Challenge DIRECTLY, care DEEPLY: How to Give Feedback at Work in 2024

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In 2024 Zopa Bank set out to strengthen its feedback culture at work. In this short piece I explain how we're going about it.

With end-of-year reviews and 2024 calibrations in full swing, knowledge workers operating in teams are called to give and receive feedback from and to their colleagues, peers, and (even harder)... their bosses.

The process if often intimidating and challenging. So I hear you ask, is there a "template" to help guide the feedback process? Is there a "secret sauce" to manage a strong feedback session?

Introducing Radical Candor

There are many styles of management philosophies out there, one of the most popular ones being Kim Scott's Radical Candor https://lnkd.in/eWPriHes

How to apply this in practice

Here is a summary of my thinking so far, largely based on Kim Scott's Radical Candor:

• The purpose of feedback is to help your colleagues correct course so they can succeed.
• Leaders must seek feedback and also provide it. It is also important to encourage employees to ask for it (it goes both ways: upwards and downwards feedback)
• What is often defined as a "culture of feedback" is based on a willingness to disagree respectfully, this often helps produce better quality results
• Radical Candor is one of the many frameworks for giving and receiving feedback that is clear and precise, while being rooted in empathy for the recipient
• There are four quadrants to Radical Candor: 1) Ruinous Empathy, 2) Manipulative Insincerity, 3) Obnoxious Aggression, and...you've guessed it: 4) Radical Candor

• In Ruinous Empathy (top left) I fundamentally care about you and your work however I'm afraid you will get offended with my feedback, as a result I don't challenge you. For example, I say: "Your strategy paper is overall good quality"; when I really mean: "Your strategy paper sucks and you should do something to improve it".This often results in Ignorance, and yields no change.
• In Manipulative Insincerity (bottom left) I don't really care about you, in addition I also don't want to challenge you. For example, I say: "Your strategy paper is great"; when I really mean: "Your strategy paper is horrible and everybody knows it, but I can't be bothered to invest time and energy to have this conversation".This often results in Mistrust, and yields no change.
• In Obnoxious Aggression (bottom right) I challenge you aggressively (often this feels like an attack) but without really caring where you're coming from.For example, I say: "This strategy paper is disappointing. As matter of fact, I think it's a piece of junk and you should start everything from scratch; when I really mean: "This strategy paper does not meet my quality standards, you should give it another go".This often results in Defensiveness, and yields little change.
• Lastly, in Radical Candor (top right) I care personally about you and your work, and I'm also open to challenging you directly.For example, I say: "This strategy paper goes in the right direction but it's not there yet. I know you're good at strategy papers so let's discuss together how to get it right".

The idea is to stay on the top right quadrant by Challenging DIRECTLY and caring DEEPLY while anchoring the process in the 6 principles of the HIP framework:

1 / Be Humble

Humility means that you remain open to being wrong. Stay hungry, stay foolish. Be curious without being arrogant. You can’t Care Personally or Challenge Directly if you’re not humble. If you fundamentally think that you're superior, you will struggle to "care personally". If you're not open to reciprocal challenge, you will struggle to "challenge directly".

2 / Be Helpful

Find a way to be as clear as possible and to offer that clarity generously. Remember, you don't have a lot of time, and you don't have all the answers. You're not perfect and that's fine.

3 / Give Feedback Immediately

When you give feedback immediately you save yourself the burden of remembering to do it later, you also give the person a chance to improve on the go (instantly). Ideally it's impromptu and not process driven, think of a quick walk to the coffee machine Vs a half hour meeting. It has to feel natural and not choreographed. By doing it often and doing it on the go you normalise feedback.

4 / Give Feedback In Person

You don't really know if the other person understood what you were saying if you can’t see their reaction. When talking in person, you can make adjustments based on their body language and emotions. Move towards the “Challenge Directly” axis if they don't understand, or move towards the “Care Personally” axis if they are upset. Calibrating this mix in real time is your secret sauce to effective feedback delivery.

5 / Praise in Public, Criticise in Private

A top tip for effective communication is to deliver criticism privately and to praise publicly. Criticising publicly tends to trigger defensive reactions whereas praising publicly makes people more open or willing to open up, and to digest your feedback.

6 / Make Your Feedback About the Work, not the Person

Make your feedback about the work the person has done, rather than about the person. Same applies to any difficult discussion involving effective communication such as arguments at home or with your partner. Don't criticise the person ("you always do that"), focus on the specific behaviour instead ("in last week's meeting you said X").

Whatever your leadership style I hope the Radical Candor framework helps you communicate effectively and transparently with your teams, enabling high performance in your organisation. Tweak it or tailor it to your culture, your team, and your needs until it feels right.

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