Change Is a Simple Concept, Yet So Exceedingly Hard

One guarantee in life is that change will happen. It can be external or internal. Simply put, modern life is volatile. Humans have long been evolvers, surviving based on being able to change.

If change is natural, why is it still so hard? The pushback against it occurs because we’re comfortable. The philosophy of change is a topic of discussion in my book The In-Between: Life in the Micro.

I tell stories about my successes and failures when it comes to change. These experiences may empower you to embrace it rather than fear it.

Things I’ve Learned About and From Change

As a preview of the anecdotes and analysis of change moments in my life, here are some things I’ve learned:

My core values have changed based on experiences.

You may think that “core” signifies these are constant and unwavering. However, how could they not evolve based on what happens? I once believed that core values were ridiculous, comparing them to what corporations publish to the world.

Now, I know they are instrumental within a team and self. I created new ones to describe my own company and wanted them to be meaningful. They included things that are part of my individual values, such as thinking flexibly to solve problems and grow beyond my comfort zone.

Obsessing over the macro was something I had to change.

The macro represents the big goals and moments in life. Everything else is the micro. I once cared only about the macro. I set and achieved my objectives and had little patience for anything outside of this. Eventually, I realized that dynamism and independence weren’t really serving me. They were hurting me and my relationships.

In my book, I tell stories about the downside of the macro and how I changed my mindset to embrace the micro.

Changing yourself will also impact your relationships.

The new dynamic in your relationships can be positive or negative. You may be able to connect with others more easily. You accept their feedback and give them your attention. They’ll know how much you value them.

On the other hand, some relationships might crumble. These are ones that are toxic in some way. Maybe they are as single-minded as you were.

You’ll need to reflect and take stock of these as you change.

Life changes quickly.

The ups and downs of life are inevitable. Interactions and moments can turn everything upside down. One of the best ways to navigate this is to open yourself up to the micro. If you allow this, then what doesn’t change is your attitude and intentions. Scenarios will have less power over you.

Being adaptable is a great human trait. You’ll find you can be more so in the in-between. Staying true to your core values allows for change that’s less disruptive.

Take a Step Toward Change

You can’t change without committing to it and wanting it. No amount of pressure from yourself or others will drive this. My book has some great guidance, which could be the starting point you need.