Beyond Recovery Month: Embracing the Lifelong Journey of Healing and Growth

Introduction:

As September draws to a close, so does Recovery Month 2024. But for those of us walking the path of recovery - and for the families and communities supporting us - we know that recovery doesn't end when the calendar flips to October. It's a lifelong journey filled with challenges, triumphs, and profound personal growth.

I've been on this journey for over 37 years now, getting sober at the young age of 21. In my three decades working in behavioral health, I've seen firsthand how addiction touches not just individuals but entire families and communities. It doesn't discriminate - affecting people from all walks of life, all cultures, all backgrounds.

Today, I want to discuss why recovery matters every day of the year. We'll explore the many faces of addiction, bust some common myths, and examine the vital role the community plays in sustaining long-term recovery. Most importantly, we'll discuss how we can carry the spirit of Recovery Month forward, creating a society where seeking help is met with support, not stigma.

Whether you're recovering, supporting a loved one, or want to understand this critical issue better, this conversation is for you. When it comes to recovery, every voice, every story, and every day counts.

The Spectrum of Substance Use Disorders[1]

When most people think of addiction, their minds might jump to drugs or alcohol. While these substances are undoubtedly prevalent, the reality is far more complex and wide-ranging.  Often, when someone hears this term, they think of a relative or neighbor who is always under the influence of something and maybe abusive or always in trouble. So, part of the recovery month's mission is to help change that mindset.

In my years working with Florida Recovery Schools and in private practice, I've encountered SUD in many forms. Yes, there are substance misuse disorders - alcohol, opioids, cocaine, methamphetamine, etc. - but there's also a world of behavioral disorders that often fly under the radar.

Process disorders may include food addiction, gambling disorder, sex addiction, Internet addiction, social media addiction, video game addiction, shopping addiction, and other behaviors that are marked by poor impulse control. - these process disorders[2]can be just as destructive as substance abuse, tearing apart families and derailing lives. And let's not forget food addictions, which often intersect with mental health issues like depression and anxiety.

What ties all these addictions together? At their core, they're often attempts to cope with underlying pain, trauma, or mental health challenges. I've seen this, especially in our work with adolescents and in Hispanic communities, where cultural stigma and lack of resources can make it harder to address these root causes.

The good news is that recovery is possible for all types of addictions. The path might look different for a teen struggling with gaming addiction compared to an adult battling alcoholism. Still, the principles of healing, support, and personal growth apply. One of the surprising things to many is that a teen struggling to break being tethered to a screen and a 35-year-old misusing pain medication are engaged in the same fight.  This can be confusing, but it helps to realize that substance misuse or process disorders are not behavioral problems. They are a complex, multifaceted health issue.

Understanding this spectrum is crucial because it helps us recognize addiction in all its forms and respond with compassion rather than judgment. It reminds us that behind every addiction is a human being worthy of understanding and support. As we move forward in our discussion of recovery, keep in mind this diversity of experiences. Because no matter what form addiction takes, the journey of recovery is one of hope, resilience, and profound personal transformation.

Debunking Recovery Myths

In my decades of work in behavioral health, I've encountered numerous myths that can hinder people from seeking help or supporting those in need. Let's tackle some of these misconceptions head-on:

Myth 1: Addiction is a choice or a moral failing

Reality: Addiction is a complex disorder influenced by genetic, environmental, and developmental factors. It's not about willpower or character. 

Myth 2: You have to hit "rock bottom" before you can recover

Reality: Recovery can begin at any point. Early intervention often leads to better outcomes and prevents unnecessary suffering.  Can you imagine a doctor telling a person with cancer or diabetes this? I will only help you when you are ready to get help, and you are destitute. Of course not.

Myth 3: Relapse means failure

Reality: Recovery is a journey, and relapse can be part of the process. It's an opportunity to learn and strengthen one's recovery plan. I tell my clients and our students that relapse is letting you know something needs to change. When I go to my heart doctor and he notices that my BP is not where he wants it, he doesn't accuse me of wrongdoing, call me a failure, or tell me to come back when I am ready. He says we need to adjust our meds, diet, or something else.  But never once has my doctor ridiculed me for "failing" with my heart disease.

