Change Your Self-Image in Seven Steps
Colin Thompson
Managing Partner Cavendish/Author/International Speaker/Mentor/Partner
I share with you some of the techniques we worked on together in order for Sheryl to start reconnecting with herself again:
1. Who are you?
Take some time to write down who you are at the moment. Highlight your qualities, your values and recognise anything that you see as negative about yourself.
It might be that your negative beliefs about yourself only harvest up in certain situations. If this is the case, understand why you feel more negative about yourself at these times.
2. Understand why you have to Change!
Recognising how powerful your negative beliefs about yourself have been so far in your life may be a bit depressing to begin with, but note down how much these limiting beliefs have held you back so far. Do not dwell on them, just recognise them and decide not to let this happen again - yes you can do this - just try!
3. Create a new self-image.
Re-define who you want to be. Keep all of the good qualities that you noted down in response to the `Who are you? ` question but take the negatives you have about yourself and turn them around into positive statements about yourself instead. Read this redefinition back to yourself every day for the next two weeks until you start behaving like this person and making decisions based on this new completely positive person.
4. Positive role models.
Find inspirational people and see how they behave. How do they talk about their lives? It`s more productive to admire and pick up qualities in people and add them to your own repertoire rather than comparing yourself negatively to people. Negative comparison is not constructive and makes you feel bad about yourself.
5. Visualisation
While you are getting used to your new self-image start to visualise yourself as the new you. How will you deal with certain people and situations? Rehearse the new you and then actually behave as that person in real time situations.
6. Do not put yourself down!
Observe how you talk about yourself. Do not use sentences like “I have never been any good at..." or “it only worked because I got lucky." By putting yourself down in front of others, you are basically telling them that you do not value yourself so they should`t either. If you find that you talk negatively about yourself then redefine your external dialogue. Replace negative talk with strong positive statements about yourself. By your positive actions you will feel better and then great! The world is your oyster.
7. Make yourself feel good, no great!
Once you have worked on your inner confidence, do not undermine this by not dressing for success. Wear things that make you feel confident. Also, spend time on yourself. Go to the hairdressers, gym, go for massages and eat the right food. Our body is an engine that needs to the right ingredients to operate on full power! Sounds simple, but most of us just do not do it, but we all can, if we try. Looking after yourself tells you that you have respect for yourself.
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Did these techniques work? Absolutely! Sheryl sent me this testimonial not long after we worked together. “I did not think I could really change how I saw myself. I had resigned myself to feeling unattractive to my job and life in general forever. I can now clearly see that I am an amazing person with a lot to offer."
Yes, you can achieve all things in life by your attitude to be positive, you have the solution in you, so go forward and use it now!
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