The Core Files: The Journey, Small Steps & How We Get It Wrong

There is a scene in the movie "Mr. Mom" that leaves me in a fit of laughter every time I watch it. (No it's not the one with the rogue vacuum cleaner.) It unfolds as Micheal Keaton enters the car drop-off line at school in the wrong direction. With cars horns blaring at him in irritation and his children telling him of his error — he continues as he see fit. That is until the drop-off coordinator at the school's entrance motions him to open the window, where she succinctly, yet sweetly, informs him "You're doing it wrong".

To become competent in any role, there are tasks that we will undoubtedly find befuddling. Befuddling in the sense that not only do you find them surprisingly difficult to master, but may also find them relentlessly annoying. On more than one occasion, I've entertained a grumbling inner voice that spits and swears, as I realize that I'm wed to a task (the way that it is) for better or worse. Moreover, I do not have the option to choose if the task can be avoided.

In the end, there are simply rules to be followed & tasks to be learned.

It is just the way things are. Darn it.

You may have met one of these tasks as you were learning how to fulfill a specific type of project or client-facing matter. A task that you never really expected. You might understand the importance of competing that task (and completing it competently). None the less, you are resentful.

On a basic level, these tasks not only need to be mastered — they must be managed. When I chose to pursue painting, there were a number of tasks that were foundational to that practice that I still find challenging. Yet, to fulfill the role of artist, they are necessary.

If I review how I've approached these tasks keeping core stability in mind — it is easy to see that I was likely doing it all wrong. To master them requires a refreshed mindset. One that takes more into consideration than the time & trouble involved in their completion.

How to get through it:

• Manage Your Energy. Our work lives are not only driven by time and tasks — they are based upon energy. (See the HBR take on this construct here.) Tasks such as these can drain you faster than you might anticipate. As a result, pacing yourself exasperation-wise will be vital. Devote a set amount of time that is long enough to make progress, but just shy of the point that you might walk away and never return. Avoid marathon sessions. This will only feed the demons.
• Expect the "Supporting Players". There are tasks that are vital to support the "stars" of any practice or profession. (For example, job analysis is the bane of every I/O Psychologist.) Necessary, for good outcomes, but may never be fulfilling. Understand this is common-place. For all of us.
• Try to Look Ahead. Attempt to quell any angst, with the knowledge that this step will likely be a really good thing long-term. This may not prove true in every single instance — yet there is a likelihood that in the future you will be glad (even grateful) that you mastered the task and saw things through.

What is your "small step" story? I know other subscribers would love to hear it.

Dr. Marla Gottschalk is an Industrial/Organizational Psychologist who focuses on bringing core stability to our work lives. She is a charter member of the LinkedIn Top Voice Program. Her thoughts on work & life have appeared in various outlets including the Harvard Business Review, The Muse, Brit & Co, Talent Zoo, Forbes, Quartz and The Huffington Post