Boomers time to shift your focus to your Second Act!!!!

Retirement Lifestyle Coach help retirees to Shift their focus from what they did to their Second Act!!!!

Baby Boomers reaching Retirement Age will transition from their Life Long Careers, take a Senior Sabbatical and visit with their spouse or significant other several Bucket List places of interest. Upon the completion of this Senior Sabbatical or Later-in-Life Honeymoon said Baby Boomers then enter a period of trying to stay connected to the people from their old life. 

And then the trouble starts with lowered self-esteem due to a loss of a positive self-image without your former Corporate or work badge of identity. Your work pals now don't include you like before as out of sight out of mind. You feel betrayed and abandoned. 

You get to the point and you feel this deep tug, a pull that says, “I’m not done! I’m just getting warmed up and despite being of traditional retirement age, I can work circles around people years younger than me.” Resentment and anger set in. Long term relationships end. 

Your relationship with your spouse changes as you are home infringing on their territory. They value that time at home alone to get their things done or just enjoy the calm and freedom of not having you at home. 50% of retiree spouses get a job outside the home. 

Finally out of frustration your spouse calls a meeting and says, “I can’t keep going out to lunch with you every day. You are retired not me. Find someone else to lunch with. I’ve got things to do”. Even your life partner has a direction and does not want you to be part of it. You begin to feel alone and ostracized. 15% of retirees end up with domestic abuse problems. 

Things start to spin out of control. You sit in your home office staring at the wall and your spouse chides you to stop feeling sorry for yourself and go out and find something else to do rather than sulk. Finally your spouse drives you out of the house because you are tired of the constant bickering. 45% of retirement marriages end in divorce or worse two people living together but being alone. 

So you go out to lunch each day and find solace with the day bartender at your favorite out of the way bar and grill. Soon that bartender becomes your best buddy. As he pours you drinks you spill your guts. You come home from lunch tired, cranky and not in the mood to be communicative. Your spouse complains about your mood and your bad breath. 25% of all retirees have alcohol or substance abuse problems. 

One day at lunch a person of the opposite sex starts to pay extra attention to you. You buy them some drinks, you decide to move on to a different place. They tell you how much they admire you and like you. Soon this person listens attentively to your tales of woe. You feel a warm and caring tenderness from them but all they really want is your purse. Then unexpectedly it happens. Your oldest daughter walks into the bar and sees you with your new friend. Instantly feelings of shame, resentment and the awareness that your fantasy life bubble has been burst. 35% of retirees report a negative change in their relationship with one or more of their adult children.     

These are the real life problems that many retirees experience. It changes everything to the negative in terms of who you are, what you do with your time, who you start hanging around with and finally what you become. Surviving retirement takes work. What many who try to endure this change without a guide fail to understand is this next phase of their life is starting life all over again. Sure some of your past comes with you but most of it stays where you left it. Voids occur. You need to fill them with new positive things that’s where a Retirement Lifestyle Coach comes in. 85% of retiree’s report they wished they had engaged with a Retirement Coach a year before they actually left their workplace and retired. 

Your "Second Act" will be a rebirth of who you are, what you do, how you do it and with whom you do it with. It will be a Legacy Transformation that will be exciting, challenging and at times scary but in the end very rewarding and fulfilling. The choice is yours either try and hold onto the past and be frustrated or embrace your "Legacy Transition Plan" and discover a whole new life full of new challenges, new friends and most importantly what you want to do. Safe journey!!