The Cousin Rivalry

The Battle We Never Chose Once upon a time, we failed. Not just you. Not just me. We both failed, spectacularly and repeatedly. But it wasn’t the kind of failure that left visible scars or caused a ripple in the world. This was a quiet kind of failure—one born of trying to be anyone but ourselves. A failure fueled by a competition we never signed up for.

The Rivalry That Wasn’t Real You, dear cousin, were my mirror and my rival. Growing up, I tried so hard to outshine you, believing that my brightness depended on dimming your light. Meanwhile, you pushed yourself to outperform me, silently bearing the weight of expectations placed on both of our shoulders. Our parents unknowingly fanned these flames, drawing comparisons like lines in the sand: grades, achievements, manners, appearances. It was as if life was a game, and only one of us could emerge victorious.

The Moment It All Changed But the truth is, we were never meant to compete. Our destinies were not intertwined in opposition but in harmony. One day, I looked at you and realized something profound: I could never be a better version of you. Why? Because you were already the best version of yourself. How could I compete with that? It wasn’t a bitter epiphany; it was freeing.

An Unexpected Revelation And just as that realization sank in, you came to me. You told me how proud you were of me, how amazed you were by my journey, my resilience. You said you couldn’t imagine how I’d done it. For a moment, I thought I misheard you. But then I saw it in your eyes—a genuine admiration that dissolved years of silent rivalry.

Breaking the Cycle That’s when the light bulb went off: our fight wasn’t with each other; it was with a system that pit us against one another. A competition we never agreed to. A comparison neither of us needed. From that moment, we made a pact: I would be the best me, and you would be the best you. And in that, we would both win.

A Lesson for Everyone This isn’t just a story about us. It’s a story about breaking cycles—those insidious habits of comparing and competing that society drills into us from childhood. It’s about rejecting the idea that there is a singular mold for greatness. It’s about recognizing that we shine brightest when we are our authentic selves.

Redefining Success Winning and failing, we learned, are not opposites. They are two sides of the same coin, flipping endlessly in this game of life. Failure is not our enemy; it’s our teacher. Winning is not our destination; it’s a byproduct of embracing our truth.

A Call to Action So to anyone reading this: stop looking at others as yardsticks for your worth. Be inspired, yes. Be motivated, absolutely. But do not compare. Compete only with yourself, the version of you that existed yesterday. And respect not just yourself but everyone you encounter—because their journey is just as valid, their struggles just as real, their triumphs just as sweet.

To My Forever Rival and Friend Dear cousin, I love you forever. Thank you for teaching me that winning is not about being better than someone else; it’s about being the best version of yourself. And when we both live by that truth, we both win.

The Journey Continues So here’s to winning, failing, and trying again. To being you. To being me. To the endless journey of self-love and mutual respect.

Thanks for reading,

William Rochelle, but you can call me Bill

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