviewed author Stephen M.R. Covey for my leadership podcast. Our conversation focused on trust and the importance of high-trust teams. I invite you to consider how virtual work has impacted trust in your team.
- Do you trust your people?
- Do they trust you?
- Do they trust each other?
Here are four ways to build real trust in a virtual environment
1. The Virtual Work Environment is NOT an Excuse
In 1971, Albert Mehrabian published Silent Messages. The book implies that the message itself accounts for 7% of communication, while body language, intonation, etc. comprise 93% of the communication equation. People latch on to these numbers and use them to explain why virtual work relationships suffer.
Here are two reasons not to let these numbers trip you up.
First, many have challenged Mehrabian's work, the conclusions drawn, and the general applicability of his findings to situations beyond those covered in the study.
Second, whether nonverbal body language accounts for 25%, 50%, or 75% of the communication exchange, does not really matter. The bottom line is that to have a strong working relationship, you need to build trust.
As Stephen M.R. Covey explains, when trust is low everything takes longer and costs more.
Don't believe him?
Think about a person you have a low trust relationship and one with whom you have a high trust relationship.
What's the difference?
Whether your team is virtual or not, you can't afford to have a low trust environment. Start by considering your mindset. Embrace the mentality that a virtual work environment is NOT an excuse for low trust.
2. Trust Starts with You
Covey identifies five waves of trust. The first wave, Self Trust, begins with you. This is where you work to be a trustworthy person. It involves your integrity, intentions, behaviors, and results.
Gaining trust takes a bit of vulnerability. You have to put yourself out there and share your intentions. Doing so on the phone can be tough as you cannot see the reaction of others.
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The silence that sometimes follows a declaration of intent can be deafening but become comfortable with it. The other person may just be processing what you are saying.
Here are some situations and sample language to get you started:
- When you enter a difficult conversation, declare your intent. Say something like, "I know that we have some tough issues to talk through, but I want everyone to understand that my number one intention is to...."
- When you write a note to team members addressing a tough topic, declare your intent. Write something like, "An email is an imperfect tool. Since you can't see the person talking or hear his or her tone, things can come across as harsh or confusing. So, before I go any further, let me share my intention with you..."
- When you are launching a new team or trying to enhance an existing one, declare your intent. Say something like "I know that working virtually can be a challenge to building trust. Since we will connect via phone and email, which can be even less forgiving, I wanted you to know that my intent is to improve our relationship and ask that you help me to do so..."
I have found that many communication breakdowns stem from a lack of shared expectations. Getting expectations right, starts with declaring your intent AND allowing others to do the same.
BTW - if you want to know Covey's other waves of trust, they are: Relationship, Team/Organizational, Market, and Societal.
3. Behavior Matters
Covey documents 13 high trust behaviors; all of them can be accomplished or violated at a distance.
Here are a few of those behaviors and 'virtual' reality for each:
- You don't have to be in a room together to deliver results, clarify expectations, or practice accountability.
- Getting better doesn't require you to be co-located with your colleagues. It requires you to work hard, learn, share information, and encourage growth.
- Listening first can be accomplished on phone or in person. Someone can't see your head nodding in an email, but you can certainly restate what you believe your colleague said and ask her to confirm or correct.
4. Virtual Teams Must Be Deliberately Developed
Building an effective team takes time, energy, and attention. Many virtual teams fail to pay the price to grow as a team. Research suggests that 65% of remote employees have never had a team-building session.
Don't fall into this trap.
Forging deep relationships takes shared experiences. Look for ways to conduct team-building exercises, perform role plays, share information, and problem-solve virtually. Ensure that the team has shared goals and is playing together to win.
Make it a great day! Patrick
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3y“Vulnerability” is one I see many leaders struggle with and honestly one I struggled with for many years. Being vlunerable as a leader is often seen as “weak” but in reality it shows confidence and strength and is critical in building trust. Thanks so much for sharing.
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3yTotally agree with point 3: behaviour matters. As leaders and colleagues we can ‘seek first to understand, then be understood’. Listening really does matter as it shows we are interested in the views of others and value their perspective