Myth 4: Adolescents don't have substance use disorders or Process Disorders

Reality: This is a dangerous misconception. Young people absolutely can and do struggle with addiction. Adolescence is a critical period when many substance use and behavioral disorders first emerge. Ignoring or dismissing these issues in teens can lead to missed early intervention and support opportunities. It's crucial to be aware of this and ready to provide the necessary support.

In my work with Florida Recovery Schools, I've seen firsthand how this myth keeps parents from seeking crucial help for their children. Recognizing that these disorders don't have an age limit is vital. By acknowledging that adolescents can indeed struggle with these disorders, we open the door to earlier treatment, better support systems, and, ultimately, better outcomes.

I have families that I see that would rather their child have a mental illness than a "drug problem."  Helping them understand that the child may have both, but for sure, if they do not treat the entire problem, then the chances of the teen being successful in their recovery will be hindered. The other problem is that it leads to under reporting the issue.

This is problematic because funding is tied to needs backed up by data: no problem, no data, no need, no budget. Often, these two scenarios are addressed when there is a crisis, usually after something terrible happens. Again, Recovery Month can begin to make the idea of having a behavioral health challenge something to address, not dismiss or ignore.

Myth 5: Addiction only affects the individual using substances. The person with the disorder often believes this.

Reality: Addiction affects families, friends, and entire communities. Recovery, too, is strengthened by community support.  If you ask a parent, spouse, or child if the person's use impacts them, you will get an obvious and usually detailed response about how this affects them.  Attend a DUI impact panel, or go to the courthouse on the first appearance day and listen to the charges of DUI, Possession, Petty crime, Car theft, etc. Chances are these crimes are because of substance use.

Myth 6: There's only one right way to recover

Reality: Recovery paths are as diverse as the individuals walking them. What works for one person may only work for some.  This has led to the concept of “Multiple Pathways”, which has generated much heat in the past couple of years. Every 10 or 15 years, the recovery community and those around it question what recovery means and how we get there. These beneficial discussions often open new "pathways" for people to find help and long-term recovery. In recent years, what has changed this has been the opiate crisis and how it has caused a resurgence in the harm reduction discussion. I will not get into this now, but if you want to read an excellent book that was seen as the first authentic cataloged look at this pathway, I will direct you to "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts" by Gabor Mate (North Atlantic Books; Illustrated edition (January 5, 2010))

Busting these myths is crucial because they often create barriers to seeking help. They can fuel stigma, prevent early intervention, and discourage people from reaching out when they need support the most.

By spreading accurate information and fostering understanding, we can create an environment where people feel empowered to seek help, support their loved ones, and contribute to a community that nurtures recovery.

Remember, knowledge is power in recovery. The more we understand about addiction and the recovery process, the better equipped we are to support ourselves and others on this lifelong journey.

By addressing these misconceptions, we can foster greater understanding and support for those dealing with addiction, paving the way for effective interventions and recovery approaches.

Personal Story

Typically, I try to leave myself as a person out of these articles mainly because I don't know that it has a place in them. But being in his recovery month, it's a good idea to share some of my backstory. Many individuals have documented much of it and made its way into different corners of the Internet, which is OK. If it helps someone else along their journey, I am certainly glad for it. So, discussing my personal story means I must be somewhat mindful of what I share.  Then, just let you decide what you think about it, if anything at all.

So, I began using alcohol and nicotine at a very early age, probably between the summer of 5th and 6th grade. I would morph over the next couple of years, going through the medicine cabinet and looking for things that would change how I felt. I began using more nicotine and began stealing alcohol from my father, who kept a small amount of beer in the house. By the time I was an early teenager, 13 or 14 years old, I was using other substances, and drinking became more of a part of my activities and was very much a part of my social life. I started getting in trouble with the law when I was 16. This carried on through high school, and I almost did not graduate as a result of my substance use.  It became a daily activity.

Once I graduated, I went into the United States Navy. About a year into my tour, they decided that my drinking had to go, or I needed to go. So, they allowed me to join the recovery community. That allowed me to begin my recovery journey at the ripe old age of 20 years old.  Now, I firmly believe that God got me sober and off of all the other stuff, not so much for me but for those that I would be able to affect.

