Being honest about Imposter Syndrome...

Being honest about Imposter Syndrome...

... Or, the story of how I accidentally became a 'Property Consultant'.

A friend’s mum was struggling to make ends meet on a property she’d inherited and was trying to run as a holiday let. She asked if I could help and, of course, I agreed.

We went through everything: From the photos she used to advertise the property to the cost-per-scoop of laundry detergent.

Within the week, she’d got her first good night’s sleep all year. The cute little place was getting booked, and she could finally see the profit going into her account each month.

News spread. People reached out. Flagging businesses started flourishing.

But I still didn’t call myself a Property Consultant.

Why not?

Well, the work I was doing – going through the books, the advert, analysing the local market, researching customer profiles and trawling through guest feedback - felt quite natural to me.

Wouldn’t it be over-egging it a bit to call myself a ‘consultant’?

  • I don’t have any consultant qualifications
  • I haven’t done any ‘How to Be a Consultant’ courses.

"That’s the imposter syndrome speaking", a very wise person (you know who you are!) said to me. "Just because it seems obvious to you, doesn’t mean it’s easy for everyone. If it was, everyone would be doing it already".

In the Business World (and especially on social media platforms) it’s not the ‘done thing’ to admit to vulnerability, or moments when imposter syndrome limits you.

Hell, most of the time, it’s pretty difficult to admit to yourself that it’s happening.

But if me being honest about moments like this, moments when I’m not 100% confident, helps even one other person, then it’s worth being open about.

Because ignoring Imposter Syndrome, pretending it doesn’t exist and not acknowledging that everyone feels it at some point, can wreak havoc on your entrepreneurship.

It can make you question your decisions, shy away from opportunities, and worst of all, avoid putting yourself in rooms with potential partners, clients, and mentors.

That’s why, as a co-host of both Wealth Accelerator Circle ⭕️ and Property & Poppadoms networking events, my primary goal is to create an environment where everyone feels comfortable and valued.

Stepping into the room might still feel a little scary, but I want to assure you, at our networking events…

You Deserve to Be In The Room (Say It With Me!)

It doesn’t matter if you’re on the Times Rich List, or just starting out in business, your presence and perspective is valuable. And in case your Imposter Syndrome is particularly loud, I want you to remember that…

  1. Everyone Starts Somewhere: Remember that every successful entrepreneur was once a beginner. They attended their first networking event with just as many nerves and doubts as you might be feeling. No one expects you to have all the answers right away.
  2. Diversity Drives Innovation: Your unique experiences and insights contribute to the richness of our discussions. Entrepreneurship thrives on diverse ideas and perspectives, and everyone brings something special to the table.
  3. We’re a Supportive Community: Our networking events are designed to foster a supportive and collaborative environment. Whether you have a burning question, a new idea, or a success story to share, there’s always someone ready to listen and offer encouragement.

Everyone has been The Imposter (and, most likely, there are people you admire feeling that way right now).

My Advice?

  1. Get Involved: Don’t be afraid to put your hand up and join the conversation. Ask questions, share your thoughts, and don’t hesitate to introduce yourself to new people. Remember, everyone is there to connect and learn from one another.
  2. Be Genuine: It’s scary to admit that I sometimes have Imposter Syndrome, but I make better connections when I’m open and honest. Remember, authenticity is your best asset. Share your journey, including your challenges and successes. Realness resonates.
  3. Set Goals: What do you want to achieve by networking? Set yourself a challenge for the event - Aim to have meaningful conversations with at least three new people, or connect with that person you admire. If you set yourself a goal, you’re less likely to feel lost on the day.


Next time you’re at one of our events, remember: you are welcome, you are valued, and you absolutely belong here.

Together, we can create a thriving community where everyone has the opportunity to grow, learn, and succeed.

And if you’ve been itching to take on more responsibility at our networking events, or want to get involved more, this is the sign you’ve been waiting for!

Reach out, put your hand up, join in, and let’s make our next events even bigger & better!

Tickets are available for the next Property & Poppadoms event on the 4th July. Looking forward to seeing all my fellow 'imposters' there!

Dean

Amy Cotterill

Career realignment & imposter syndrome specialist | Career coaching for individuals & employee development for organisations – achieve purpose, clarity, and real, measurable outcomes.

6mo

Well done for posting this Dean Boland 👏 Imposter Syndrome can make us feel so isolated and like no one else is having these feelings. When in fact most of us do! It likes to tell us it's just us because that's how it can keep it's power, but as soon as we start talking about it more and realise these are common feelings, we can start to take back control and say to it "thanks, but not today."

Angela Kirwin

Author & Copywriter, Business Growth Consultant, English Language Coach & Trainer.

6mo

Relevant across all sectors. One of the greatest things I’ve learned from working with high flying professors, CEOs and entrepreneurs, is that pretty much everyone feels this way. It’s been pretty refreshing to learn that those big, important people I look up to feel this way, too. I suppose the thing is, if you have a growth mindset and always want to learn and be better, you have to put yourself into rooms where you’re not the cleverest person. You have to push your comfort zone and be willing to be a beginner, every single day 😀

This is brilliant advice Dean. I have an online network meeting this morning and it’s my first ‘real’ one online. Your words of wisdom couldn’t have come at a better time! We’re all starting somewhere and we all have something to offer. Love your back story by the way … destiny! 🧡🧡

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