Resilience - mind over matter

How you respond in the face of stressful and difficult situations is what defines resilience.

Here are five strategies that will strengthen your resilience, improve your mental conditioning, and allow you to thrive in the face of setbacks at work, home or in your personal life.

1)  Develop a growth mindset

If you have a growth mindset, you will believe that you can make changes. You believe that if you put in the time and effort, you can achieve the level of intelligence, creativity, or success that you desire.

Carol Dweck, a world-renowned psychologist encapsulates why a growth mindset is pivotal:

“The passion for stretching yourself and sticking to it, even (or especially) when it’s not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset. This is the mindset that allows people to thrive during some of the most challenging time in their lives.”

To be resilient, you must live with a growth mindset and you must be prepared to step outside your comfort zone.

Instead of placing preconceived limitations on yourself, realise your potential and take action approach challenges as opportunities to not only learn, but improve.

Likewise, to practice resilience, you will not be discouraged by rejection — you will embrace it.

In order to change your mindset, start by changing your definition of failure. View it as a learning experience and growth opportunity. When you approach new challenges with this perspective, you gain control.

2)  Know what you can control and let go of what you can’t control

Understand that it’s useless to fixate on what is beyond your control, such as past mistakes and failures. Realise that dwelling in the past steals from the potential of the future; it essentially creates a negative balance for your future self.

Can you change the past? NO

You do have the power to change the future. In most cases, this means you must take full responsibility for what you do have control over: your actions and your attitude. If you’re in a difficult situation, identify what you can actually do to change it.

However, it’s also important to recognize when your actions are limited. Regardless of the constraints, it is usually best to accept a situation for what it is and then focus your efforts on doing what you can to make it better.

Sometimes this simply means maintaining a positive mindset, which has greater influence than it appears. Realise that you always have a choice — the ultimate one being how you react to a situation.

By making the best of it, you develop an internal base of control. This shift in thinking causes a ripple effect, creating momentum and it will breed more success, positivity and further benefits.

3)  Visualise a future (filled with success)

Resilience is about accepting your losses but also preparing for the next win. One way to accomplish this is to simply imagine it.

It’s an undeniable fact that your brain is an incredibly powerful tool. According to recent scientific studies, your brain finds it difficult to easily distinguish between a mental image and actual reality. What this means is that the visualisation and vision you create in your head has the power to shift your attitude, belief, confidence, and positivity away from what you are experiencing in real life.

Grief and negativity is natural. For ups, there are also downs. But you have more power than you know over these peaks and troughs.

Use this to your advantage and visualize a future in which you achieve what you set out to, land that job, develop and design that innovation, maximise those relationships, deliver key value, attain true success, develop truly, and change the world.

Visualisation — a technique that’s employed by some of the world’s greatest entrepreneurs and athletes — enables anyone to imagine a future filled with success.

Employ visualisation techniques to help you get back up and try again. By clearly seeing yourself succeeding, you lift any mental roadblocks and reduce the odds of rejection.

Imagine the outcome you want to achieve. How did it go? What did you do? Use your imagination to create the scene in your head — the more details you can envision, the better. By visualising your desired outcome, you not only trick your brain into believing it’s possible (or perhaps that it’s already happened), but you also gain the motivation needed to pursue your wildest goals.

4)  Surround yourself with resilient people

According to the late entrepreneur Jim Rohn, “you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” In other words, who you spend your time with, shapes who you are.

While changing your mindset and visualizing success can help strengthen your resilience in sales, surrounding yourself with the right people is also important.

The more you surround yourself with people who are driven to succeed despite any odds stacked against them, the more you’ll find yourself inspired by their drive and ability to keep moving forward.

Resilient people surround themselves with other resilient people for a reason: It keeps them from accepting failure as the end. That said, do not be afraid to ask for help when you need it – this is very important. By reaching out to others for courage, inspiration, or even a different perspective on the situation, you can find yourself ready to try again.

5)   Remember your true value and be kind to yourself

When you fail, it will hurt. It is normal to feel a blow to your self-confidence and worth when you miss your mark entirely or fail miserably. However, resilience is about knowing that how you respond to failure matters more than the failure itself.

When you’re resilient, you’re able to understand that it’s not a permanent reflection of who you are as a person, but rather an opportunity for learning and growth.

It’s important to remember your strengths during difficult or stressful times:

What do others say you’re really good at?

Imagine everything you have achieved and be generous with your self-praise to pick yourself up.

By reminding yourself of the value you bring, it cranks your confidence up a notch and makes it easier to keep moving forward. Be kind to yourself, everyone has value, not everyone has the ability to recognise it.

Remembering your value can also be a helpful exercise in identifying areas that need improvement. Be kind to yourself, but also be honest; by recognizing the shortcomings of your current self, you have the power to take action to create more value for your future self.

SO embrace rejection as sound practice to increase your resilience!

Rejection is an inevitable fact of life. Everyone gets rejected - even the greatest get rejected! Sports and Fashion brands Adidas and Converse rejected Michael Jordan when he wanted them to endorse his new brand of trainers. Blockbuster rejected Netflix when they had the opportunity to acquire them. Did this rejection define their value? Not at all.

Rejection is not a definition of worth. Rejection is merely someone failing to identify and appreciate worth. Therefore, think of rejection not as your own failure, but theirs.

So, it’s not a case of ‘don’t take no for an answer'; it’s about accepting no for an answer but not letting it stop you from keeping moving forward.

By exercising your resilience, changing how you respond to rejection, you’ll find the road will be paved with greater opportunities.

Remember, failure defeats losers but inspires winners. So be inspired!

Let me know if you think I have missed any strategies you employ to practice resilience and I would love to hear what works for you...

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