Many people don't find recovery until they're much older. When I came around at 20 years old, the recovery community in Jacksonville, FL, saw me as somewhat of an anomaly. They weren't exactly sure what to do with me. But when other “kids” would come in, they would say, “Hey, send them to Dan.” Dan knows what to do with those” kids”—he was a kid when he came in.

And that's how it began. At the age of 23, I met a young man named Buck(not his real name),  I began working with him and I've been working with teens ever since. That led to working with young people from many places and walks of life. Allowed me and others to begin the young people's recovery community in Jacksonville in the late 80s. Ultimately, this points me toward starting the recovery school in Jacksonville 10 years ago. So, I did not get sober necessarily for me and what it would do for me. I think I got sober more so I could be in a place where God could use me to help other young people.

So, HE and I have a deal. I will continue to do that as long as I'm breathing and they will listen to me once either stops - I guess I'll try to find something else to do.

The Role of Community in Sustaining Recovery

Recovery doesn't happen in isolation. It thrives in a supportive community beyond traditional treatment centers or support groups. The opposite of Addiction is not Sobriety but Connection.  In my years of experience, I've seen how many community institutions can play crucial roles in sustaining long-term recovery.

Recreational Institutions:

Organizations like the YMCA offer more than just a place to exercise. They provide structured activities, positive social interactions, and a sense of belonging - vital to a healthy, substance-free lifestyle. These spaces can be safe havens where individuals in recovery can rebuild their physical health and form new, supportive relationships.

Schools:

Educational institutions are on the front lines of both prevention and support. From elementary to high school and beyond, educators can spot early warning signs, provide crucial information about substance use, and create an environment that promotes mental health. Recovery high schools, like the one we've established in Florida, offer specialized support for students navigating their education and recovery journey.

Law Enforcement:

While traditionally seen as enforcers, many law enforcement agencies are shifting towards a more supportive role in addressing addiction. Programs like LEAD (Law Enforcement Assisted Diversion) help direct individuals with substance use disorders toward treatment rather than incarceration. Building positive relationships between law enforcement and the recovery community can help reduce stigma and increase access to help.

Faith Communities:

Churches, synagogues, mosques, and other faith-based organizations often serve as pillars of recovery. They can offer spiritual guidance, community connections, and practical assistance. Many run recovery support groups or partner with existing programs to provide meeting spaces and resources.

Local Businesses:

Recovery-friendly workplaces can make a significant difference. Businesses that offer employee assistance programs and create supportive work environments that contribute to their employees' ongoing health and the community's overall well-being. They also do not have questions on applications that ask about a person's substance use and recovery status.  Apartments and lenders that “drop the Box” do not have a question about a person's substance use or their recovery status.

Healthcare Systems:

From primary care physicians to mental health professionals, our healthcare system plays a crucial role in identifying, treating, and supporting individuals in recovery. Integrated care models that address both physical and mental health are particularly effective. When we stopped being "one of them," the world became a much better place for those afflicted with this condition.

Grassroots Organizations:

Never underestimate the power of local, community-driven initiatives. Recovery community organizations, peer support groups, and advocacy groups often fill crucial gaps in service and provide the day-to-day support that can make all the difference.  In Jacksonville, we have Rebel Recovery and the Harm Reduction Collective.

By viewing recovery through this broader community lens, we create a network of support that can catch people when they stumble and propel them forward in their journey. It's about creating a culture of recovery where seeking help is normalized, multiple pathways to recovery are respected, and everyone has a role to play in supporting those on this lifelong journey.

Remember, building this kind of supportive community takes little time. It requires ongoing effort, education, and collaboration. But the rewards - lives rebuilt, families reunited, communities strengthened - are immeasurable.

Resources for Continued Support

Before we dive into specific resources, it's crucial to have a working definition of what recovery means. Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) defines recovery:

"A process of change through which individuals improve their health and wellness, live a self-directed life, and strive to reach their full potential."

