Clean Speech Illinois Volume 1: Week 23 - The Truth about Bud

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In the previous lesson, we began to discuss situations that would require us to say something which would otherwise be forbidden as lashon hara. 

Let’s use the following scenario for illustration.

Imagine that you work as a salesperson at a ski shop. One day, you see another employee, we’ll call him Bud, take a stack of twenty dollar bills from the register and put them in his pocket. 

Oy vey! You think to yourself: Bud just stole some money from the ski shop!

Before you say anything to anyone, you realize that there is a lot at stake here—for you, for the ski shop, and for Bud. If you say something that you shouldn’t, you could cause real problems at work and spread lashon hara. If you don’t say something that you should, you could be participating in a terrible perversion of justice.

What should you do?

First of all, when dealing with people’s lives, it’s always a good idea to get some expert advice. When it comes to lashon hara, ask a Rabbi who knows this area of Jewish law. Don’t know one? Call the lashon hara hotline at (718) 951-3696 between 9:00 pm and 10:30 pm EST. Really!

For educational purposes, let’s go through the case.

There are seven questions we have to ask ourselves before we say something hurtful or harmful about someone. Today we’ll discuss the first of the seven questions.

1. Is it true? Do you know that Bud stole the money? In this case, you saw Bud take the bills out of the cash register. So yes, you know it happened.

On the other hand, let’s say that you were in the employee lounge at the time and didn’t see anything. Your coworker Sam came running in to tell you that he saw Bud take the money out of the cash register. (Sam has obviously not been studying the Clean Speech Illinois course). Since there is no constructive purpose for Sam to tell you this negative thing about Bud, it’s lashon hara, and you should not believe it. And since you don’t know if it's true, in that case you should not say anything. 

Stay tuned for questions two through seven, which we’ll cover in the coming days.

Daily To-Do:  As a daily exercise, check yourself today, and make sure you’re saying things that you genuinely know to be true, and not what you’ve only heard from other people.