This holistic definition reminds us that recovery encompasses abstinence from substances, well-being, and personal growth. With this in mind, let's explore the resources available for various groups:

For Individuals in Recovery:

1. SAMHSA's National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)

2. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA): www.aa.org

3. Narcotics Anonymous (NA): www.na.org

4. SMART RecRecoveryww.smartrecovery.org

5. In The Rooms (online recovery meetings): www.intherooms.com

For Families:

1. Al-Anon Family Groups: www.al-anon.org

2. Nar-Anon Family Groups: www.nar-anon.org

3. National Association for Children of Addiction (NACoA): www.nacoa.org

4. Partnership to End Addiction: www.drugfree.org

For Adolescents:

1. Association of Recovery Schools: www.recoveryschools.org

2. Young People in Recovery: www.youngpeopleinrecovery.org

3. Teen Challenge: www.teenchallengeusa.org

For College Students:

1. Association of Recovery in Higher Education: www.collegiaterecovery.org

2. Transforming Youth Recovery: www.transformingyouthrecovery.org

For Professionals:

1. International Doctors in Alcoholics Anonymous (IDAA): www.idaa.org

2. Lawyers Concerned for Lawyers: www.lclpa.org (example from Pennsylvania, similar organizations exist in other states)

3. Nurses in Recovery: www.nursesinrecovery.org

4. Intervention Project for Nurses (IPN)

5. Professional Recovery Network (PRN)

Additional Resources:

1. National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA): www.drugabuse.gov

2. Faces & Voices of Recovery: www.facesandvoicesofrecovery.org

3. Recovery Research Institute: www.recoveryanswers.org

Professional Help:

While peer support and community resources are invaluable, seeking professional help is also essential.

This can include:

1. Addiction counselors

2. Therapists specializing in substance use disorders

3. Psychiatrists

4. Primary care physicians

Remember, reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Whether you're just starting your recovery journey or you've been on this path for years, support is always available.

Call to Action: Carrying the Spirit of Recovery Month Forward

As Recovery Month draws to a close, our commitment to supporting recovery and those in it should not be. Here are ways you can make a difference year-round:

1. Educate Yourself: Continue learning about addiction and recovery. The more you know, the more you can help.

2. Share Your Story: If you're in recovery, consider sharing your journey. Your experience could inspire others to seek help.

3. Support Recovery-Friendly Policies: Advocate for policies that treat addiction as a health issue and support long-term recovery. Volunteer: Many recovery organizations need volunteers. Your time and skills can make a real difference.

5. Be a Compassionate Listener: If someone confides in you about their struggles with addiction, listen without judgment.

6. Promote Prevention: Support youth education programs about substance use and mental health.

7. Spread Awareness: Use social media to share recovery resources and challenge stigma.

8. Support Recovery-Friendly Workplaces: Encourage your workplace to implement policies that support employees in recovery

Recovery is not just a personal journey—it's a community effort. As we've explored throughout this post, addiction touches all of us, directly or indirectly. But so does every person who embarks on the path of recovery and creates a positive change that extends to their families, friends, and communities.

Just to remind you, recovery is possible. It's happening every day in every community. By understanding addiction, supporting those in recovery, and working to break down stigma, we all play a part in building a society that fosters healing and growth.

Whether you're in recovery, supporting a loved one, or simply wanting to be part of the solution, your efforts matter. Let's carry the spirit of Recovery Month forward every day of the year. Let's create a world where we celebrate, support, and make recovery accessible to everyone seeking it.

The journey of recovery is lifelong, but so is the opportunity to make a difference. We can build communities of hope, healing, and lasting change.

[1]The use of the term substance use disorder for those reading and unaware of its meaning. It is a term used clinically because the term addiction is charged with lots of misconceptions and stigma. So, we do not use it as a term in the clinical environment.

[2] Process addiction, or behavioral addiction as it's also called, refers to compulsive behaviors that an individual engages in and continues to do despite harmful consequences. Process addictions are like substance addictions in that the individual is unable to stop or cut down on the behavior even though adverse outcomes are occurring. It is unlike a substance addiction in that the desirable high from dopamine and other hormones is not from drugs or alcohol but from the behavior. Engaging in the behaviors produces an emotional 'high' that drives the individual to keep repeating the behavior.

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